Would you give your partner a second chance..?
By mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
Philippines
17 responses
@cbeee3 (2061)
• India
25 Jul 09
I would not be able to give my partner a second chance if he broke my faith in him.
Without faith and trust there is nothing in a relationship.Once he has broken my trust, I would always have that at the back of my mind. To me trust is like a mirror.
Once shattered, it can be stuck together, but it will never be the same.
I would never cheat on my partner and when he knows that its imperative that he does not cheat on me either.
There is a quote " everyone deserve a second chance ". But there is also a saying, "once a cheater, always a cheater."
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I respect your statement my friend. Just don't get me wrong, what if someday you are the one who committed the crime first but due to UNINTENTIONALLY, UNEXPECTEDLY done, would you have a courage to ask for a second chance in spite of sticking on what is your stand on this issue? Sorry but I ask this for just a purpose of discussions...thanks for responding...hope to read also your discussions soon...
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
25 Jul 09
my wife made a mistake and i gave her a second chance and i am glad. but she gave me so many chances over the years. and now we're closer to each other no then ever before.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I appreciate that my friend, in this way,it showed that "there would be no body never ever a perfect one" besides if you both understand each other and have patience and respect the more you bonded really stronger...I like you both..thanks for responding...hope to read also your discussions soon...
@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
25 Jul 09
Will that will depend what they had done wrong in the first place yea . if there it was just a small problem then it is ok yea.
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Well I like that friend..as for me, we're the same, it depends on the category of the "crime" committed... well said my friend...Thanks for responding..hope to read also your topic soon...
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@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
25 Jul 09
Although there is a saying like that, there is also a saying that pretty much everyone has heard, which is "A leopard never changes its spots."
So to be honest it DOES depend on one persons view.
My view however, i would not forgive nor give my partner another chance if they were unfaithful. Giving them my faithful-ness and commitment, i'd only expect the same back.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I respect your statement. Please don't get me wrong friend, what if unexpectedly you are the one who committed not on moral issue but another thing that I could say more on it, what would you feel if your partner would act same principle as you have, what will you do? Just a purpose of discussions my friend..thanks for responding..
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
for me yes i agree! no matter what happens, if he is already my husband, i can forgive him over and over again and give him a chance...i mean we are all human, all sinners...who i am not to forgive someone who sinned on me...specially if he's the one that i love...maybe i can be angry...but for sure i can forgive...it might take some time before i forget but definitely i will forgive...
as what is written on Matthew 18:21-22
then Peter came to him and said 'Lord how often shall my brother sin against me and i forgive him? up to seven times?"
Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven."
so that's it.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Oh yeah! Are you some kind of a "sure"? I would just believe it, if it really comes (that moment) just joking....I appreciate it really...well said..I salute for that. Do you have a bible besides you?
@broboque (146)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
before i got married, i fought quite often with my wife, but things changes when we got to know each other better. I would say that if you really want to make the relation works you have got to give yourself a chance otherwise you might regret it. But there is also a circumstances where if you know that the relation won't have a chance, then why should you give it a chance? You yourself have the answer, no one else could. But you have to open your mind and broaden you thinking.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I like that pal. I agree with you..we would just broaden our thinking hoping for the best ..thanks for responding..hope to see also your topic soon..
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
27 Jul 09
It all depends on the offense. If we are having an argument about something, that can always be forgiven, but if one of us were to cheat on the other, or commit a violent crime, there would be no forgivemenss, and that would be the end of the relationship. We both agree on that.
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@prashanthalva (2272)
• India
27 Jul 09
Hi Danish .. What Can I Do You Post On All the Discussions On My Web Page .. LoL ..I Invariably Follow You Dear .. Please Don't Mistake Me ..
Forgiveness, Excuse Me .. I Actually Don't Know What It means In A Relationship .. I Have Heard Of Commitment .. That's What There's To A Relation I Thought .. Is There Something I Don't Know .. It's Better I Keep It This Way .. Thank You ..
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
No question with that since that was your agreement.Well on the other hand it would be good because each of your would be careful not to do something that would breach that agreement. For me, though it would depends on the category of the "crime" committed..but still I close the option having to forgive always because we are not perfect at all. We must to forgive so for us to be forgiven...thanks for responding...
