Have surrogacy ever crossed your mind?
By patofgold23
@patofgold23 (5069)
Philippines
July 26, 2009 2:27am CST
The $30,000 sounds so tempting to me, there are a lot of odds though... When you're under a surrogate program, you can't receive any aid from the government, and many other stuff. What worries me most is all the aesthetic surgery I'd be needing after giving birth. Yeah, I have money alright, coz I'll get paid, but what if I'll just spend it all repairing my boobs, and getting a liposuction and stuff like that...ugh!
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@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
29 Jul 09
If you're worried about how a pregnancy might change the way you look, you should consider donating your eggs instead of being a surrogate mother! You don't make $30,000 but it's pretty common to get paid between $5,000-$10,000. Which isn't bad money! And you never have to give birth!
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
yeah, i looked into it before, $5,000... but they say it's dangerous, can even cvause infertility
@polo_princess (803)
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29 Jul 09
Wow is that really how much you can get paid for that over there? Thats a lot of money. I know of a few people who have donated eggs that have gone on to have children but i guess it would be sensible to wait until you are finished making your own family before you donated just incase there were complications.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
yap..if you are into it, you can search for clinics that cater that service near your area.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 Jul 09
Yes, I have considered this option, but not for the rational of making the money. The money isn't worth it to me.
I have a friend that is unable to carry a baby to term and I've told her before that if she wants a baby bad enough I will carry it for her. The only things that I'd want is payment for medical expenses and to be a part of the child's life in some way. She agreed to these terms if she decides she wants a baby.
As far as the actual surrogacy program, I don't think I could do it. To carry a baby for nine months, to feel it move, for it to be a part of me only to never be able to see it would just be too much for me. Who cares about all the money in the world if there is a child that you brought into this world (even if not genetically yours) that you'd never be able to know.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
if i'd do it for the money....so I could set aside something for my son, he's growing up fast... would that make me a bad person? =(
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 Jul 09
If that's the way that I came across, I sincerly apologize. No, it wouldn't make you a bad person at all, it just wouldn't work for me. I've had 3 pregnancies, 2 of which I've carried to term and I've been so attached to them before they were born that the thought of myself doing it for the money isn't good. In fact, if I wasn't attached to my pregnancies, I probably would do it for the money as well. I could certainly use it.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
oh no, i didn't say u offended me or anything... I'm just confused i guess. coz I'm somewhat considering it. but I'm sure people wouldn't think my intentions are selfish if I'm doing it for the money coz I'm doing it for my son.. u think so?
@prashanthalva (2272)
• India
30 Jul 09
So Your plan is to deliver and be back to What .. If You want to live a normal Life I don't think you Need to go in And Repair your Boobs for what .. If you plan to Feed The New Born, its a Good Idea .. But i think Just delivering the Baby is your work .. Deliver And Just Relax With your New Body .. Though I Am Not an Expert On Surrogacy .. I Think You Need Not Bother Much About the Body .. This is what i think .. Thanks ..
@polo_princess (803)
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29 Jul 09
It is something that i have considered as i have seen may friends suffer with infertility. The money aspect is the thing that draws a lot of people into surrogacy i think.
After looking into it for a long while i decided that i couldnt be a surrogate, i couldnt carry a baby and give birth to it only to give it away, there would be too much of an emotional bond however hard i fought it. I have however looked into donating some of my eggs as i see it as less emotional contact. You dont usually get paid for that here in the UK though, im not sure about the US.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
do a little research on the internet, coz I have heard a lot of dangers that comes with egg donation!
@ksquires2005 (58)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I currently have 2 kids and i am still working on losing weight but i am glad that my boobs arent' flat like i've seen happen to some women so i'm thankful for that. the thought of surrogacy has crossed my mind I mean come on don't you think that 30-40K would make anyone think about it. I don't think that I could go through carrying the baby and then having to give birth and going through all that I couldn't do it, no matter how much i'd be getting. Think that people would get attached. it's a beautiful thing and all but it's just not for everyone. For my first son i was considering adoption because i was a young mom and would be raising him on my own but once he was born and I saw him and held him i couldn't let him go. but i think that the money would be going into savings or to pay off bills and my schooling lol.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
there's a lot of thing that comes with the idea of being a surrogate.... mostly, people needed the money, at the same time they are helping couples who can't have a child to materialize their dreams.
I was a teen-age mom too...well that was 14years ago... I am a single mom...raising my son along so I get tempted with the idea.
If I am to do it...i'm kinda scared to get attached too...yet I would have to remind myself i would be doing it for my son.
still,it's not an easy decision.something you have to think about a hundred times or more before really going into it.
@polo_princess (803)
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30 Jul 09
I think it also depends on the type of surrogate that you are, i cannot remember the two names for it but one is where you use your own eggs and donor sperm, and the other is where you use the eggs and sperm from the donor. I think if you were to use your own eggs it would be a lot harder as the baby is a part of you, but if you used both donor eggs and sperm the only thing you have to do with it is carrying the child if you understand what i mean.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Jul 09
I have never really considered that option. It might sound like an easy way to make a lot of money, but I think it is more complicated than that. Most of all I would be worried about my feelings. I think that it would be too hard to let go of the child when the pregnancy was over.
Even if I had been interested, it wouldn't have been possible in my country, because surrogat mothers are not allowed to receive money. Surrogacy as such is not against the law, but the woman has to do it without payment, and surrogat mothers are usually a sister or a close friend and not a stranger.
