Why is this guy acting this way?
@classicelfryoko (109)
United States
July 28, 2009 8:26pm CST
Okay theres this guy I liked[had to force myself to stop liking him because he had a baby and a live in girlfriend]I flirted with him, and all that good stuff at first before I ever knew he had a girlfriend. As a matter of fact he didn't damn well mind it, because he was flirting back with me too. The only time he stopped was when I told him that I liked him, and then he tells me oh i'm sorry..but I have a girlfriend and walks off.
Yeah I felt stupid, and I was hurt for a small while after that, and was adjusting to it.
Now back to my question.. Mind you this happened...i'd say about 2-3 weeks after I told him I liked him. Well yesterday at work, he was flirting with me all kind of weird...just out of the blue to. He would come up and talk to me, which he never did before. He would do something stupid on purpose infront of me, and make me laugh or smile at him. And then when I was finally alone at work, he came up to me and tried to make casual, with hints of flirt conversation. And he would also stand really really close to me.
Well as my shift had ended I decided to say bye to him but didn't, and walked off to clock out. I saw him from the corner of my eye walk behind me the whole way. When I got to the clock out room, I just flung the door open and it hit him on the way in. and he yelled after me "so you can't even hold the door for me?" He didn't say it in an angry tone, but whatever.
Okay so he clocks out, and I wait a few minutes before I do. He steps back, smiles at me and then tells me to have a good night. I think I told him you too, or something like that. Well as he turns around to walk away...not even i'd say 5 steps he turns around and looks at me. And I look away ofcourse.
Now my question is why did he look back at me for? And why did he do all those things?I'm not hoping for anything with him. This just bugs me. I want to leave it alone, but I guess it bothered me enough to post it on the internet and get you guys opinions.
3 responses
@classicelfryoko (109)
• United States
29 Jul 09
thankyou elsmarie..I hope I do one day. I am so lonely.
@wickidgemini (11)
• United States
2 Nov 09
hmmmm.....
As long as I was single I ran into this alot. There were some that wanted to take it further and some that didn't. So my advise to you is though you might like this guy I would suggest that you start sending out your "I do not like you vibes". Though he wouldn't cheat on his other half he's enjoying the teasing because he misses that at home and its a ego boost for him that someone else still finds him nice/attractive enough to flirt with him so he's enjoying it. So I would stop looking at him and stop flirting with him. Being friends with someone doesn't mean you have to flirt with him. I hope that makes since. The way to start this is to ask him (remind him) so what are you and your girl doing this weekend? Make it no secret to him you got dates or talking to other men (whether you do or don't doesn't matter). This will let him know that hey....you see him as a friend and if he approches you with "hey I though you liked me?"...or "hey you want to do something later?" that is when you say..."no..... you got a girl you untouchable...:-D and I do not dig being the "other girl" ". That will put him in his place but chill things between ya'll so you can be friends/co-workers and be comfortable.
Right now you are a threat for her and he's loving the thrill....though the other half doesn't know it and that is what makes it more fun. But if he ran away when you said you liked him that meant reality hit him in the head so he had to back off from you and let things chill between ya'll but he missed the fun ya'll were having. It sounds to me he just wants to be friends and he thinks your a great person to and would be fun to hang out with....absolutely harmless but you need to let him know that your cool with that to.:-D Good Luck
Rene'
@prashanthalva (2272)
• India
29 Jul 09
These things Do Happen with Girls Who are Confused About what they do with their life .. Don't Mistake me .. I Am telling you something which May be harsh, But it is True .. So Don't ever Look At him .. Don't talk to him, Ignore Him .. He Still thinks You're Interested in Him .. He Wants to take advantage of that ..He Wants To Double time You .. Do not let this Happen you do Deserve better things In Life .. All the Best .. I think I Have Helped .. Thank You ..
@classicelfryoko (109)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Hello prashanthalva,
You are right about one thing, I am confused about where my life is heading. And hopeless with all these crazy men who don't give a damn about serious relationships. But anywho.. I did try what you have stated before for the main reason that he has a girlfriend. I don't want to ruin that for them. I wouldn't want that to happen to me if I was in a relationship. I believe that there is someone for everyone...but why hasn't mine come along..I feel so..inadequete.
I think you're also right about him still thinking i'm interested in him, but i'm pretty sure he doesn't want to do anything past his small talk that he's bringing.
He has my phonenumber I think. Or atleast I gave it to him before I knew he had a girlfriend. I always think that he'll call one day..he's a sweet guy..but he's not *my* guy. or that *one* for me.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
29 Jul 09
gosh! stay away from that man. The guy has something back in his mind, hes intention is not good, he only want you to be in bed. Men are not satisfied with one girl(generally).This guy won't stop you until he gets you. Just be careful with him and with your act.
@classicelfryoko (109)
• United States
29 Jul 09
He doesn't want me like that, and he has stated that. :/ I'm guessing he just misses the ego boosting I was giving him when I didn't know that he had a girlfriend. I'm not making excuses for him, but I do know that he's not the player type.
