How would you know if you're being dumped?
@karenrosesalazar (256)
Philippines
July 26, 2009 9:15pm CST
I could be a little naive, clueless and insensitive sometimes. And I'm not that much of an expert in the relationship department. I've come into a dilemma lately, which I'm not yet ready to share now, but here is the utmost question in my mind? How would you know if you're being dumped? Does his sudden disinterest, coldness and unavailability signal the impending doom?
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@TailaKahlan (42)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I would say those are pretty good indicators. It could also be his way of trying to get you to dump him because hes dosent want to hurt you by being the one to say its over. If you really want to be in this relationship you need to act now to save it. Honest is the only way to go. Sit down and have a serious conversation and explain why you may be clueless and insensitive at times and let him know that it feels like he is pulling away as a result. If you promice to listen to him and not get upset when he tells you how he feels it will go along way in correcting what ever the issues may be. communication is ALWAYS key. if you dont tell him how your feeling he will never know and vise versa. if he dose something that bothers you poitly explain to him that it dose and why so he knows what not to do. This is something a lot of people never seem to do in a relationship and it always falls apart. If you cant talk to each other then its prolly in serious danger of ending.
@karenrosesalazar (256)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
Wow, thanks TailaKahlan. That makes sense! I actually tried talking to him but he's always unavailable. I'm still thinking if this whole thing is worth all the drama.
@TailaKahlan (42)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I would suggest trying one more time to have a serious talk. Make sure you get out all your feeling first. and if there is anything you think you may have done to cause the issue be sure to apologize for your part. Then if it dosent work out youll know you have tryed everything in your power to make it work and can leave with a clear conscious. On the other hand he may see you taking the first step to fixing things and follow suit. Just remember the key is to stay calm and not loose your temper. maybe sit down before hand and write out all your feeling so you have a clearer picture of what to say. When you get in the heat of the moment its easy to get off topic or forget what you really wanted to say to begin with.
@karenrosesalazar (256)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
Thank you for the advice. I really appreciate it! I will do just that.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
Well i think the things you mentioned are the signs of being dumped. There should always be interests in a relationship. There should always be excitement. The other half should always be the source of inspiration and if one is acting cold then i guess there's something wrong. Have you done something lately which made him upset? Wait, are you the one who's going to dump someone?
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
I guess he just fell out of love. Sometimes there's nothing new in a relationship and some people get bored. But don't worry, there are times too when people would wake up from their mistakes then go back to the one they love. If you really love him then don't give up just yet. He owes you some explanation and i think you have the right to know because you're the one suffering. There are questions which may hinder the growth of the relationship like how's the relationship between your guy and your family? Could it be financial? Has it something to do with his ego? and many more.
@karenrosesalazar (256)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
No, unfortunately I have the feeling I'm the one getting dumped. Hmmm, I'm also wondering what I could have done to set him off. I wish he'd tell me so I'd know. It's quite frustrating.
But I'm already quite prepared for whatever will happen. I guess that's just part of loving someone. You really can't expect everything to go your way. You can't expect people to love you back the way you love them. I'm just looking at the upside of all of these. I know there is a valuable lesson to learn from all of these.
Thanks for your response. I appreciate it!
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
27 Jul 09
It does kind of sound it based on what you said but then again there could be something else going on with him. Maybe he is working a lot or has some sort of personal issue going on. your question is very very vague. How long have you been feeling like this? when was the last time he called you? how long have you been together? While your words do make it sound pretty gloomy, there are so many other possible explanations that without knowing more, its pretty impossible to give you a good answer. sorry karen.
@karenrosesalazar (256)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
You have a point sid. I keep reminding myself that the world does not revolve around me. I mean, he could be going through something really tough right now and here I am thinking of all of these things. The best thing is to really communicate. And I guess we both have taken that for granted.
Thank you for your valuable insight. Happy mylotting!
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
i think it's best if you confront him first... maybe he's just waiting for you to speak up... i guess there's something bothering in his mind that he couldn't open up to you... but that's on the lighter side... the negative one is this: maybe he's just waiting for you to initiate the break up.. :(
@karenrosesalazar (256)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
:( *sigh! I know some guys who are like that. They would be all cold and vague and noncomittal but all along they are just not brave enough to tell the girl he's dumping her. I hope this is not the issue in my case. But if it is, hey... I guess that's just how it is. Life goes on.
Thanks for your opinion. :)
@genius_zelda (130)
• Indonesia
30 Aug 09
Nope, of course not. Sudden disinterest or coldness or something like that is not always a sign of being dumped. Maybe he is now swimming into a deep river of trouble, or maybe he needs time to stay alone. Well if you really want to know whether you are being dumped or not is ASK him, forced him to tell the truth
a relationship without any clear status only causing both of you suffering. Well look him in the eyes, ask him what's troubling him lately (the real roots of his strange act lately), if he does not answer than just ask it directly whether he wants to continue the relationship or not
how did i know? because my ex gf do that to me when i want to dumped her but have no courage to say it directly:)
