deal breakers?

Sorry Dawn, but i'm not in the market.lol. i gave up on that a long time ago but good luck to people who still haven't wised up.

I'd prolly have to pass on the girl with the handlebar mustache and the size 16 shoes. ....................just sayin'

it am saturday! even betterdeal breakers..um..i really have a short list being:must love cats..or at least tolerate mine.they were here before you,they'll be here after you. don't give me crap about my family.i already know "how they are" if you 420,don't give me grief about my cigs.smoke is smoke to me. i do not expect you to pay for my stuff.but i do expect you to pay yours unless there's something wrong with you.(aka don't quit your job) those are pretty firm.

Well at my age the list of things they have to be is alot different then when I was younger! My deal breaker would be someone who was not gainfully employed...and I can't stand someone who is conceited. If those are deal breakers then that would be my main two....as for personal habits...I shower every morning...however I know some who think that is not necessary....NOT! That would be a deal breaker for sure.

Lies do it for me, I can put up with a lot, but bald faced lies leave me cold. Smoker would be the next, I cannot stand the smell of smoke on anything or anybody. I am a reformed smoker and when I gave it up I guess my mind said never again. Religion doesn't bother me if you don't try to convert me. You can believe what ever you want as long as you allow me the same privilege.

Anyone who is overly jealous is a deal breaker. Anyone who is overly clingy is a deal breaker. I need my space and that doesn't mean I am cheating on you. But petty things? I once dated a guy who wore jean shorts. Total deal breaker and to make it worse, he wore those jean shorts with ugly man-sandals with socks! I didn't know it until the weather got warmer. lol.

This kind of matches up with the discussion about bad traits emerging after six months.I was wild about my first hubby before he ever even noticed me. I would not have let anything be a deal breaker with him. That is okay, I was young, he was young, we lived and learned, and then he made me a widow. Comes to the second marriage, lots of deal breakers: Smoking, drinking, not having any friends, being judgmental or disrespectful would all have been deal breakers, but they were not there with this guy. Love him bunches. I did dismiss more than one on some of these issues.

smokers, cat haters, drinkers (not the occasional drinker, but the more frequent drinker) overly religious (or even overly atheist) and yes!!!

I can't say I have a concrete list, but chances are I won't get along with someone who isn't a lot like me. The person has to tolerate cats, because I wouldn't get rid of mine ever. They have to accept the fact that I'll never own a dog under any circumstances. Obviously they'd have to accept my kids. If we didn't see eye to eye on things that are important to me, then I certainly wouldn't continue the relationship. I guess it would all depend on how important that topic was whether I could see past that "flaw" in him or not.

Hi dawnald, When I first met my hubby he didn't like what I like so when we got married in church the first thing I said was aile altar you, lol! and I did. Tamara

I have two rules. Never date someone you work with and never date a guy with hair longer than mine....I've broken both these rules...LOL..It seems that I am attracted to a man with long hair on occasion...LOL.I only broke the work rule once but I regretted it..now the long hair thing..well...I didn't much regret that one.

Interesting question...I think smoking would be a deal breaker for me. I probably have some others but I'm not sure I can think of anything right now...Religion wouldn't matter to me as long as the person wasn't someone who tried to push their beliefs onto me. The smoking would really bother me because as a non-smoker, the smell of smoke really bothers me and I don't think I'd be able to take it!

Haha, a funny but itreseting topic. Well, I hold that we should proably do like that, you know, if you wanna get the credit from your future customers you might grap their phycoligic or tradtion, so you need to be deal breakers.

in the market for reltionhip . maybe in some point of view . we need friends and we must do it

As you know, I'm single and living in the bush. It's a man's world pretty much out here but eligible guys are few and far between. There was one guy though...tall, big, round the right age...he seemed to have all the right attributes. Then one day I saw him hit his puppy for being friendly. He was a working dog in training but it got right up my nose and I told him off but I know he would treat any animal badly if he can hit a puppy. That's a big deal breaker for me. Others are laziness, drinking too much, not being very bright, no sense of humour, inability to talk, disrespectful, lousy in the sack, dishonest...there's probably more. I guess it's easy to see why I'm single...lol.

dawnald, In this world of imperfection, I believe we can never have the best of both worlds and I just do not think we can ever go around looking for friendships or relationships with a checklist. We just do not know what the other party has installed for us most of the time and there's just no telling. Lest, we have that clear crystal ball. However, when I do discover these deal breakers along the way, I will then have to ask myself if I can really dismiss them and continue this relationship without any prejudice or pick these things up to quarrel. If either of them is possible, then I will have to sit down with them and thrash it out. I had this issue with my second girlfriend who is a chain smoker. At the end of the day she understood and we parted amicably. Till today we are good friends and just 2 years ago, gave up smoking totally. Sometimes, I just feel that there's no meaning to tolerate a person hypocritically and let the relationship suffer. Because when that happens, we are hurting each other and deeply too. The other party may not be able to see the point through us or with us but that does not mean they will not later with someone else. So, I am quite firm on this but in a sense, I take it one step at a time.

One by one Dawn: 1. I am a non smoker but i won't mind ging with a smoker, provided s/he promisses me that s/he will not smoke in front of me! LOL 2. I don't love cats, so not eligible for the answer, isn't it? 3. What is Atheist? Let me tell you something. If any girl would like to go with me then I would not care about any of her habits. After all, I must be getting something very soothing at the end of that journey, why would I mind, cats, smokes and all, don't you thing?

A relationship is really complicated subject to discuss. If I meet a deal breaker, I would go along, and see if that is one I would worth to spend time with. Otherwise, I just won't know, and I won't know the difference.