Do you find it easier to discuss your personal matters here on mylot?

I usually dont discuss my personal matters with anybody. But sometimes I feel like letting it loose a little you know. There were instances I put my personal matters for discussion on mylot and received really good answers and advises. I think it depends on the mood. I usually discuss things when the problem is lukewarm and I am strong enough to discuss. When the problem is hot, I keep it inside and worry myself. That's just being me

Hi dpk, I am not good in typing numbers so I am going to truncate those numericals, if u dont mind. :) Well - I have already explained in some of the previous posts why it is easier to discuss personal issues with virtual friends. Virtual friends are like a diary, u vent out ur feelings honestly. In addition there is somebody out there who will feel compassionate to u, or understand ur end of the story. This need arises because in real life it has not been possible even when it is tried. Try expressing ur problems to a real life friend and it will percolate to another and another and one fine day the person against whom we have the grouse will come for a showdown. At that point of time we wont have a script ready in hand to present our arguments, and definitely we cannot express ourselves continuously as I am doing now - it would be a three liners followed by two liners, then one liners, till it reaches one word - obviously bad words. I dont think anybody feels happy after a showdown - however correct they may be. But u cant expect others to ask u for ur reason. At times, we too dont, do we? Unlike it - this form of discussion is a great stress buster. We may get solutions we never thought of. Another reason virtual friends are better is they cant really take social advantage of u. For all that u know - I may be the niece of the Prime Minister. But since u dont know that u wont be asking me favors even though I might use ur shoulders to cry on. And therefore, u too will be very honest in ur opinions (hopefully), and not expect any favors for siding me. In real life friends with whom personal issues are discussed start asking favors which can become something to resent. This of course does not apply to all friends. There are good friends as well. However, there is no litmus paper as yet to tell who wil be a good friend and who isn't. It may take years before we realize that this person was not worth the friendship. And we may hurt. Here the relationships are not that long. So we dont really hurt. Hope I have conveyed what I felt effectively. :) And before I forget - thanks for asking me to be ur friend. I am honored. :)

Absolutely! I find Mylot a great therapy forum, in that I can discuss problems that I find it very difficult if not impossible to broach with my friends, sometimes even my parents! It's like an advice line too, because whenever I have personal problems I come straight to Mylot for friendly advice, support and I always get great responses and find it so much easier to confide in people online than I do offline. You can also delete things that you decide not to say, (unless you post response!) whereas when you talk, you can't take words back can you. Sometimes you might have issues with a personal friend that you need 'neutral' advice and sometimes strangers even friends on Mylot can provide you with a better insight when they are not involved with the situation, i.e. they are totally impartial and you can get a better feel of the situation if others give you solutions that you hadn't even thought about, a different perspective on the situation if you like. So 99% of the time all my personal matters are discussed openly and honestly and yes I do bare all at times, but then if you are honest in your discussions you will get honest answers!

I normally do not discuss personal problems here though sometimes they may be revealed in the course of other discussions and responses Deepak. I have not had the need to do it because I talk them with people at home , with people who would know the problem in context.On the other hand if it is an objective problem or a product related query then I feel mylot is the best to get solutions[regarding electronic items or computers or any such thing].

Nah! I think its not for the whole to know, sharing your thoughts can be one thing or taking an opinion but downright venting out anger, swearing or dicussion a touchy topic isn't healthy..I could also make you loose some valuable friends on mylot in the long run since ppl always look for nice discussions and are bored with repeatitive moaning kinds..well thats atleast what I think.

I used to discuss about myself quite a lot, but not on mylot. I would discuss it on other sites like you've mentioned. I guess it's because I didn't feel that I could go to family members for advice, and my friends I wasn't sure I wanted to talk to about some things. Now that I am engaged and will be married soon my mood on this has changed and I'd rather talk to my fiance and his mother if need be then online or to my own family sometimes! Lol!

Mylot is nice platform. Many times I have seen Mylot acts as stress buster. One can share the problem here and get solution and solace. Plus its nice to know the feedback from all over the world.

