What do you do?

The way that I see it is that you were between a rock and a hard place! If you had started the meal then what a confusion it would have been to move everyone to another table. You could talk tot he older children and point out to them that the adults that they heard and saw were without manners. They probably did not allow you all to talk and enjoy yourselves if they were talking loudly. I don't think thgat I would have mnoved if we had begun eating and if you complained to them I think that they would have abused you royally in front of your children. Just use it as an example of what not to do in public. That we show good manners and are considerate of others. That vulgarity - like belching - is not funny in public or anywhere else. (Although boys love to belch and usually roar with laughter) At least my 3 did! There was an incident where I lost my temper in a restaurant when my children wee small but my boss is about to come back tot he office and even htough it is past my end of a days work, I cannot let him see me on this site. Not responding much these days as he is in residence

This is a big issue. I would have asked to speak for a manager. In some cities, Like Virginia Beach especially the ocean front, it is against the law to swear. They could have been removed from the resturant. I would have talked to the manager and had them deal with the situation. That is after part of their job. You could have been oved also. Who knows you may have gotten a discount. In this econnomy, the business want you to come back. If they make you happy in that situation, you will come back. I had a situation almost the same but we had eaten and my 18 month old daugher was ready to go. The Mayor came in with other city officials. Our server decided to take a break and we were waiting already almost 30 min to get our check. I called the manager over and she brought the check with a 50% discount. It was not like the server did not know because he had brought us our boxes already. It would have been bad if my children caused a big scene. The resutrant may not only lose our business but most of the City's meetings and lunches were held here. I had worked at the resturant too when it first opened. Were really did not want our children running around, we really hate that. We were done, had spent the day at the beach and were ready to go. I would have talked to the manager and at least asked that they be talked to or us moved.

I probably would have asked to be moved. I would have told the waitress or waitor why I wanted to be moved too. Then that way they would know that your family was being bothered by the customers they have there and maybe they would say something to them. I wouldn't have went up to them and said someting because that probably would have made them do it more just to upset you. I hate when people act like that out in public and especially in front of kids because kids pick things up and you don't want your children doing that.

Wow, that is bad. I probably would have asked to be moved. My first thought was I would ask the waitress to say something to them, like that there have been complaints that their voices were too loud, etc. But then I would worry that they would assume it was my family and then start to cause trouble. So I probably would just asked to be moved. I know that my kids are eventually going to learn that stuff but I would like to keep them innocent for as long as possible lol. Plus I wouldn't want them to learn those kind of bad table manners.

It sounds like these people wouldn't have stopped even if you asked them too. I would have gotten the hostess and apologized to her for the inconvience, but ask her to please be moved as far away from this group of rude people as possible. I don't understand how some people can be so gross and crude out in public!

I would have asked to either be moved to a different area of the restaurant or have them asked to leave or knock it off. I guess it depends on how inappropriate the conversation was. I might have said something myself.

I probably would have moved and if that not possible I would have left. I don't know people think they have to act like buffoons out in public it just shows how less they think of their selves and the people around them. If they was saying stuff you didn't want your children hearing maybe a word with the waitress would have worked..she would have told the manager and the manager would have had a word with them maybe. Your kids shouldn't have to listen and deal with people like that, they should have had more manners but, I guess they skipped that class.

Oh yes, I have come across plenty such groups who behave as if the world exists for them only. They are a perfect nuisance at all places, but more so at restaurants where generally people go with their family or close friends to have a nice and quiet time out. And weren’t they just too animated with everything and laughing out loud as if they were in their own sitting room? I despise such ill-mannered and insensitive breeds…I don’t care about that child in their midst…for all I know, the child is going to grow up as another pain in the arss for us. There is pretty little I can do about such situations…if there is another vacant table, I request to be moved otherwise I just hold on to my nerves, maybe joke with my son about what a perfect fool those imbeciles are making of themselves in front of everybody (though they seem oh so smug about it), try to concentrate of my food and what hubby is saying and pray that the group finishes and moves on before me (which in most cases don’t happen, the group seems to comprise of gluttons who cant get over with ordering)…I don’t tell them to shut up coz I know that the ensuring altercation will only mar my evening.

I would probably tell a waiter and ask for another table, if that didn't work, I would ask for the manager and make my complaint to him/her and ask to either be moved to another table of request that the people at the other table tone it down.

