good days that turn bad

Wow....I don't really know what to tell you. Are you sure that when he says you hurt him, he's not playing right back? You should ask....Maybe he's thinking that a little hit will end up getting worse as time goes by or he's afraid that he'll start doing it back and will really hurt you? I would have to ask and explain to him that it is something that you've always done, it's part of your personality and ask if you could swat his butt or something where it wouldn't actually hurt him and kind of get turned on at the same time instead of it angering him? Unless it's his pride of being mistreated in public? I do it to, and I always called them play taps....I haven't actually had to deal with anyone getting upset about it, yet. I would definitely have a little chat with him to find out why he thinks you're abusing him, I guess everyone has different thoughts on abuse and they have their limits, at least he's letting you know he has a problem with it instead of waiting and blowing up at you all at once and you both lose the relationship that you have over this issue!

I think to have good and bad moments are totally normal in a relationship however the feelings that one cannot be himself/herself in a relation with a person is not good, I mean one has to feel at ease with someone totally to be with him for long. I have a boyfriend too and he cannot understand jokes on food when he is very hungry, now lets take the weekend itself, we were very cool together, we went to the supermarket and I wanted to buy something to eat so I bought it, and he said he will buy something to eat when we are on our way to home, the place was closed and we got home, I joked and told him that I will not share my food with him and he got so angry that he said he will go back to buy something for him especially and he will not give it to me. When he is hungry he cannot wait to bring food infront of him, my dad is like this but I did not know my boyfriend also will turn like him. When I accepted him it was with both positive aspects and as well as the negative one so I do understand him perfectly now. He has a right also to act as he wants and I will not have to change myself but to learn how to lead a comfortable life with him.

It may be playful for you, but if it is uncomfortable for him, then it is not acceptable, just as if he were to do something to you that may be uncomfortable, even just in fun. I would get extremely annoyed if someone did that to me, no matter how much smaller than me, they are, but others might not. If it's annoying to one party, it's not fun. It's only fun if it's fun for both of you.

i wouldn't even bother trying to play fight with my partner, it isn't much fun with him. but then it depends on his mood, but you don't muck around with him. however i can muck around with my work mate, but being careful i have to to able to take as hard as i give. i'd give him a playful smack when he'd annoy me, but now he gets me back a bit hard and i just back off cause i don't want any marks left on me over time in case my partner see them.

Your boyfriend might not be serious to say that you are abusing him, i think . Why don't you just regard this to be a joke ? If he is serious just not to do it again and i think you will be happy all the time. Yes i do have this experience that having good times that turn bad to a quarrel in my young days . It is easy to happen because lovers are so sensitive.

Well, things did always happen to me like that. Someday I woke up gladly and imangine that everything gonna be great the whole day, while there is not ten grade well thing in our life. Only a little period I found that my clothes are still wet, the water is out of store, you know ,just like such kind of staffs bother you. I guess these things happen to lots of people everyday, but as a lively guy I would like to confrant that naturlly but not complian more about these tiny little things. After that you may feel good all days long.

yeah, actually there are a couple of times where my bf and i would have nice talks and then he would suspiciously ask some things from me( from the talks we had) and eerything will just turn out so bad. haha

Has he been abused as a child perhaps.It does hurt when someone slaps you,maybe that is the thing you could stop doing,if he slapped you would you like it.especially out in public.The thing is if you know he does not like it why do it.No on the whole we both now what is likely to upset each other so it works out well .It is hormones that turn things wrong in our relationship.He will suddenly get in a bad mood for no apparent reason ,I just let him get on with it.He does the same with me as I am going through the menopause it can be pretty lively on the whole so we read the signs for a happy existence .Nothings perfect spicy.

Omg, all the time. The slightest thing can make a good day turn into a terrible day.

yes they do and it can last a long time. If he feels like you're abusing him, than you need the behavior immediately. Also it could be a control issue too. Maybe your boyfriend is trying to see just how much he can get away with.