How close are you to the 'Childcare" as parents and non parents..?

I think in some instances this could happen. The love of parents can never be duplicated. I am very close with my daughter who is not a child but an adult and has children of her own. We all have a connection. I think the child care aspect is very sad. It has caused alot of problems with kids. Alot of single parents that don't have family that will watch children for them. It is a disgrace to all the children of America that this has to be the case.

hmm what do you think is a woman's role? to just stay at home and raise the kids or also help the husband in providing? well, personally, i do employ a nanny who takes care of my kids but it does not mean that i do not give my kids attention,i work from 8 in the morning till even 6 in the evening and when i am at home, i make it a point to be able to see the needs of my kids, i cook for them and even let them help me cook to also have a bonding moment with them. so see? it does not mean that i am away the whole day i cannot give them the affection and love that they need. i also give them my time like stories before they go to bed, or cuddle them to sleep or watch cartoons with them and even help them with their homework. my being as a career woman does not undermine my role as a mother for them, even if i have to make sacrifices like do the laundry so early in the morning so at night i could give them my time.. i also explain it to them that i need to work to be able to help their father for us to be able to provide them with a great education and future.We are not working just to merely provide them with facilities and material things but we are working for them to have stable future.

Just because both parents have to work doesn't make the child neglected. I am not a working mom and I was lucky that my mom didn't have to work and my dad made enough money to support all of us. But a lot of my friends have parents that both work and they were put in daycare/babysitters after school until they were old enough to watch themselves after school and that isn't neglect at all. Yes their parents wish they could've spent more time with their children, but you have to do what you have to do in order to support your family.

Hi rajib, My children are long grown up and gone and I have grandchildren but they are either in daycare or have a sitter. When our children were growing up my wife stayed at home until our youngest started school. Now however, it's nearly impossible to manage with just one parent working unless that parent has a big salary or the family is rich. I really think that it's best for the child when one of the parents are able to stay at home but there would have to be some big changes before that could happen. Blessings.

I am just a student in early Childhood education.However I am very close to the children in the kindergarten where we are all doing our practical.For me, being very close with the children is a good thing for me as it will develop a basic trust in them. When there is a trust from children towards us, we can easily teach them. In a way there will be a chance for us to see what the child likes and also their abilities, needs and potentials.

In my experience I am to close to child welfare. I'm a working mother, when I go to work I leave my baby to my parents. But before I go to work I make sure that my babies needs was prepared already. And after working hours I have to rush home. But when I was in the house I spend time with my baby while she still awake and she sleep in my bed. If I had a out of town work. I'm leaving my baby to my parents complete with her needs and time to time we had communication. With regards to others' children. It has a big difference. You have replace the love of their parents bcoz some parents are workaholic and some are compitent to leave the care to the nani bcoz of work, leasure and so on. So in the end the child is more nearer to the nani rather than the mother. I'm close to my child and other children bcoz they feel the love, care and affection they feel.

Hi Rajib, Though unintentional on your part, yet you are making many working mothers like me, feel very very guilty indeed, all over again. Sometimes I am really confused as to what should ideally be the purpose of a woman’s life? Stay at home and raise children or put our education (which our parents worked very hard for us to get) to good use and take up an office job! Personally, my heart tells me to stay at home and care for my son but my head tells me to go out and earn and be a support to my husband (you know how times are, no job guarantee in the private sector)…but I think I have been somewhat lucky till now. My in-laws took excellent care for my son till he was 8yrs old and now for the past two years, my parents take care of him in the day time. I am sure you will agree that grandparents are far more better than hired help or poor relatives, though they do tend to spoil the kids a little too much.

Looking at my two sons today I think I have been a pretty good mother. I helped my two sons with their school lessons at home when they were small, taught them to become good human and I helped shape their lives to become successful people in their own rights. When you give your children love and a certain amount of freedom, they will not abuse it but, of course, we do take a certain amount of risk. But when you trust them, they will not me you down. Even today, before I make a major decision, I consult all of them via email or phone because I value their opinions. When you invest your time and energy, you get close to them and they will also be open with you. As children grow and mature, they become more our equals and friends and this is the best relationship we can have with them. I am very close to my two boys and my two girls. As parents and children we need each other. We learn from our children just as they learn for us.

Hello my friend krajibg Ji, You may understand me well to remain good paren and as a good motjher, as I left my job after marrying and never ever repented for that. You have expressed very well tentency and culture of thses days. It applies to our younger son and his wife as well. May god bless You and have a great time.

I totally agree with Sudipta.You are making us guilty. I have been married for the past 2.5 years and have a son who is just 1.5 years of age.I had to take up a job when he was just 4 months old.It was the toughest decision which i had to take because due to growing need of money i had to go out and be a helping hand to my husband. I am also lucky in this regard.My in laws take very good care of my child and when they are away,it is my parents who keep him. I want to stay at home with my son but situations are not in my favor.We need money for his education and for his bringing up.For this i have to work and there is no other alternative.Even sometimes i feel that i am doing wrong by not spending my time with him but i hope he understands the whole situation when he grows up.

frankly i see no problem at all if the children would be left in the care of the grandparents provided of course there is another set of helping hands for grandparents are not physically adept anymore to care for the young ones. someone who is a blood relative, and a mature one at that, should oversee how a child is taken cared of by a help. personally, the mere distance of my family to my parents and in laws is one of the reasons why i chose to stay at home. and you're right that even children from well to do families are neglected. and i've seen this first hand. i've been an elementary or primary school teacher of rich kids.

My dad and mum are very close to me and they take care of all my needs.So I am happy to born as their child...................................