handling a fighting

Even i hsve 2 small brats of almost same age, 3 and 5 ; and they can't be together for more than 10 minutes, without something or te other coming up. They are actually too small to be reasoned too... What i do now is, i never ask whose fault it is, i just divert them somewhere else, or just give them separate stuff to do. You can never ever find a solution to this. Both can give us good points about thier being standing correct...This is the way siblings grow, fighting, laughing, sharing together....

When my girls were that age I used to try to get them to see each others side. Well as you can guess it never worked. I also tried to find out who started it that didn't work either. Finally I learned to just make them go to different areas when they started fighting. It seems that girls just plan like to fight. It is hard to be patient with them all the time.

No beating or spanking them will not do any good at this age anymore. They are past that type of punishment. What I did with my girls when they fought like that is they got a time out, with that time out they had to hold hands if not they had to sit longer. No TV no food, no snacks, just sit there together holding hands for at least 10 min. When that time passed I would then have each of them apologize to each other for the incident. They would try to argue with me saying that one started it kind of thing, all I did was say is "it takes two to tangle" one to start, one to finish. So they were both at fault. That was one of my ways of dealing with my girls when they fought at that age. Other would be taking things away they use everyday, TV, music, computer, toys, books, etc. When the rooms were empty they finally realized they needed to change attitude or have nothing to do for fun. Oh and if they say they were bored, they found out Mom always had something for them to do... cleaning, wash, take out garbage, etc. It worked

I think that talking and finding out a solution by discussion is more better than fighting with someone.Have a good day