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I think he will come to terms with this in the future when his manhood is tested with real realationships. Your son, I suspect as with most boys, see their Mothers as their first relationship. They want that Mother to be perfect and pure. They take great issue when there seems to be some confusion about how she makes so many bad choices for herself. He may be dealing deeply with his feelings of loss and stability and trust. He needs time. Don't put too much pressure on him to "come around". Let him deal with the reality of the situation before he deals with the people in. Will he have to go through this again? Direct you attention to the 20+ years that you have shared with your son and let it be known that it is precious. Explain to your boyfriend that it is necessary that you begin to repair the damage to the relationship between you and your son. He may not be included in some situations. If he is committed to you and in the name of peace he will concede to such a plan. Do not make so many demands on him to be cicil about this. Your actions created the situation. Give the chance to struggle with his loss and acceptance. Love is patience. Do not put your child in a position to validate such a life decision for you.

My grandfather has outlived my grandmother by almost ten years now, and in this time, he's had about three girlfriends, and was engaged to one of them but it didn't work out. My mom, and her siblings, refused to accept this woman. I would have, but I didn't want to go against my mom and cause a problem with her when there wasn't one between us. Anyway, my grandfather used to always try to push these women on everyone and it caused him to be very isolated for a long time. He finally learned, and it worked, if he wanted to spend time with his kids he would have to do it alone. I think you should make time to spend with your son alone. He may never accept your boyfriend, and if you do not make the time for just him he may never go and see you.

Your topics here indeed a matter of feelings and life decisions... What other can say here?.. Have you tried just once to explain to your son how much you love your boyfriend and can no longer live in a single person?.. Make your son to understand that peoples does need someone to live with someone in order to support/efforts for a better future in life... Tell your son that it might hard for him to accept but will your son dare to see your life in loneliness forever till you die?..

you love him, and i think, he loves you, too. it is just a matter of time before he accepts your bf. donot push him too much and stand in his place and give him some time , things will be better.