Does it surprise that people want to add you?
@justbeingtiffany (1156)
United States
July 30, 2009 10:45am CST
Why or why not?
for me its a huge shock because i write what i feel all the time. and the truth hurts and i'm not always gentle. so me being so honest it surprises me that people still want to be my friend and want to talk to me. i'm not saying i'm really harsh i'm just saying i'm not a fake kind of person. i care about others feelings but if you ask me a question i'm gonna be straight because thats how i would want someone to answer my questions if i would to ask. i just like people who can speak their mind no matter what people think about them. i don't think answers should be influenced by other people.
so do you feel that if you don't answer the question the way everyone else wants you to answer people won't like you as much?
and are you surprised that people want to add you?
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13 responses
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
30 Jul 09
I very often do not respond as first response on a discussion because I do not want to influence the others in any way at all. This happens when I am going to respond something which is the opposite of what the person starting the discussion expected. I always state what I think regardless of what the others are responding.
Then I receive friend requests for the most varied resaons. Maybe a user adds me so that they can ask for some help or because they want me to help them report someone or even because they liked what I wrote. I have one user who added me so that every day he can send me a PM and make me smile and that is so sweet!
Nothing surprises me on here anymore 
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
30 Jul 09
I don't know you and I guess I am not the only one who could have been easily confused thinking you were talking about here and not there (wherever 'there' is).
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@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
30 Jul 09
Yes.Honestly.I'll be surprise that someone add me as friend.I like to be have many friends.And I would like to add someone who I think,they comment is good or make inspirate for me.I don't think that some one like or not about my response.I write what I think.
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
30 Jul 09
hi there
i write what i feel and not what others want to hear, i have seen many people out here and they mostly have 9 stars, they don't go any further than that, i am not saying that the 10 starers are being what others want to then to be but, i have seen most of them are 9 starers and get stuck there for quiet a long time!
i do get friend request everyday! I think some people really like it when you are honest with them, and that is the way we need to be.
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@Butterfly007 (182)
• China
31 Jul 09
I'm not surprised if strangers want to add me, but I will answer what I think straightly if someone ask me some questions, or I may keep silence if I don't want to answer.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
1 Aug 09
I try to be truthful but still respect other people's feelings. You can disagree with someone without being mean. I like people that speak their mind, because I tend to do the same thing. I think it makes for much more interesting discussions.
I am surprised to get friend requests on here, though. I haven't been on here very long, so it surprises me when people want to be my friend even though I'm new. It's not a bad thing, because I like seeing the friend requests, but it just surprised me the first time I got some.
@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
it's an advantage too. it's always nice to have people saying all the truth and nothing but the truth. though others might get hurt and they're not used to it. if there are still people who want you to be their friend then consider it as a compliment since whatever happens they still trust and believe in you.count me in. im not against your being harsh and straight forward.
@smart44 (510)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
I am not surprise, I am thankful for those you want to add me as their friends, we are on this kind of social internet working so why we would be surprise, its of our great honor because they like us to be their friends.
Just be thankful that in here people are friendly and helpful.
@hairypits (294)
•
31 Jul 09
It's no shock to me - i'm blooming lovely!!! lol
I am straight to the point, opinionated but not forceful and I try to see every side of the story. I also will try to calm anything that becomes heated. Without sounded conceited, no bad will come from adding me as a friend!
@katheen (124)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
I won't be surprised if people wants to add me, but I do wonder why though (laughs). Being honest is good but too much honesty would drive people away, even if your intentions are good, they would not see it that way. If people don't like you because you didn't answered their question the way they want you too, then why would you care, it's who you are, it's what you are. They should be ashamed of their self. Please note that you can't please everybody sometimes even your self...
@nitu1952 (286)
• India
31 Jul 09
no i does not surprise me at all. after all for what i will surprtise. individual who wants to add me may look at my profile and may be he or she founds my profile interesting and good according to them. so it's not a matter of surprise that someone has added to you.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
Yes, it does, maybe because of the impression that they are getting from my profile..but i don't add all of them. there's a few that are pending in my list, but this person had violated some rules in mylot. not still sure if i should add this person.
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
31 Jul 09
No i won't be surprised at all that peopel want to add me . Why surprised ? It's natural and of course i feel very grateful. i think there are many people who like the kind of persion you are . Special personality, honest, serious , i will add you too if i have the time to talk to you.
