husband cheating. what to do...

Drop him. But in a really cool way. Like hire out a billboard on his usual work route and put a message on it like. I know what you've done, I've changed lock on my house your stuff will be waiting for you all over the lawn. Something cool to let him know that you've ditched him instead of the other way around.

Yes,i had been in this situation,and i am an Asian,it's not the conservative cultures or tardition that matters in this situation,it's self respect.If he can't respect me as his wife and do cheats me,why should i still be living with him?...for the sake of community eyes not to be the gossips star being a broken family?...No way!..i did my best to make things right and to save whatever i can,but all in vain. So,he's out of my life now.

i think you will just have to try to talk it over with your husband. most asians would not ask for a legal separation, and a divorce. most asian wives will just talk to the husband, make him tell the truth and then try to work out the relationship for a second chance as long as he will be honest, and will turn back from the wrong doings.

Dear Ritchelle, Hmmm, I always like to use the 'root cause' trouble shooting! Find out how did it happen, why did it happen and is it totally his fault? Or something else...drunk and got involved..etc.etc. Settled it and promised not to mentioned it ever again. Transfer a large sum of his money to your account..it will be totally yours! Start a new life together, bygone be bygone...BUT If it is deliberately his fault..then..do the 'mind mapping' and see what is the best solution to everyone that involves..anyway...it is easy said than done. When emotion got involved, it is very difficult to deal with! Thanks and do drop by for a discussion...happy myLotting!

I think you should go to a counsellor and get professional advise. It all depends on how long have you been married, why is he cheating, does he have physical relationship with the other person and all that.

hey, just cool. just ignore him.when that person is happy in his own way...it is nt good you to keep sad and think about that unwanted stuff.you start your new lefe.i dnt say you to leave him.but being with him just ignore him such way that he has to feel guilt about his behaviour.not saying or commenting reacting in nyway make him understand that you got everything abt him.be normal in daily routine...but avoid n dnt encourage him in ny argumentt,discussions or ny other issue.then he get his fault by him self...come repenting for his mistake.believe me...and hope u get solution soon for that problem.

Ritchelle, that's depends on what kind of cheat a man did to me.. If they are cheating with an extra marital affairs, then I will weigh if my he has found another new love, then I will wish them all the best and leave them alone.. however, if I have kids on the marriage, I will then ask if this man will want the woman or the family. No point hogging someone who does not have the heart with you anymore.. On the other hand, if the cheat is on money and stuff, we just have to be extra careful, as once a cheat started, it will spread widely to others too..