Do You Bring Personal Problems At Work??
By rberon1985
@rberon1985 (5359)
Philippines
July 24, 2009 4:26am CST
Problems cannot be avoided. It is already part of our life. A person can be considered as an abnormal person if he/she is not suffering from any problems. but the question is, how do we handle problems?If the problem happens at home, do you retain the problem at home or you get to bring it even at your work? 
Can you control yourself not to show your feelings or your problems to your officemate or to the others? With my experience, there is one time that I was really in a bad mood because of the problem that I have encountered at home.I was really hard headed that time.
Someone in the office throw me a joke that everybody in the office. Without thinking on what to say, I was able to shout to that person that tends to everyone to be surprise. Because they know that I am jolly person. But after a while I apologize to that person. What about you? what is your opinion about this? Can you share your experiences.
Can you control yourself not to show your feelings or your problems to your officemate or to the others? With my experience, there is one time that I was really in a bad mood because of the problem that I have encountered at home.I was really hard headed that time.Someone in the office throw me a joke that everybody in the office. Without thinking on what to say, I was able to shout to that person that tends to everyone to be surprise. Because they know that I am jolly person. But after a while I apologize to that person. What about you? what is your opinion about this? Can you share your experiences.6 people like this
41 responses
@SuzyLong (775)
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24 Jul 09
I have people at work that I think of as close friends so I talk to them about what's going on in my life which means I can get what ever is bugging me off my chest. I don't tell everyone what's going on though, there is only 2 people that I tell everything to at work and they tell me stuff as well. Usually, if I'm in a really bad mood and don't want to talk about it, everyone at work knows to just leave me alone until I've calmed down.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
it is good to hear that there is someone that you can get to share your problems with your colleagues or with your friends. Just be careful because when you been enemy, he / she will share your secrets to other people.
@kukaisiton (702)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
like you im a jolly person too,. but i dont blame you for shouting, everyone has a breaking point. i have never shouted at work just bec of a personal problem but only bec i have not been pushed towards my breaking point. you are totally excused. there was one time that i did cry. my coworkers tried to soothe me which only aggravated my feelings, but since i nver told them what my real problem was, they just sympathized and left me alone. personal problems affect my work too. im probably less effiient or something. but when i meet my friends from work, somehow my sadness dissipates a little bit. dont forget to find time alone, . all people have to sort out their problems.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
I really don't know why i did that. maybe because I really can't move on with my problem. I'm so glad that after all I have did to her, she still get to understands me. They say that jolly person are emotional. Do you believe in that? I believe in it?thanks for sharing.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
A good attitude of yours because you were able to manage yourself. but there are some times that you can't control yourself especially if it is really painful.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
As much as possible, I do not bring personal problems at work and I do not bring work problems at home. If we are affected by personal problems and we bring it at work, there is always a possibility that our work output will be affected. This also goes the other way around. This is the reason why, I leave it where they are supposed to be.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
You are definitely right.Once you are affected at your work, it will be hard for you to concentrate and will lead for the termination of you from the job.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
24 Jul 09
i'm usually easy going, but rub me up the wrong way and you can get your head bitten off about it. i would rather be left alone if i'm in a mood but my work mate pesters me till i either tell him, or he says something that makes me be even more grumpy, then he just annoys me with something. but we can have some laughs at the same time about things, that are going on.
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
24 Jul 09
I ususally don't bring personal probelms to work. My policy is to leave work problems at office and personal problem at home. But, if I get a chance or free time to talk my personal problems to my collegues who are my good friends, I will go for that. I used to have a colleague who is my best friend who helped me out of many of my personal problems.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
It's good to hear that there is someone who is listening to your problem. I also get to share my problem with a close friend of mine. She tells me on what to do and not do. She is really a good adviser. thanks for sharing!
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
24 Jul 09
Personal problems are of course an integral part of our life and even if we don’t want, we tend to get influenced by them at office. Nowadays I try to control myself and maintain a composed nature even if I am constantly thinking of my problems at home but previously it was much worse. I distinctly remember once, my son’s final exams were going on and as is usual for children, he would not put in enough effort. So there was a lot of problems at home regarding this and I was very upset and worried…I carried these worries to office and constantly pondered over them so much that I made a huge mistake in my work and my boss was so upset that I almost lost my job that day. Of course I could not tell him the real reasons but since then, I always try not to let my personal problems affect my professional life.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
Sad to hear from you. I know you can move on and leave the problems at home.I was also like you. I can see myself in you. But after that, I have realized that bringing my personal problems at work will not be a help in my job but another problem. thanks for sharing and have a great day!
@Elixiress (3878)
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24 Jul 09
I don't think you can really avoid bringing your problems to work just as you cannot avoid taking work problems home with you. They are your problem and you are the same person at work or at home. If I have a problem then I will probably keep myself more to myself at work and not be as cheerful. I will also get annnoyed quicker at annoying customers than I usually would. But I wouldn't say having problems effects my work, because for the most part I can distract myself from the problem by working.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
It is good to hear if you an really manage personal problems even you are at work. But for me, that is depending on the level of your problems.If it really heavy, it is really very hard to manage.keep mylotting.