It is rough to try and handle other people being rude. Manners do seem to have gone out of style. I probably would have said something to them. If not I would have gone to the manager and asked that he/she say something.

I would have let sleeping dogs lie. In this day and age, had you have said something, the parties at the other table could have waited on you to go outside and severely beaten you or done something horrible to your kids. I'd just ignore it. Same thing with people who insist on talking on their cell phones so loudly that the kitchen staff on the other side of the restaurant can hear what they're saying.

Most of the time, I just keep my mouth shut and simmer. I have a hard time being rude, even when someone else is rude. Then there's other times, when my quirky sense of humor comes out and I get in trouble. That's when I don't care if I'm rude, I'm too caught up in the humor. (I hate it when I do it. I always regret it.) If I'm with friends with the same weird sense of humor, we play a game. If they're going to have a conversation about things I don't want to hear about, so will we. If they're going to be loud, so will we. We've had loud conversations, and I do mean loud, about incredibly stupid boring stuff. Like the best laundry soap, and get in cranky "This one is better than yours!" statements. When the other table says something (they always do) about not wanting to know about this stuff, we repeat (in detail) all the stuff we've heard from them that we didn't want to know. It's very juvenile behavior, I know. I try not to give in to these impulses. (But they sure are fun!!) I have a problem with asking management to deal with them. I have been in that situation, as a waitress. There isn't a thing I can do about it, and the manager won't do a thing either. He always tells me to handle it, and I did not have that authority. (I haven't been a waitress in 20 years, and don't plan on being one again ever) It's a nasty situation for everyone.

yeah it's unlucy to sit nearby such a group indeed . i really hate people in public are yelling , talking loud , not caring neibourhood expecially making topics which are not fit for children . In this situation i might choose to leave . Of course it will be better to let them know their behaviour is bad for other people . But what if they don't listen ?

If I would have had a choice I would have asked to move somewhere else in the restaurant and tell the waiter or whoever I ask the reason why I want to move very LOUDLY so the people beside me can hear.

woww! i would of been soooo ticked offff!!! i have a friend that doesnt care what she says around anyone..young children..elderly..she has a huge potty mouth!! and i tell her about it too! and we have been out and i have been threw what u wen threw..i first go over and nicely ask to watch what there sayinbecause of my son and if that doesnt work..i go straight to the manager..tell him i want moved and he better do somethign about it..and usually they talk to the ppl and give me a new seat..heck i ever got a free meal for us once!

Yes, I HAVE come across situations like that and, the BEST thing you can do is approach the host/hostess and politely asked to be seated in another area as soon as you noticed the loud, ill reputable language. Usually you can discover it while you wait for the drinks ordered. So, if the waiter/waitress or host/hostess does not comply, then politely leave, without drinking or paying, and, tell them why you are leaving. Most times, they will try to accommodate you, unless the place is packed. I'm not sure what type of restaurant you entered, but, I'm led to believe it appeared to be a "family oriented" one, being that you had kids so young. And, I'm quite shocked that neither the manager or owner did not approach them even before you arrived, as THAT kind of behavior causes a loss of profits from customers that act a bit more proper in public.

I haven't come across a situation like this....not for a long time. If I did I probably would have asked to be moved. There are alot of rude people out there...I also don't like those who sit next to our table talking very loud on a cell phone...I had a lady do that one time and it just about drove me nuts.....I knew way more about her personal life when I left then I wanted to know!

I have been in situations similar to yours, and it drives me crazy. For the most part I tolerate the behavior, then am just plain happy to be away from it when I leave. However, when it comes to my children I draw a line. I have asked a group of people to be mindful that children are around them. For the most part people have apologised and lowered their voice. If that didn't work I would ask to be seated at a different table. When it comes to our kids we need to be the final decision makers on what type of conversation they hear and the type of behavior they see. By moving tables you would make a point to your kids without even saying a word to them.

I'd probably ignore while secretly wishing I'd asked to be moved... I guess if they got obnoxious enough I'd ask though.

What i would have done is said something to the waitress, and asked to be moved to another table. I would not have said anything to the people at the next table because you never know what would have happened. But the waitress if asked would have been able to help you out, and if she did nothing i would have asked to speak to the manager.