would you?
@friendship4lyfe (520)
Saint Lucia
July 26, 2009 8:38pm CST
How many of you parents on mylot would ty to realize your dream through your kids?Do you think its fair?After-all we are individuals no matter how young or old so why should a parent force her kids to live their dreams?Of course we can try and direct them but to force it on them is just cruel.There is this parent who wants her daughter to become a teacher because she lost her job when she got pregnant with her so many years ago.And after such a long time she still cant forgive her because she wont do something thats not her passion.
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@sarafii74 (106)
• Australia
27 Jul 09
Hi, buddy.
Unfortunately, my parents never know what I want and what is my dream. Even they know, they just pretent they don't know because they just want me to be what they want.
Most of the time, the conversation between me and my parents are quite simple, like "are your body OK? how is today? why you didn't work hard?!" they asked about my feeling, but that's it, they would not give me any advice or even response, or some advice is useless. Sooooooo, the communication between my parents and I can be considered as very unsuccessful. Sometimes I feel they want me to be someone because they can not achieve something and they want me to fulfill these for them.
Hope you have a nice day!
@friendship4lyfe (520)
• Saint Lucia
27 Jul 09
Sorry to hear that.Just keep trying and eventually they will cave in.
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@sarafii74 (106)
• Australia
27 Jul 09
Thank you for replying that.
I tried very hard to make them happy even give up to be myself. But I found it's very painful to do so. And they also very care about other people's discussion, that's why they treat me so strict. I know some of the advice they gave me is good for me. But I still feel rather frustrating.
Thank you for your response again~~~
@sandestudio (28)
• United States
31 Jul 09
Yes and no? I let my son pursue his dreams. Which is not hard considering that we are such different people. The reason I yes however is this: I would have given anything to be a foreign exchange student. But my parents would not even discuss it with me. So last year when my son told me that he wanted to be an exchange student I said yes. And he didn't even know that that had been a dream of mine.
@friendship4lyfe (520)
• Saint Lucia
31 Jul 09
In that case its different because he wanted to.I am saying that there are parents who wanted to be something and never got the chance is now forcing it on their children.You had that dream and your son chose to be an exchange student.
@lawana_f (326)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I have three grown children, and in a way I guess I did, I wanted to know what was happening in their lives all the time. We are still all very close.
I started when they were babies telling them they WOULD go to college. I continued telling them this at least 2 or 3 times a month as long as they were living at home.
I am proud of my children. I know that they are happy with their lives. One is going to graduate in December and be a teacher, one is an RN (nurse) and will continue her education to become a flight nurse. The youngest is a full time mother and plans to take some on-line classes in the next year. I know once she gets started she will continue.
It was my dream that my children go to college and have a better life than mine. I have always felt that that should be every parents dream for their children. We have to work now to make the world a better place for these children.
I do not believe in pushing my dreams on my children, they have always known what they want and as long as they do their best to reach their goals then it is their life and I want them to live it.
