Dating - Do you split bills?
By krodrigues
@krodrigues (76)
Canada
July 27, 2009 3:03pm CST
For all of you mylotters currently in a relationship...how do you pay for the bill?
Do you expect a man to pay for it on his own, split the bill half-and-half with your partner, or do you have some other sort of arrangement?
11 responses
@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
27 Jul 09
My boyfriend usually doesn't let me pay for his meals when we go out! Most of the time he pays for the both of us, or we each pay for ourselves. He says he feels bad if he makes me pay for him! He also makes a lot more money than me, so maybe he'd feel differently if I earned more than him!
@krodrigues (76)
• Canada
27 Jul 09
I think that ultimately, that's what it should come down to. If one is unemployed and the other financially stable, they should be the ones to step up to the plate. It's all about taking care of each other. Thanks for replying!
@chi2nasrin (1101)
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
My boyfriend pays for the bill. I wish I can pay but I am currently not working so he has to pay all my bills for now. :-p
@UK_Shree (3603)
•
27 Jul 09
It depends on the situation. I think once you have been in a long-term, committed relationship, things are rarely split half and half, especially when it comes to paying for things like dinner. I think at that point, the couple usually feel that whatever they have, they share, so there is little point in splitting the bill.
In the early stages of a relationship I do think that both parties should try and contribute equally - it is the 21st century after all!
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
27 Jul 09
traditionally, a gentleman must pay for the bills everytime he invited a lady go out for dinner, or he should insist on pay for the bill everytime. Right now, the trend should change. Maybe everyone should take turn to pay the bills. Now, it is not up to the gentleman to pay for the bills everytime. It should be fair to everyone here.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
28 Jul 09
It really depends. In our country man are the one paying the bills, they won't allow their lady to pay the bills because they find it as an insult. When we dine out sometimes i insist to split the bill but, we often give and take.
@NarsTakiko (38)
• United States
27 Jul 09
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Most couple I know they don't split it but instead they just arrange it by occasion or depends on what particular events to celebrate, if its big deal the man should shoulder it. If its minimal it's the lady to take care of it or vice versa.
@KupoSin (680)
• United States
27 Jul 09
well sometimes we alternate paying the bill. other times we can split the bill, but most of the time we just order one thing and split it.
i believe at a teen it is more acceptable for people in a relationship to split the bill, mainly since you both probably dont have a income really. its too much of a burden for the guy paying every single thing.
@bluehibiscus (702)
• United States
27 Jul 09
Traditionally he pays, I mean I but little things but it is kind of understood in both of our cultures that the man provides, in contrast I am always the one who does the cooking, cleaning, etc...
@busybeekorner (18)
• United States
27 Jul 09
If I was asked out on a date, I would offer to pay 1/2 of the bill. If I asked someone out, I went expecting to pay 100% of the bill.
In the relationship I'm in now, we've lived together for almost 2 years, with him being the sole breadwinner at this time, when we go out, he knows he's paying. Besides, our money was pooled together when I was working. I'm old school in that way of thinking. When I'm in a serious relationship that involves marriage or living together, money gets put together for the bills, and any left over get split.
@Ambitiouslyleiah (591)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I give my boyfriend a little money how ever much he ask for to go towards bills He tries to leave me with plenty of spending/savings money, but he takes care of most of it.
@shravandone (555)
• India
27 Jul 09
well...so far im wasn on any date....but unless the gal is pretty cool i don mind coughing it entirely....