I try not to discuss my personal matters here in Mylot and I especially do not use any names here either. I just do not want the world to know about my personal life. I do give scenarios about it though.

I really don't discuss personal matters here on mylot. This is a social forum so I stick to topic of that nature. I try to respond to people who do need some advice about person issues but sometimes they are too complex to have a bunch of people offer advice for. I'd rather just talk about day to day issues.

Hi Deepak to certain limit I discuss my personal matters here to take suggestions from my dear mylot friends... But few things I dont like to share in the discussions.. Happy myloting..

I always find it easier to share my feelings by writing anyway and, because several of my friends are great but not always on my wave length, MyLot is the ideal place to post personal issues and learn from the varied responses. It is true that aside from my very best girlfriend, many of the people I know can be judgemental, envious or just don’t ‘get’ it! MyLot has such an array of members and I have not had any problem finding like minded souls who relate to me. There is no one here from my 'real' world and that's the way I like it!

I am always amazed at some of the things people discuss in a public forum.

Hi Deepak, This issue is really interesting. I feel there is no problem discussing any issue here on mylot because the most important thing is the perfect remedy out of problem which I feel is better when handled with so many ideas. I think here the people on mylot are very intelligent and experienced one. They can help you out in any condition you are with giving many new innovative ideas and your problems gonna solved as compare to real friends or relative. Also, it is not possible to involve real friends in every issues as each has its own world why to disturb in every second. Online friends and social sites friends are very helpful too. I am sure they will answer or response the issues only when they are feeling free or have some solution. And yes, this is true that ideas and thoughts absolutely differ from person to person. Have a great day!! Aira

Yeah, I think you are right. Here in mylot I found it easier to discuss even personal things. Aside from me being more comfortable in writing rather than speaking, I found the liberty to share more maybe because I will not be confronted or I don't need to depend (right away) the issues I discuss and whatever opinion I aired. Hehehe!

Hi Deepak, I have always considered mylot as the ideal platform to discuss personal problems. For one, the veil of anonymity is a perfect stimulant to start such discussions. Secondly, professional help in personal matters remain just so…professional and clinical while most people here are just like you and me with similar problems and so they kind of come off with better suggestions and responses which work wonderfully for me. Thirdly, its free!!!

It is better for me to discuss really important issues with a really close friend rather than online. If its a very personal matter then I want to talk to someone who really knows me.

Hi there Deep! I must start by saying (once again) that I do not make this huge difference between online and offline. I have many friends here who are now part of my offline life too. I dislike discussing very personal problems here because I think they would not be fun topics. If I have something frivolous that is becoming a problem then yes I will discuss those. Once a discussion is submitted it is here for the whole world to see so extemely personal matters don't become part of my dicussions - unless they get resolved and become a lighter topic, then they might.

Yeah, I'm very comfortable discussing personal matters here in mylot. Actually, I consider mylot as my bestfriend. I can talk and open whatever I want. Your right, I would rather discuss it here than to my friends, because of at least some of anonymity. With your friends you cannot just ignore their views and opinions sometimes they would asked you. They want you to update them. Here in mylot It's different, if ever I will have something negative response views, it doesn't matter, it's easy to forget anyways, it's just an opinion. Happy myloting!

hi dpk! i made an almost similar discussion with yours a few days ago. i got a lot of answers saying that they find comfort by sharing their personal problems here in mylot. they said that it was a form of release for them since there are matters that would be hard for them to share without bias from their friends. since they do not know most of the people here, they get objective advices. some of them encouraged me to share personal matters here too. but in my case, i find it harder to do. i would prefer to share it with a close friend or family than share it to thousands of people from all over the world whom i have never met before. i'm just uncomfortable with that. but who knows, maybe in the future i might just open up here.

Yeah i find it easier to discuss my personal matters here than discuss it with my real life friends. i feel free here indeed and i can say everything i want . And my writing is really better than my wording. There's another secret here. Since we don't know each other we can be more free.