Do you live in the same city as your family?

@themdno (402)
United States
July 29, 2009 10:03pm CST
So, do you live in the same city as your family (Mom, Dad & brothers or sisters), or did you move away? I would like to move to another city, but all of my family lives here in Tucson. I know I'd miss everybody too much to live somewhere else for very long. But, it would help my career, so I'm not sure what to do. If you do live away from your family, how long have you been away? How often do you talk to them?
21 responses
• New Zealand
30 Jul 09
My entire immediate family lives in my city. My mum,dad,stepdad, both sets of grandparents and step dads parents and my dads brother and sister. My mum is an only child like me. Infact my dad and I live in the same area as his sister, cousin and parents and my mum and step dad live in the same area as both of their parents. I talk to my family almost every day and am quite close to them. Perhaps as im an only child and have no cousins on either side of the family. Im passionate about travelling and hope to spend a few months working in Europe in the next two years and will miss them all sorely, but I know I will be fine as home will always be waiting for me.
@themdno (402)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yeah, I guess that's true. Home is always waiting for me if I decide I want to move back. Do you think you could ever move away for good? Or would that be too much?
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
my family is 5 hours far from me..i am in a different city because i chose to study away from them for me to become in dependent..i am on my 5th year in studying my course and a graduating student..we communicate through text, because unfortunately it's very costly if we communicate through call..
@themdno (402)
• United States
30 Jul 09
You guys should get webcams or something. Get a small mic and you guys could talk for free and be able to see each others faces. It may be too expensive, but it's an idea. I may do that if I decide to move.
@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
I live far away from my family. Different state, and I don't think any of my family member can come here. There is no phone line too in here, and if I want to make a phone call, I need to climb a hill, so usually I will call my family twice or triple times a week. Sometimes it good to be far from family, so I less stress thinking about my family problems and I also get to know new people and able to have a new experience too.
@themdno (402)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yeah, I'll miss my family, but I know what you're saying. It's nice to be away from it all for awhile. It's good to do your own thing. I'm like that, but I know I'll miss them a lot, too.
@nehaagra (848)
• Singapore
30 Jul 09
No i don't live in the same city as my family, infact i don't live in the same country. It takes me full day to reach my parents and bro's and sis's and cousions, and i make a visit once a year. But yep i do call every week once atleast or sometimes more...., Earlier i did missed them a lot, but now i got adjusted here, and have my own small family of 4...
@themdno (402)
• United States
30 Jul 09
That's nice, it's good to now that you got adjusted and are happy there. That gives me hope I can get adjusted, too. I was worried I'd just be homesick until I move back.
@aschip (166)
• India
30 Jul 09
I stay with my parents, yeah in the same city of course :)
@themdno (402)
• United States
30 Jul 09
As soon as I could get out of my parents house, I did. I was gone. I like being in the same city/state as them, but the same house is too close for me, haha!
• United States
30 Jul 09
I don't live in the same city as my family, in fact I don't even live in the same state lol. My family is about a 1000 miles away and I've been gone for almost 3 years now. It's nice to be out experiencing other states but also sucks because when I need help say with my kids, i can't get it, and they are always a long distance phone call and it's harder to go visit because we actually have to plan and make sure that we have the money. Hope that helps.
@themdno (402)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yeah, definitely. Thanks. Getting out and experiencing other states is also a big reason I want to leave. I love Tucson, but I want to see what it's like living in some other states, too.
@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
30 Jul 09
My whole family lives up in CT and I'm in FL...so we are about 1200 miles apart...I moved out when I went to college...but I go home at least once a year now. My boyfriend lives with me in FL and all of his family is in Chicago...we both talk to our families just about everyday. I like living away from them because if I lived closer my mom would try to control more of my life because 1200 miles isn't really stopping her from trying right now lol.
@kezabelle (2974)
30 Jul 09
I live about 280 miles away from my family, I have lived here for almost 7.5 years now I moved here to be with my partner and we have made a wonderful life here with our own little family together. I speak to my family every week but email my mum several times a day and my sisters. We visit often but not so much at the moment since my eldest started school and my mum had to have an operation on her spine. It was hard at first and I had the love of my life to help me cope with how hard it was but it truely does get easier you learn how to still be a family despite living apart and its no less wonderful just different to families who live close to one an other. Be prepared to travel to see them make sure you have good internet connection and a webcam a family can be together without actually being together if that makes sense x
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
30 Jul 09
As of now I still live with my parents. I am 19, so as soon as I get the cash I will be moving out. Don't know exactly how soon that will be, but still. I don't know if I will move to another city or not. I really want to travel, but I don't know when I will be able to get the money to do so.
