Can you marry someone you don't know?

Hello,janzki! In my opinion,I think your friend's decision is not wise!As for me,I can not marry someone I don't know!I think I will marry a man who I know him,like him and often communicate with him!Marriage is very important for everyone in his life!Consequently,I suggest that your friend think a lot for himself and his girl!I hope he can make a wise decision for his marriage!Best wishes for your friend!

i don't think its wise coz they never meet each other and then they will get married without seeing each other.. whats that PENPAL??lol Penpal is just an old things why they didn't meet even in the internet??

There are some countries in our society which practices these kind of match-making marriages. It would be most likely depend on the characteristics of the persons to be married,if one of them is submissive to the other,then there would be no major problem. However,this kind of marriages is like a gamble, either you win or lost.

no, i don't think is a good idea to marry someone without seeing each other. it is too risky to do so for your friend. Beware of con.

Well at first, anything is possible. So yes, anyone can marry someone they don't know that well. But how often does it occur? Barely. Because we know better and we have been taught and raised differently. To some people, it might sound like a crazy idea that they will never even think about and for other people it might sound like "whatever happens, happens" type of idea. Personally, I don't think it's a wise decision because I wouldn't even think of making such commitment, but hey....everyone has their way of living and their way of thinking. Maybe their relationship end up being what we least expected in comparison to the couples that have been dating for ages, and have complications and divorce after they get married.

It may not be a wise decision but that doesn't mean its not the right decision for them. Most of us wouldn't be willing to marry someone we don't know. This could be attributed to numerous factors including our culture and expectations of life. In many cultures e.g India arranged marriages are popular and often successful with the husband and wife learning to love each other. For these people falling in love with someone before marriage is seen as unwise as at first love is sometimes blinding and people do not see straight and in a few years the initial attraction may wear off. However reffering back to your friends situation I have heard of many instances in which this sort of relationship has worked out. Perhaps the two were lucky enough to make a real connection. However I still think your friend should be wary and take proper precautions. I think they should definetly meet a few times before confirming any marriage plans. Their plans may not sound wise but love is different for each couple and it just may work.

Is it your friend's family custom to arrange marriages?If so, this could be the m=normal way.But if it isn't , then it could be risky. But on the otherhand, if they Really connected on the phone and they really love each other, it could work.

I have already done this and i think i am the lucky guy that till now we are quite happy. I did this for my father i love my father he choose a girl and said that you will marry her and this marriage will reunite my family so i done this and believe me i got very first look of my wife on my marriage ceremony day but again i want to say i am not in favor of this and i am lucky that i got some understanding with her but mostly such cases fail and cause much depression at later stages. They should spend some time together to understand better each other.

Yes i can marry someone i don't know.It happens most of the time in marriages.People searching from the internet will marry a person he/she doesn't know.If the person found from the internet is good.Then they tell their parents about it and the marriage is conducted.We should find all the details about a person before taking the decision of marrying.

It depends on the attitude the participants have when going through with this arrangement. I believe that it might be better than an arranged marriage where the parents do the arranging.

There are some families that have this kind of culture, like their parents want them to marry the son/daughter of their close friends or business partners even if they don't know whom to marry yet. It's part of their tradition and we can't question that. But for me, I think that would be something which I don't want to practice because if I don't know that person, how could I love him if I know in the future there's gonna be a misunderstanding between us? Still, it depends on the person.

Sounds like they are committed to it. In which case I see nothing wrong with that. Given that half of American marriages end in divorce, even though most have been seeing, dating, sleeping, even moving in together a year or two prior... I can't see how their system could be "worse" then our failures.

They are crazy~ However, they had got married. Wish they can match with each other in the future. It is a adventure.

And i thought they're supposed to marry the day they met. they should at least make their relationship longer by getting to know each other personally. tying the knot like that is something i can't consider.

Sounds soet of like an arranged marriage without the arrangement. This happens in some cultures and maybe it's just a decision to marry and not so much a love match. It could work if both people agree on the important things and make plans as to how they want their life together to gop.

I think it is possible. a friend of mine met her husband on the day of her wedding. and the marriage seems successful for they are living happily in Japan now and have a bubble kid. Her husband works in Japan for quiet a while and she has move and to be with him right after the wedding. She confided that she is trying her best to get used to her husband during the first few months after their wedding, its like, her husband is just starting to court her and she is trying her best to get to know him better.

Absolutely not wise. How could you marry someone whom you never seen before? They should meet first and getting to know each other, before getting married. To make sure that they are right for each other. Happy posting.

Will you please allow me to correct you for your words, before I commented? "Can you marry someone you don't know?" my correction is that no people can marry someone he/she doesn't know because all people get into marriage is knowing each other. You say that they knew only each other through phone. Meaning they are knowing each other, right. If they are not known each yet even in their name and or even phone that is "don't know" means. Since they are knowing in one year long, that is sufficient for them to develop relationship and even they are not personally they feel so much love that why they decide to enter into marriage... Perhaps, you can point arrange marriage that only parents know each other and not the person enter marriage. That is happening in India and some part of Asia...

No, I could never do that! I hope that it works out for them and by reading some of the comments here, marriages such as arranged ones can work! I do not agree with the principle of it though, I do not even think people should get married unless they live together first. I know that many religions prevent this from happening, but why would you commit your whole life to someone you have not lived with! It is completely different when you actually share a home with someone as opposed to just dating them! My wife and I were married only 3 years ago, but we have lived together for 13 years and our oldest child is 9 years old! For us to have our kids as part of our wedding made the day even more special! :-) This is a great topic, thanks for starting it!

As long as you don't expect much from them, and that they love your family as much as you can. This is a story from a friend, so I don't know how much is true: "I married J without expecting anything. I don't even know him until our wedding ceremony! I'm much of a businesswoman, so I left this pairing job to my excited mother. Yeah, things were lukewarm at first, he was generally a shy guy, and we are strangers. I feel of him the first two days as roommate. Still, I have to admit he has a nice touch, he was very focus during our first wedding night, aware that his only education is by books, nt practical. That is the first I noticed about him. And then, the small things. The way he offered to cook when I came back later than he was, the way he cleared out a space in his car without me asking him even if I have my own car, the fact that he always tried to make a joke everytime there was an arkward silence. When I feel happy seeing how he treated my parents with such care, that is when I realize I'v fallen in love with him. Our love took time to spark, but with interest ( both of us are mysteries to each other due to being strangers before marriage), and hidden lust ( he took care of how he looks, and always ask my opinion whether how he looks is up to my standards, and hey, I'm not that bad okay!), it grows bigger and bigger, probably because we are not only lovers, but best friends. He is closer to me than my girl friends! As prove, every gossip I shared with my friends, I told him, and we update each other's stories, some that even no one knows. A guy friend of his bragged off with something we both already know, and we just glance at each other smiling since we knew it but decided not to say anything. At that time, I realized what I did is not amistake, as many of our friend said about arranged marriage. Remember M, our girl friend who eloped? She's divorced now, remember? Well, it turns out her boyfriend is not as who he is when they are dating. I guess that's what happen when you had mold your couple's personality before tying into commitment. I Love You, J."For those who read, I wrote every single thing she said, as she is beside me now. She even corrected my misspelling. Damn her. _