independence??

You raise a really interesting question. When I think of independence on a individual level, I think of someone who is able to make decisions on their own. Taking action in their lives and knowing what they want to do in their life. Someone who know their own mind and wouldn't bow down to societal biases or prejudices. When it comes to independence in a relationship, I believe that although two people love each other and want to be together, this doesn't mean that the other person should completely rely on the other to do everything, make every decision, take the lead in their lives. I believe that physically and emotionally and mentally, each person have, to a certain degree, the independence to make judgments on what's best for each other as well as for themselves. This includes taking action on their own without their partner being their. Strong enough to stand with their partner on all levels, and if one does leave or die, the other will be strong enough for the memory of the other to continue live life the best way they can instead of choosing to let's say remarry just for the sake of having someone to do things for them.

i think you are mixing up two different aspects. independence means freedom of expression. what you do or do not do is a matter of choice. you decision may be influenced by your attitude, environment or society. your act may or may not be accepted by others but the final decision is yours. remarrying is more linked to emotional aspect. and your decision is based on your emotions. you are independent to act in accordance to the final decision you reach.