pain from your partner or seeing your kids getting affected?
By ghail26
@ghail26 (12)
Philippines
July 30, 2009 9:52am CST
im married for eight and a half years with 3 kids. trials do come and go. but there is really one that really broke my heart. i caught my husband hugging somebody else and he chose to be with the girl.. he chose the girl over us(me and our 3 kids).
me and my kids went back home, at my family. and im really hurt but what hurts me the most is when my eldest son is getting affected by the situation. i talked to him and asked him what is his problem? and he said, its because of our situation. and when i heard that, i decided to go back at my in-laws place.. i can take the pain whatever my husband will give me, rather than to see my kids being affected.
until now, im still thinking if i made the right decision. im really in deep pain.. but i still love my husband and willing to accept him again.. me and my kids are still hoping that someday we're going to be a one big happy family again...
2 responses
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
Hello ghail,
I'm sorry to hear this,but it seems i was reading my own story.The only difference is,i never saw him hugging his mistress.But i was able to talk to 3 of his mistresses(mistresses huh?...sounds funny,or like joke maybe?)Yes,everytime i caught him having an affair with other girls,he always asked forgiveness and promised to be a good husband.The reason i always forgive him is becoz we also had 3 kids.But,after a year or two,there again he is,having an affair with another girl(it's not the ist one).It seems he's like tasting new flavor of the month for an ice cream.
He never left us,nor he never choose any girl everytime i asked him to choose between us(me and our 3 kids)or his mistress.He always chooses us.
But,the pain,hurt and the truth that he is not respecting me for doing it over and over again makes me decide to say" it's over".Friends,i did my best to save our relationship for the sake of our kids.But,once a cheater will always be a cheater as other mylotters said,and it is true.
Regarding kids,yes,it is hard for them to accept such situation.But you can explain it to them in a way not to hurt their feelings.And,i may advice you,(it's up to you if you will do this or not)never say any bad words or never say anything bad to your kids that is against their father.Do not tell them that their father is bad,or wrong.Time will come they will fully understand what their father did to you.
I am not telling you to lose hope.You can still wait for him,since you said you loved him still.Who knows one day he will be back in your arms and ask for your forgiveness.The final decission is yours.
Good luck,and think things over and over again.I wish you the best
@phayeth (519)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
let ur kids understand the situation that u in.. its very tough decision..if u think its the right decision to make then.. its good.. but if its not, then u need to tell ur kids that there dad will never come to u and that he choose the other women than the 4 of u.
just be strong.. make ur kids inspiration for ur life..
