Best Age to become a Grandparent?
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
United States
July 29, 2009 3:03pm CST
I was pondering this as I hung out my wash thinking my friend from HS was a grandma @ 34! Other than the fact her daughter was way toooooo toooo young at 15. But in all you still have some spunk in ya to handle helping out with the grand kids.
I think someone in their late 40's to early 50's would probably be the perfect age. You aren't too old yet, but old enough to know better than your own kids & of course your kids are out of the house.
Whereas my mom & my IL's are in their early 70's and they don't have any pep to even try to do anything with the kids for the most part. It kinda makes me sad. But my Aunt has stepped in and is like a surrogate Grandma to them & wants to do things with them though she's no spring chicken anymore either.
What do you think is an ideal age to be a Grandparent at?
Whereas my mom & my IL's are in their early 70's and they don't have any pep to even try to do anything with the kids for the most part. It kinda makes me sad. But my Aunt has stepped in and is like a surrogate Grandma to them & wants to do things with them though she's no spring chicken anymore either.
What do you think is an ideal age to be a Grandparent at?2 people like this
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@xfahctor (14118)
• Lancaster, New Hampshire
29 Jul 09
Well, lol, I was a "grandfather" at age 37. I am actualy a "papa". I can deal with that term a little better. Grandfather evokes images of white beards, canes, geritol and bad sweaters. My step daughter (raised her since she was 3 so I'm "dddy") had her first child, my grand daughter when she was 21. Since then, she has had two more and I am the proud "papa" of 2 grand sons and a grand daughter.
I love it. On my my-space, I list in my "heros's" section, "...my grandchildren, for exacting my long awaited karmatic justice on my daughter", lol.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
19 Aug 09
That's very sweet of you to think of your grandkids that way. I hear you about the stereo typical "grandparent" image being of someone old who can just barely get by on their own.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Ideally, when your children are ready. It doesn't matter what YOUR age is, your grandchildren will adjust so you can enjoy each other.
My sons are 20 and 21 and I pray that I'm not a grandma before they are at least 25-30!! A person should experience life before they give life so that they can guide and teach.
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@ElicBxn (63568)
• United States
29 Jul 09
my mom was 60, and she had plenty of pep - I knew a lady who was just 40 and already had 3 grands, it was because she had her first child at 18 and that child had one at 18 - so she was 36 when she became a grandmother - her daughter had another child and then her son had one when he was 19 - and she was 40 - so...
Personally, I went from thinking I was too young to have a kid in my 20's to being too old in my 30's.... The small kitten in my avatar is my #2 son, I have 2 cats I call sons and a grandson cat (no, not the child of one of the 2 sons, but I picked up his mom the day before she had to have an emergency c-section)
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Guess having babies at a young age runs in your friends genes, she obviously had her child real young too.
I will be 37 when my oldest turns 20, so I could be a grandma before I'm 40, but I hope not. My twins will be hitting their 20's when I'm in my mid-40's, and I think that would be about perfect for me.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
Wow, that's young! Mostly anyone by the age of 34 will still be a dad instead of granddad. Ah well, he can be great granddad by the of of 50! And around 20 years later, he can become great great granddad!
I don't think anyone is too old for any stage of life, except being a parent by the of 15 or younger. This is the age of being a kid and have fun and study, not hold a responsibility of rearing kids and work. His daughter is marrying too young.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I hear ya my friend had her oldest @ 18 & her oldest had her first @ 15. Only differance is my friend delived as a married woman atleast, her daughter is not. Her youngest ran away this spring for a few mo's & came back pg & lost the baby abt 3 weeks ago to Turners Syndrome & other complications. I dunno, two teenagers as moms & being a 34yo widow.... man that's too much!
@justbeingtiffany (1156)
• United States
29 Jul 09
wow that is pretty young i'm sorry i think the best age i want to be a grand parent is at age 50 or 55. that sounds just about right because i want a baby at 25 then she can have a baby at 27 or what ever. i say this because my mom had my sister at a young age and she struggled and she still is but shes doing way better than she ever did.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
30 Jul 09
i would have been very upset being called grandma in my 30's 
(although i would have accepted it)
i would think 50's minimum would be better.middle is perfect age.
my poor grandma was 65 when i was born,i'm sure it was trying on her occasionally.
(although i would have accepted it)
i would think 50's minimum would be better.middle is perfect age.
my poor grandma was 65 when i was born,i'm sure it was trying on her occasionally.
@arunmails (3011)
• India
30 Jul 09
I think this option is not in our hands.. Because, it depends upon our son/daughter. And I think that this is one of the funniest question that I ever heard...
Best Age to become a Grandparent?? What makes you to ask this question???
@sblossom (2168)
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30 Jul 09
i think now people can live longer than before. so if you are a grandparent when you just at your late 40's or early 50's, it would be too early for you.
in fact in some countries for some people it's a perfect age to be a parent.
if you have grandchildren so early, it would mean you will take responsibility for your next two generation. how can you do take it? how can you enjoy your life.
i think for people before 40 years old , it is a good time to work hard and enjoy life. later when you have economical fundation and your life is becoming stable, you can have your child, if you are lucky, at your 70's you can have your grand children. i think it's idea for me.
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
30 Jul 09
i also think early 50's is the best age to be grandparents. It's a pity that i just got married too later and i will be a grandmother at about sixty , i think.
Of course nowadays sixty is not old . People at sixty just look pretty young now.
Who knows what happen in the future , you just cann't imagine.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
no definite age... it will only reminds u that u married to young to have children. and that ur children are too young to get married to have kids...
best thing is... just enjoy being a grandma as it shows that ur family is growing...
