Mother Issues.
By ShibbyKid
@ShibbyKid (279)
United States
July 28, 2009 1:33pm CST
Please do not mix up the title, i am not saying i hate my mother. She is the best mother in the world in my eyes. I just have had a problem this morning with her. Not a fight, a concern. This is the second year she has caught me with cigarettes, but i am not smoking them. I admit, last year i did. But this year, no, they were not for me. But how will she believe me? I mean to catch your daughter once and have her convince you when she was, then catch her again the next year... Pretty bad. I do not know how or what to tell her. She did not know i previously smoked and i doubt she will listen to the ones who know i quit. Any advise? If not, do not be sorry, i will give it time.
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3 responses
@Improbability (140)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I'm going to be honest with you, ok? You have pretty much tossed trust out the window here, because you did, indeed, lie to her. And instead of telling the truth then, and possibly retaining some trust and respect, you are now in an even worse hole. No, she won't believe you, and either way she is either going to know or assume you were probably smoking the first time, confirming the lie. You should tell her the truth. There is a good chance she still won't believe you, but it is the only way for you to make up some ground here. Especially if the truth comes out voluntarily instead of forced, which would make it less credible. Besides, at least then YOU will know that you told the truth. This is so important! I gave this exact advice to my sister who has almost the exact story, so feel free to friend me/message me if you want to talk more.
And it was by far a stupid move to keep them on you (holding for a friend, I suppose) but I'm guessing you've figured that part out by now.
@ShibbyKid (279)
• United States
28 Jul 09
Yeah, i guess that would be my best move to make. I do admit it was extremely stupid on my part. But i was too young then to tell her and so afraid, i thought i would never let it happen again. It blew my mind because i did not even remember i had them cuz yes i was holding them for a friend, but never gave them back to him. I will talk to my mother today about this, thank you so much. You are great help.
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@Improbability (140)
• United States
29 Jul 09
I am so happy to help! Seriously, if you were able to listen to me and take something away from it, then that's great. I think you are going to be fine. :)
@ShibbyKid (279)
• United States
29 Jul 09
She did listen and was proud of my honesty. Oh and she was so mad to find out this long from it. But she is glad i came to my senses and quit. We are okay again, so everything is better, thanks again for all of your help. It really means a lot.
@EsmeraldaB (309)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Tell her that they are not yours.
That you understand why she will not believe you.
That,that is the truth and it wont change.
There is a 50% 50% that she will change her mind.
If she does not tell her you are find with that.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
2 Aug 09
mothers do that. because maternal care. maternal smoking did not want to make you sick. your mother dear to you. do not have the prejudice that it is done with your mother. mothers do so because you still care and love. if your mother does not love, he will not be concerned with anything that you do.
