when you forgive, do you also forget?

I usually forgive, but not until I've been mad for a while, held a grudge, not talked to that person for a period of time & made it well known that what they did was not ok. I never forget. I espeically want to remember if the person does the same thing again & not to be fooled by them again if they do not change their ways.

It is possible that we can forgive and forget. But our mins aren't like computers that we can just delete bad memories. Some thing couldn't be forgotten especially when they left a big mark or a scar in our hearts.

I forgive with time but It takes me much more time to forget because when I see and hear something similar to what I had to undergo then I immediately think of the situtaion and I remind everything back again as if it was yesterday.I believe when we say that we have forgiven someone then we have really feel at that time that we can forgive what we have been enduring however to forget something completely is like deleting that folder from your computer but we have a brain, a memory which we keep active and it becomes difficult to completely forget something when we are facing a simialar situation, we tend to remember everything again.

I'm a person with a strong memory so whenever I remember about it I can feel hurt again. But of course we can't forget because we don't lose our memory so I think it's normal and ok it you still can't forget. Better not forget it and be careful not to fall in the same trap. I mean, don't be stupid for two times and nothing wrong with remember bad things that ever happened to you. It can teach you some lessons and teach you to always take care and be careful. what've already done can't be undone but what already done can be repaired. So, don't forget about the bad things and give that people time to repaired all his/her bad behavior.

Actually one's you forgive you should leave that grieve behind as you both continues living. In short you've to forget. Forgiveness can be easily grant to people but not whole . It takes a process before you can forget it. That's why if you havent forget it means you havent totally gave forgiveness. You just need acceptance and with the help of your partner if his apologize is really heartfelt he will help you to overcome this situation. To forgive is to forget. So if you want a harmonous relationship. Don't bring the past back in the present.

You NEVER forget. Most of the time you never totally forgive. You may say you do, but it will always be at the back of your mind.

Well,i do forgive and sometimes i do forget but certain feelings i cant get over it.Yes,we all should forget and forgive but i think we cant forgive or heal the bad act.But when we said we are forgiving or forgetting then we should do it from mind.I think so.

it's easy to forgive when i don't see the person. But to forget.. man.. that'll take time. It's not easy when i've been hurt.

Time is the best cure. Before forget in due time, it is hardly possible to forgive, but considering other factors, say his overall personality, previous positive to you, you might be willing to try forgive. When the other is positively reacting, it might come up with a real forgive. At least with me, hard to forgive when deeply hurt.

It all depends on what I'm forgiving some one for. If its something frivolous yes no problem. I can forgive and forget. If its something major I will forgive but I will never forget.

Never. Those who forget the past, are doomed to repeat it.

To forgive somebody is great help to ourself. When we forgive some person our mind get clear for him. And between two peoples bad opinions finishes. Also you forget everything which is bad for your mind.

It's nice they tend to apologize in the end..but in my case, either they forget or simply do it to others until they get screwed in the end. i have forgiven them, but some times the feel of that pain comes back when ever i see people experience the same thing that happened to me. but fully i haven't forgotten the terrible things that they did to me.

Its better to forgive and forget. Becoz once you forgive the person it tells that you want to forget and heal the hurt thing happen to you and you want to move on. But if you can't forget the hurt things and yet you forgive the person. It only show your forgiveness is not open heart and you haven't fully forgiven the person. Bcoz of this you keep comming back in the past argeument rather living it in the past and forget and let it be the lesson for the future for you to move on.

It all depends on what they did and if they apologized. If they did something hurtful but they imediately apologized and it was from the heart, then I do forgive they and I do forget. But if they don't apologize or it isn't from the heart, then I Never forget.

I do forgive, but its hard 4 me to forget. If they r the ppl i knw and im closely associated with, then i forget too...but if its with ppl im not so closely associated, then i cant forget even if i forgive.

[b]No. Often, you must remember. Not wallow in the memory, but simply keep the information. Think about it. Say you're raped. You know the one who did it, & you can forgive him with all your heart, even think of him without rancor, but do you forget he his behavior? Of course not! That way, you know never to go around him again! Forgiveness comes from remembering your own sins, thus you aren't proud, & setting yourself up as "better" than others. We're all sinners. But nowhere does the Christian faith insist you forget what happened. You simply learn to feel pity for the one who wronged you, pray for him, & go on. A corollary of that is when YOU commit a spiritual error (sin). You get forgiveness when you repent, but you must remember that you sinned, & take care not to put yourself in such a situation where you might so so again. If you forgot, how would you know to avoid remaking your own mistakes? It's just common sense. Maggiepie "WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]

Forgive and forget. Although we do not really forget you are suppose to file it away in the back of your mind, as if you forgot. Never to be mentioned as if you forgot. If the offender repeats the hurtful experiences then you have reason to break the relationship.

i dont know. im like you i forgive easily and try to put everything out of my mind that happened and dont carry a grudge. but, if the person just goes on and does things against me over and over (like my sons gf) i say "screw it" after a while and then stop forgiving and start thinking of revenge

Hello friend, If you forgive, you should also forget. It is true that sometimes. It hard to forget the pain that done someone unto us. But there is not better than to forgive and forget for not being an slave of the bitter days... Life never tell us what really are the perfect things to be done for us not mistakenly err in many ways. We need to remember that life is fill of miseries and one part of it is, was pain, hurt, and loneliness... Happy mylotting...!!!