which of the 3 is the most impt. in long distance relationship?

we are still together but some issues are need to be solve. We still love each other but, as a lady we always want their attention. WE always want to be cuddle as much as possible if he is only near,right? Can't really give you right advice...

i see, its okay simonelee i understand. i hope everything will be fine between you and your boyfriend. i agree wit u, we girls wanted their attention all the time.

hello there simonelee, you're just like me and im just like you, i also demand his time so that i would not doubt him. that's why i'am asking for advices so that i could weigh things up and i would know what to do. and wait, why things arent working? did u guys broke up? im sorry to hear taht. don't worry everythings will be alright, in god's time. and to think we, that are in a long distance affair have really this courage to take this risk, so we should be proud of ourselves!

Well, if he had already talked with your parents and mentioned the intention of coming back to you, trust him. Those are only words, yes. But come to think of it. Not every guy could have the courage to do so. Also, he has to keep his words to you and your parents. If he breaks his words, then he's not man enough and not worthy of your love. This isn't easy for you, I know. I'm also 22 years old like you. We were away from each other for almost 7 years. You probably do worry because you just miss the times you are together. But sooner or later, you'll learn to live your own life away from each other. I wish you the best in your relationship! :)

yes, i agree wit you i terribly miss those times. i hope so reco that i can do live my life being a far from him. what i did thesse past few weeks is to focus on my work and working out,sometimes hanging out with friends could really help a lot. im keeping my self busy a lot so that i couldnt think of him anymore like what hes doing and why did he didnt call me to avoid mis-understanding. i know i trust him but sometimes because of what people response about long distance that only few who have survive the said affair, i feel like iam doing the right thing? should i really trust him 100%? others said that im too young to take it seriously, i should be enjoying my age and exploring life, but im not like that, he was my first boyfriend and i was his first girlfriend and im so glad that we have reach our 4th year. so this really means that hes serious about it right? sometimes i wanted to give up. honestly rico, i still dont know what to do. :(

hi reco, thank you, i know its really hard to have this kind of situation. this is my first time so i decided to ask for help here in mylot. i know a lot of senseful people to talk in here. iam just 22 years old how can be life so unfair to me? lol. i think im too young to handle such serious situation. huhuhu well anyway, i know trust is really important and i know also that what i'am doing is morally wrong. i don't know know what to do because he's 4years older than me but i think iam more matured in handling relationship than him. he is my first boyfriend and likewise wit him-iam his first girlfriend. actually, before he leave he got the chance to talk with my parents and told my parents that he would come back for me and in my part its really overwhelming and grateful that he said that to my parents. but reco, is that enough or does it prove that he really loves me?

hi darlyjane, thank u for the response. i know, and i will try my very best not to think different against him. i really agree about what you've said that a lot of things really comes into my mind and it not only bothers me but also my work and everyone around me. thanks!

hi sudhajosyula, i really agree wit you that due to lack of communication there are so many break ups in relationship, lots of mis-understanding too. when we talk about communication there are lots of ways that you can use-theres the chatting, emails, or even the the older version of emailing which uses post office. ha ha ha. i miss those times. nway, i believe in the saying "if theres a will, theres a way". i always remind my boyfriend about that.

hi dear........its just 2 say sorry to u ....if u felt my any words wrong....actully i was in misconception that the boyfren u was taking about was actually ur visible boyfren....but i thought he is your internet boyfren....lol...see if u trust him and he trust u n loves u than theres no problem the only thing is than required is good communication and ur trust on him.....if any one of u hav.001% of unreliability than u both will feel pain......its up to u wat u chose dear....if u love him him than i could only pray to god that he makes u both happy and showers his blessing on the lovely couple......hav a great day.....tc

its okay, i understand. lemme guess, ur a newbie like me? he he he. welcome to mylot. maybe you havent read the mylot guidlines thats why youve response differntly. anway, thank you. so how about you? have you been into long distance affair? what do you think? will it work? or not? godspeed. :)

very well said shravandone. i strongly agree!!

hi cloud_kicker thanks for droppin by. i will take your advice. and my answer about your question about whats the difference bet. hes close and far away- whenever his close i can easily observe his actions, iam a type of girl who makes sure that iam not being fooled. ha ha ha. i always makes sure that if i can sense that hes just playing around then i will play hard but if i can see that hes serious then i will be. infairness to my boyfriend, i can tell that his serious because if his not he wont take the risk of talking to my parents and telling them how much he loves me. isnt that enough to just prove that his serious to me?

hi marty, thanks for the response. anyway, i know we can really not tell if he's telling the truth or not,I'am doing all this because of him- he is the reason why iam becoming paranoid-he have broken my trust and once you have broken it its really hard to give your 100% trust on him, actually i can't remember he dis-agree wit what i want him to do. in fact, he's trying he's best to do what i want him to do. is this enough to prove that he's sorry for what he have done? by giving what i want?

It might be. Again this is something that I sort of have experience with but not that kind. My girlfriend and I bought a house back in 2002. Finally met someone to love after a very very long time. And I thought we were going to get married. Then she backed out. Then one day she said to me "if you still want to get married, I'd be proud to be your wife." But because of before, I was happy she said that, but didn't think it was time to get an engagent ring yet. She had said that to me because her friend had told her "maybe a wedding isn't important to you, but it's important to him. Then my brother got married and had it in her yard. She loved it so much and when my brother said he would be willing to do this for us, she got real excited and jokingly asked "what are you doing in two weeks?" Her reaction made me think now, I can go out and buy the ring. After buying the ring, before giving it to her she came up with an excuse to back out again. So now, I don't think I'm ever getting married, even though we're going to be together forever. Anyway, if I ever sold the ring and at a later time, she told me she wanted to get married, I can't see myself going out and getting her anpother one just to hafve her back out again.

but why does she always do that? getting married and having a family is one of the girls dream.it maybe not all the girls but most of the girls. actually before my boyfriend went to dubai for work i jokingly told him that i wanted to get married and he answered that its not yet the right time because he still dont have a stable job and he has to help out his family. i know this is too personal but if its okay wit u to ask, what do you think why she always backed out? have you done something bad against her before that its easy for her to do that to you?

hi there vikram, thanks for the response. i will take all your advices. nway, have you tried long distance affair too?

hi neildc, thanks for the response. i will take your advice. thanks. take care blackberry. he he he.. ;)

hi elsmarie. thank you for the response. have you been to long distance relationship? happy mylotting..

ah okay. thanks janebeth. why? have you been to the same situation? what have you learned from it?

hi nigarish, i have a favor, before you comment to the discussion you should read first the whole discussion so that you will know what we are talking about. i think you didn't understand what we were talking about. to summarize it all were talking about my situation between me and my boyfriend, we were together for 3years and now he went somwhere for work- how can you tell that i never saw him when were together for a couple of years? lol. and boys i know can be trusted but they have this certain attitude that we could never detached, its their being polygamous in nature. nway, i think im out of the topic already. were just trying to talk about what is the most important thing in a long distance love affair. its not about looking for special someone here in mylot. and were not flirting! were sharing our thoughts and ideas about the topic okay? but i thank you for responding my topic even though your out of the topic. he he he. happy mylotting my friend! :)

hi meganlynn, thanks. so what do you think? even though how many years your apart as long as you have all these then youll relationship will last? how about the presence? is it not ipmortant? because ive heard thats why most of relationship fail because the both parties tend to look for someone who is present in the place and i think another reason why they cheat because of being homesick. what is your opinion abuot that?