I Feel Like Blowing My Brains Out
By margreteden
@margreteden (13)
United States
July 25, 2009 11:51am CST
I do not know if you have ever felt as frustrated and angry as I do at this point in my life. I am turning 50 next month and I feel as if nothing in my life is working. I am currently not working on a regular basis, I am broke as hell, and my life is in the crapper. Trying to make thhings work is not working, pushing more is not moving anything, and nobody seems willing to help. Have you ever been in a position like this? What did you do about it? Help!
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11 responses
@amybrezik (2118)
• United States
25 Jul 09
I have, and it's hard to keep going. Especially when it seems like just when you take one step forward, you take two steps back. I don't have a lot of advice except, keep hope. It's not what you want to hear, but it really is all you can do sometimes. Just remember giving up is not going to help.
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@nancyrowina (3850)
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25 Jul 09
Try not to let it get you down so much everyone is having a hard time financially at the moment, nothing is worth blowing your own brains out over. Try and put things into perspective if you could post this discussion I assume you still have a place to live and internet access so that's one thing to be thankful for. There's always work of some kind around maybe consider other jobs you haven't thought about before even if it's low paid manual work it's better than nothing. Sometimes we reach points in life where we can't move forward and just have to hang in there for a while, things will change they always do just keep on hanging in there.
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@bmuchler (441)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Nothing seems to be going rightfor a lot of people. My husband and I have filed bankrupcty. We have one income because we can't afford day care for three kids. I am home with the kids. (Age 7 and 1 year old twins). If I were to work, pretty much all of the money would go to pay off day care. We don't qualify for any kind of assistance, so are still struggling. My 7 year old goes back to school soon. I am afraid we won't be able to afford clothing and supplies.
When I was younger I had such dreams of how I would be when I got to this age. The only things that came true are I am married and have children. Career wise, income wise, I am not where I wanted to be.
I feel like going crazy too.
@margreteden (13)
• United States
8 Oct 09
It seems you replied to this some time ago and I never noticed it. However, I do want to reply. I know how you feel, too. I do not know your age, but I just turned 50 last month. It is discouraging to be my age and have so little to show for it. Unlike you, I do not have a spouse or children. So life is depressing and lonely. I am glad for you that at least you have a family. For you, since you still have rather young children, maybe you will still have enough time to move on to a career or profession you enjoy. I wish you well.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
6 Oct 10
Well depression is common in this busy world..though its bitter fact. So dont take it emotional to heart and try to come out of the past. Please dont give up confidence. Do yoga, you will feel a great heal and confidence. God bless you friend! Things will be better soon, dont give up.
@whatrow (792)
• United States
16 Sep 11
Two religious hymns come to mind.
"Slow Down"--Slow down...be still my child. Be still and wait for the coming of the Lord. Slow down and hear His Voice, and know that He is God.
"Be Not Afraid"--Be not afraid. I go before you always. Come! Follow Me! And I will give you rest.
Peace be with you.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
26 Jul 09
I have been in similar - although not as stressful - situations. What I usually do is pick one thing at a time to work on until I feel like I'm back in control of at least a couple of things.
@witmuch (184)
• United States
25 Jul 09
I am 28 with five kids and I feel down like this a lot, with the exception of blowing my brains ou. Nothing has been going right for the last 3 weeks for me and my family. I always say to people feeling bad, "look at someone else's situation and tell me that your situation is worse".
Most of the time I think about the people in other countries that lose an arm because they were hungry enough to steal and got caught. The autorities wil actually cut off their hand or arm as punishment for their crime. When we live in a country with all of the freedoms that other countries do not have, we should feel lucky.
In the last three weeks I have had a lot going on. To give you a look at what I have got through might give you hope that your situation is not really that bad.
1. I hurt my back three weeks ago picking up my twin girls at the same time.
2. I was unable to do anything strenuous for two weeks, but still no hospital trip.
3.I went to watch some kids at a church that was not my church on Friday, and Tuesday the following week ALL 5 of my kids got the 24 hour virus (ages 11, 9, 5, and 2), one Tuesday, two of them on Wednesday, one on Thursday, and one on Friday.