@sonusd (1547)
• India
30 Jul 09
in India we generally stay together until unless the child goes to work out side of the town , we father, mother, son,daughter, daughter in law, grand son, grand daughter, every one and me also staying with my father, mother and also with brother and sister in law and I feel proud to stay like this
@themdno (402)
• United States
30 Jul 09
That is nice, I would be happy to stay this way too. But, I also know I might not get a second chance at what I want to do. I don't want to always wonder what would have happened...
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
30 Jul 09
For most of my adult life, I lived about 30 minutes away from my parents, but 2 years ago, I moved 900 miles away. Is it tough? Yes, I miss them horribly and really wish we could visit more often. On the other side of the coin though, I moved woth my husband and together, we are doing wonderful where we moved. We moved here to be close to his son, who became my son when we got married. We couldn't bring the boy to us so we came to him. This move has opened up a world of opportunities to us that we wouldn't have had where we were. I talk to my Mom at least once a week. Normally, I talk to her every couple of days. Lately, we have both been pretty busy though so we haven't talked as much. I was worried about moving, I knew it would be hard on me, but it was necessary for my family, so I did it. It was very hard for the first 6 months to a year, but now, it isn't bad. I may have to drive for 12 hours to go visit them, and it is not something that happens often at all, but I know that my kids and I are all doing well and my marriage is strong. It was definately hard, but I think it really was time for me to spread my wings and fly. If you have an opportunity to better yourself, don't hesitate. Opportunity doesn't come knocking too often. Your family will be there and you will be able to talk and visit. No matter how many miles there are between you, I guarantee, if you are a close family, you will still stick together.
@themdno (402)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yeah, that is good, to be there with your son, and that you have your own family there, I'm sure makes a huge difference. I'm not too worried about moving, if I have to, but it might be hard because I'll be going by myself. I'm sure I'll meet new people, but at first I think I'll go crazy!.
@schlei (132)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
Yup, I do! Actually, I still live with my mother. And my siblings' family are living in the same city as well. If I remember correctly, my whole clan has lived in the same city for generations.
• United States
30 Jul 09
I live very close to my family, always have. My husband and I are going to be stationed away from home, and found out that we were only going to be about 4 1/2 miles away. We wanted to get away from home to see what its like being completely on our own, but I am sort of relieved because I am pregnant and if he gets deployed then our family is close enough to us that I wont be alone. I think after we get used to them not always being there that we will be ready to move further away. If it is something that would help your career and your future you should take the chance. Even if you miss them, you can still phone them. One day you will have to move away, so why not do it when it will benefit you now! Good luck, I know how hard it can be!
@themdno (402)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Thanks, I'm sure I'll do it if I get the chance. It'll be hard missing my family, but they're not that far away. Just a phone call.
• United States
30 Jul 09
Actually yes most of my family is here in cali the immediates but i have alot of cousin and branch fam all over from texas to pennslyvania
• United States
30 Jul 09
I live in the states and my parents lives overseas in Denmark europe, I have been living here with my husband and son for the last 6 years. We don't see one another very often but we skype a lot, exchange email often so I don't see it as an issue -ofcourse I miss out on birthdays and other family events but I am a firm believer that we all need to follow our hearts and do what each of us feels is right. If we have a dream and a goal that we want to follow there are sometimes certain sacrifices we need to make, who knows what tomorrow brings. I believe that if we don't reach for the opportunities when they come our way, we won't get anywhere in life and who knows when the next train is going to be there. We only live once and we want to make the best out of it while we can.
• China
30 Jul 09
no . very far away and that's around 15hours traveling by train.. i seldom go back to the the family after i joined the work.sometimes i really miss my mum and dad but i have no time and need to work..life is hard during the recession so i will go back to see them once my sistuation turns better.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Our family lives in the same city as my mother, brother's family, and sister. My husband's family lives in a small town about 25 minutes from us. We are all very close. We've considered moving away at a couple different times, but then we realize that our situation wouldn't be better anywhere that we went and in certain ways it would be worse. First off, we wouldn't know anyone. There would be no more free childcare. No where that my husband would work would be as tolerant as the place that he works now. Plus, our city is a great place to raise a family.
• United States
30 Jul 09
No i don't live with my parents. I am working in one of the metros in india and my patents stay in a place which is appx seven hours by road. They don't like to be in Metro and are happy where they live.
@caughie (32)
30 Jul 09
hi there, i live in the same town as my mum, step-dad and brothers, but not my real dad. i havent seen or heard from him in about 10yrs. i also have 3 half sisters whom i've never met. i know they all live in england somewhere, and that i have at least 1 niece. thinking about trying to find them.
• United States
30 Jul 09
I live far away from my family. My Dad and brother and sister live in Houston, my mom and step dad got a job in Russia so they live there, and my older siblings live in Colorado and Alaska. I'm married and live here in Austin Texas. It took some getting used to but its pretty good. You learn that you like your space and develop a whole new you!