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
Yes you are right. Case to case basis. Depends on the category of the fault or mistakes...third chance would be too much if the concern would really repent all what she/he had done wrong...thanks for responding...
@kenjinakamura (39)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
yes! even GOD Himself gave as second chance who are we not to do so? as long as the persons that your giving second chance is really has a repentant heart.and he or she is doing its best to regain your trust. GOD Bless!
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
Yes you're right my friend. Nobody is perfect, if we stumbled due to any mistakes we've done, I think we have to rise up and change what is it to be changed and forgiveness and second chance...I agree with you...Thanks for responding..
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I think it would depend on what I was forgiving. I do believe everyone deserves a second chance but there is a saying that goes...Fool me once shame on you...Fool me twice shame on me. I think that it depends on the person forgiving as to what is right for them. Take care.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
I agree with you friend, it depends on how did he/she committed and the kind of "crimes". But, what if you first committed it?Well you still stick on the way you handle it? On my own opinion, I think we should forgive in order for us to be forgiven. Well, of course it will be case to case basis. The truth is, the word forgive is really hard to apply if the concern is within ourselves...thanks for your response my friend...
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
It's no wrong for us to give a second chance for those making bad for us, if that person is sincerely remorse what she/he did unto us.
Give her/him a second chance to see how it is going. Even we are doubt that he/she can be better person to the second chances we give. As a good person, we need to give those person a way to analyze their mistakes from the past...
Life is really fill with more of miseries and that to hurt someone is one of the miseries that we need to accept. Because we are too, committed a mistakes. If that happen that we makes mistakes, she/he too give us a chance to be a better person...
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
Yes my friend, I guess you believe in the saying " Forgive and Forget in order for us to be forgiven also"///...thanks for responding...
@bingchen (1119)
• China
28 Jul 09
if you love your partner,whatever happen something,you often persuade yourself to recieve his fault,don't you think so?including me,i often do like that,because you love your parnter deeply,his behaviour hurt your heart deeply,although you depressed at that moment,but you often hope you could be together with him,if you know that his behaviour is not so bad,you hope that you could be together with him,i have an advice for you and give your partner a second chance.if you find that his moral is very bad and give up this chance,this is best to you.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Well said my friend....I will take your advise...thanks for responding..Keep on writing/...
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
Hello there my friend,
In my opinion,it's not bad to give our loved one a second chance,but,what if after the second chance still it doesn't work out?...would you say it quit?
I did this my friend,not only second chance,but third and nth time...i don't know what's wrong,i can't find the missing link anymore.And i even stopped asking WHY...
For those who succeed on their second chance,i want to congratulate you folks and wish you a never ending happiness,and never tried to break your love one's trust...it is the hardest link to missed" TRUST"...
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Yes my friend I understand a little about this topic of mine..I am really sorry. I think your case is excluded on this issue. You have given so many chances but still it happened repeatedly that would be another story. I am sorry about that...anyway thanks for responding..just take it easy and keep yourself busy always..but never forget your mylot..he he he he
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
So am I catherine....thanks for responding..hope to read then some of your discussions...
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@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
I would give my partner a second chance because I am not perfect to and if I am to be the one to make the mistake, then I would really really appreciate it if my partner would give me a second chance too.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Well said my friend...it just showed that no body is perfect...we could only negate it if we are perfect human being...thanks for responding...hope to read also your topic soon....
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
So do I. I believe that motto...I like also what your statement is...thanks for responding..hope to read your discussions too soon...
@RssDragon (42)
• Thailand
25 Jul 09
Real trust we can get only once. If we lose it... Things will never be the same again. You devote yourself with body and soul to a relationship that you believed it to be real. Then you get stabbed in the back by the person who were supposed to be making you happy... Some people may chose to give a second chance, but from that moment on, nothing will be the same again.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Yes I understand, I mean only a second chance. There were some of our friends that they said "strictly no more"....There were also some said they would forgive their partners over and over...How lucky for this people....they have a kind of heart..thanks for responding...hope to read some of your discussions too...