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 09
Hi Rberon, I try hard to separate personal and working lives. If not, personal emotions and problems can affect my decisions and work; moreover it is not fair to take it out on my colleagues. Sometimes I try to push the problem aside, and just concentrate on work. Maybe by the end of the day, I might feel and think better, about solving the problem or issue.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
It is nice to hear from you that you get to manage all your problems.Maybe with me, I will try to move on,I also need to separate problems from home to office. Thanks for sharing. have a great day!
@jedijo (33)
• United States
24 Jul 09
Like so many others responding, I, too, think personal problems should not be shared at work. As a supervisor, I will not share my personal life with anyone. In every place of business, there always seems to be at least one person who uses their personal problems to gain sympathy from workmates to make their jobs easier. Their logic seems to be that if I have personal problems, they won't expect me to work to my full potential. This works for a while but in most cases the coworkers become resentful and look at this person in another light. No, it is best to keep your personal problems to yourself.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
I think if you are in the supervisory position, you are right you should not share your personal problems to the office. Just take a look what will happen to your dignity. Sometimes level or position in the company affects id you are really going to disclose your problem or not.
@bingchen (1119)
• China
24 Jul 09
i think that the best way i dont bring personal problems at work.you know what you do like this and often effect your work and effect your mood,what did you that it is good for you,if i have two hearts,i can select to bring personal problems at work,in fact,i can only pay attention to my work,the work is very important,we often incarnate our owned value through our works and we work because we must make a living,if we do the work very bad,i think your boss can select intellegent man to do it,why dont we do like that?
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
You are right, we should really separate problems that we encounter at home from work. there will be another problem that will happen if we are going to continue it. just like loosing your job.
@adinukala (67)
• India
24 Jul 09
No, I have never brought any problems encountered at homt to work. It is my belief that we should never mix home and office. Once we do that, then we lose control over ourselves and won't be able to enjoy the little pleasures that life brings alongwith it.
Hence, even though I might be under some stress due to some issues at home ,I compartmentalize them in my mind and forget about them during the office hours.
I know that there might be times that one might be under extreme duress and snap, but as far as possible that should be avoidable.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
Good to hear that you know how to handle your problems and you can control yourself. With me, if I am already pissed off, I really can't control myself. That is why, I am doing my best not be so emotional.
@sadlily (2)
• United States
31 Jul 09
Hello,
I was just reading all of your interesting comments. I just get terminated for two days from work today and I can't stop crying because I have been working with this company for almost 9 years now and I am a very dedicated and hard working employee. I have been harassed by my bipolar sister at work by sending me some nasty emails and postcards and that affected my job so bad. Please is anyone can give me an advise or explain to me if my employer will fire me because of this situation that I am dealing with right now. Thank you.
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
I work at home so that means that I get to mix work with home responsibilities every now and then. Yes, the whole thing can be quite problematic. When I have some issues at home, my work is affected and when I have issues with my work, my mood gets affected and all the people in the house will notice my foul mood. I guess this is the price that I have to pay for having the previledge of working from home.
@mastinet (467)
• India
25 Jul 09
Work problems should not be carried to home as your personal life can get affected due to this. At home a person should not discuss the work problems. Work and Home are two separate matters and be kept separate. If you try to mix both of them, it will give an output of painful life. Vice-versa, also home problems should not be carried to office. Official work will get affected if home problems are discussed in office.
@shimanaja (493)
• Indonesia
29 Jul 09
Hi there..
You absolutely right that problems are already part of our life.
We must be able to handle the problems, if the problem happens at home, better we're solving the problem at home. It's not appropriate to bring your personal problem at work.
I have to control my emotional,because anybody in your office does not know your problem exactly..
If someone being mad at you and you dont know what is wrong..you must be unacceptable that treatment to you, musn't you?
So I try to control myself..to be a professional at work..
Happy mylotting:)
@cwong77 (2010)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 09
rberon, since I started working, I have not bring my personal problems to work. I normally leave it at the door of my office.. LOL.. I may rant about it, but I will not blast it on my work mates... not fair for them to take my personal nonsense. Same, I will not bring my work stress back to my house too! It will be left at the office door as well... :) happy MyLotting
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
Sometimes my personal problems show in my face or I get really irritable when I am at work but I try not to talk about my personal problems there just to be professional. I also think that if a person does have personal problems, taking a day off from work just to relax and de-stress is a better use of one's time in solving the problem. :)
@foreigntradecareer (166)
• China
29 Jul 09
Well, I totally agree with your view" problem can not be avoided, it is already part of life." For me, I'm a fresh guy in my work, therefore it is unavoidable for me to come across all kinds of problems, personels', company's etc. And what's difficult to handle with while they bother you at the same time, you should take into deep consideration which one is urgent or important and then make your final desitions. That was the way how I handled problems in the past and I would keep doing like that.
