Have you ever been misunderstood?

Philippines
July 23, 2009 3:59pm CST
We live in a society therefore we need to socialize.. But there are people who are called loners and prefers to be alone than mingle with the crowd.. For example in my case, I am the type of person who does not enter a room and say hi to everybody. I may even look indifferent not because i don't like other people but because it is just me. . I believe we have different personalities and we should respect each other for that. I have been like this since my primary days and i only know that they feel uncomfortable with me when we are attending honestly groups or camps in our school. it hurts really. it is not good to be misunderstood,misinterpreted or misjudged. i also have a few close friends. and i select them carefully.. and i keep them. How about you? Any experience you had when dealing with people?
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11 responses
krayzietam
@krayzietam (832)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I understand what you are saying exactly. I am the same way sometimes. I do have times when I like to be sociable but only with the people I am close to because that is who I can open up around. I do not think that you have to talk to everyone to be considered a nice person. I have been misunderstood plenty of times by people who do not know me well and they may think that I am mean or always quiet. When these people get to know me, they always say that they thought I was so and so but now they have changed their minds. I guess it is always good not to judge a person until you have gotten to know them.
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AddieY
@AddieY (67)
• United States
24 Jul 09
I think there have been many times in my life where I have been misunderstood. Just because you talk a lot doesnt mean that people will receive you well either. I was never really the loner type but always the one who would go in a room, speak to everyone, very outgoing and do just about whatever seemed fun. But in turn, people still always misjudged and misunderstood me, saying that I tried too hard or that I was insecure of myself.... all kinds of stuff thta was not true. As I have gotten older though, I have come to realize that I dont care what ANYONE thinks of me, if the understand me or not. I dont need anyones approval, amd neither do you!
prashanthalva
@prashanthalva (2272)
• India
24 Jul 09
To put it in Simple Words NoBody UNDERSTANDS Anybody .. The Person Who Understands Himself Also Doesn't really Understand Himself .. That IS the Problem With this World Of Too Many Wise Men And Women ...
prashanthalva
@prashanthalva (2272)
• India
24 Jul 09
To put it in Simple Words NoBody UNDERSTANDS Anybody O .. The Person Who Understands Himself Also Doesn't really Understand Himself .. That IS the Problem With this World Of Too Many Wise Men And Women .. Thank You ..
starlight70
@starlight70 (316)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 09
I think it is difficult when we live in a society where we have to face others. I know my friends. Some are just not a morning person. So, I have to let them be, until they are really ready to talk to people. I have other friends who prefer to keep to themselves. I agree with you that others judge. But then again, we are breathing same air as them, and we have to face them, right? Either we should not be bothered to be judged, or be one with the group.
pk5622
@pk5622 (11)
• China
24 Jul 09
your review is so good ,thanks for sharing.but i thinks that making friends is the really important,let your friends know that you are sincere,then your friendship will be long.
kiran8
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
24 Jul 09
Hi Narcy, Welcome to mylot We all are different , and, as long as you are clear about your intentions nothing need matter. In life we can never please peole, so as long as you are happy with some people and they are happy with your behavior it really does not matter . I have been misunderstood scores of time, and, sometimes I have tried to correct, but most of the times don't bother since it does not really help , because if a person is bent on misunderstanding you no matter what you say he/she will not listen to you- so don't bother be happy and enjoy mylotting here with all of us , all the best
jules67
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
We are in the same shoes. I am not the type who socialize by attending parties here and there. So many times, I have been tagged as anti-social, or indifferent. Call me whatever they may think. But this is me. As far as I am concerned, I have not hurt anyone and if people misunderstood me, I do not see it as my problem.
bingchen
@bingchen (1119)
• China
24 Jul 09
i have this experience about it,i feel very greievant at that moment and could not accept somebody who do it,but if i found that somebody can not be willing to hear my explaination at that moment, what i said something is not useful,i must keep silence and let him say,finally he calmed down and let him to think about something have happened and knowed the process of this thing, i think that he do musunderstand me.give hime some time to think about,i believe that this thing can deal with it well.
dex1007
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 09
Misunderstanding is in the nature of humans. The latest one i heard is about the muslim pregnant lady being killed in germany for wearing a scarf. Misunderstandings. Its sad really, why we can't accept others just the way they are. you being a person who need your space should not be an issue. And small things can lead to bigger. you'd think with so many educated people now, there wouldn't be such things anymore. All i can say Narcyza is don't let others bring you down, do what you want. and enjoy it.
lacroix707
@lacroix707 (70)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
I often feel like Iam, only because I do tend to stick out like a sore thumb and you know how some people get when they see something they dont understand.. Lost my train of thought.. Okay, I do feel like Iam misunderstood but most of the time it could be because I really am not projecting myself to the world as clearly as I wouldve desired. :-)