4. We had a massive spray with lysol and cleaned the entire house.
5. I was putting rubber bands in my five year old daughters hair and found out that she had gotten lice from somewhere, still not sure where from.
6. We had no money to get the treatment stuff, and had to borrow money to get it.
7. My husband got drunk and refused to help me with the kids and the clean up and stayed drunk the entire weekend.
8. With my back still hurting I had attempted and completed my grocery shopping because we had absolutely no food in the house, and then strained it again.
9. I was in bed all that weekend and ended up in the ER to get my back looked at.
So I get looked at and discharged with a prescription for medication that I cannot buy because I have no money, so I have to suffer through the next week.
10. Monday rolls around and I found out that My school check was sent but it might take two weeks for it to get here, when we need money now.
11. Our mailbox rotted out of the ground and fell over and the mail man refused to bring our mail to the door. I even hollered for them to come back and I would just take the mail from him and he just kept driving. So for three days we didn't get any mail.
12. My husband finally got money to get the mail box fixed. We got our mail today....still no check!
13. I had to borrow money from my neighbor to order my college book $135.
14. I had to call my mother in law and ask her to buy us some diapers.
15. And to top it all off, today my back is still hurting and I can barely walk let alone move.
Things happen to everyone. I go on no matter what because I have to be strong for not only myself, but for my kids. Things will turn around for you, I'm sure of it. Just never give up and hang on. Something awesome is in store for you and if you give up now it will never come into play for you. You are blessed and I will be praying that things start getting better!
Thanks for coming to us here on mylot to talk!
@irishidid (8687)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Been there plenty of times. Thing is, I'm too curious about what's around the corner in life. That's what keeps me going. There's always something and if there isn't-I make it.
Set a goal, no matter how small. I'm 52 and plan on going back to school. My daughter is taking professional cooking at a local tech school and I've decided to go with her.
I also wrote a novel that is currently in the hands of the editor and I'm publishing, hopefully by next week. Writing is therapeutic and it doesn't matter if you're good at it or not.
Find your point of hope and start from there.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
26 Jul 09
first of all it saddens me to hear someone say they feel like blowing their brains out. i know how hard life is as i struggle on a daily basis as well but there are people who love me and depend on me so if i just checked out on them it would be very selfish on my part. i do know how you feel. my husband is self employed and works hard but the business is not as it used to be so we have had to cut back seriously. we have no savings anymore, and had very little if any before all this economic stuff started. i left my job 4 years ago so i could be here for my son as my mom could no longer babysit for him and i do not trust anyone else nor can i afford to pay anyone to watch him full time. most of my salary would go to childcare and he would be with strangers more than with his own parents. so i gave up a good job with benefits when she could no longer watch him and i have done all sorts of part time stuff from home like babysitting, which at my age, 48, is not really very easy, i do online surveys at least 1 1/2 hours per day on top of babysitting 32-40 hours per week, so that is an additional 10 1/2 hours per week, i do product testing and i am the bookkeeper for my husband's business so we do not have to pay someone to do it. even with all that we are hanging on by a thread to get by. the reason i tell you all this is because i want you to know you are not alone. my marriage is not good. i am overweight and despite trying to walk and exercise and eat properly i barely lose anything. i feel stressed all of the time and exhausted as well. my engine in my car went a week ago so we had to get a used engine and slap it on a credit card otherwise i would have no car and we got it home and there is still something wrong with it so we have to bring it back tomorrow and i will be stuck in the house withe the 10 month old i babysit for and my 8 yr old son again after being without it for a week and in the hot, humid house as we cannot afford to run the air conditioning. if i let all of this get to me i would just fall apart so i push myself to keep on keepin' on as they say. most days i don't know how i do it all, but i really have no choice. i hope things get better for both of us. please hang in there. and as far as help is concerned i do all i can to get whatever help i am entitled to at this point. you have to ask for i guess as no one really offers.
@ravirai8616561 (824)
• India
26 Jul 09
I think that u should be adoing anger and stess management.Its sometimes cool head that prevails.Have a good day