Why is she so sassy at age 5?
By ilovekids114
@ilovekids114 (106)
United States
July 31, 2009 8:49pm CST
I want to beleive I raised my kids with repsect and understanding that they should be have all the time. I was raised by a military dad so he was very strict as I am kinda with my girls. Well my 5 year old has been through enough lately as we moved 800 miles in December stayed with family till may and she tranfered schools in January.
For the longest time, people have always commented on how well behaved all the girls are. Lately the oldest has been horriable, not listening, sassing, hitting and really being mean to others. When she cant have her own way she gets mad and screams and I would accept this is it was normal for her but it is not. SHe was so upset the other day after school that her 3 friends all won a game and she didnt. SHe did not want to go to school the next day beacuse of it. We were at my familys house for dinner tonight and I asked her to please put her plate in the sink, and she yelled and said "I dont have to grandma can do it". I was appauled as was my mom! What has gotten into her? I have tried the talking to her, yelling at her, and taking stuff away. I just dont know what else to do anymore. Will I ever get my good girl back?
2 responses
@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
3 Aug 09
She is five and add to that... an upheavel in her life. Everyone says how resiliant kids are... well they aren't any more than adults. We all adjust in different ways... adults just do it faster so it isn't as noticable. Kids learn things they are taught.. whether you teach them or the tv shows teach them ( have you seen Hanna Montana? She is a really sassy, mouthy girl and she is all the rave to little girls these days. If my daughter spoke like she does...I'd have to buy stock in duct tape!!) or friend at school teach them...
Just keep your rules and all the same... make her stick with them and don't deviate from them or give allowance. She is changing, life is changing and she needs something normal to hang on to. I have moved my kids in and out of schools as we moved looking for work...wasn't easy on them.. but they both now say that the "same thing at home, no matter which school" was what kept them sane. Kind of like a foundation to always know is there and to fall back on no matter what.
She is 5... just wait till she turns 6.. and 7 and 8.... I'll tell you, my 9 year old GD has a mouth on her.. but then again, she gets that from mommy so she is seeing it is okay cause mommy does it, but not okay to speak to me at my house like that. Just love her and hold your (and hers!) ground.. you'll both work it out!
@ilovekids114 (106)
• United States
3 Aug 09
Oh no not the mouth! LOL MY family (my aunts) think its nice to teach kids to swear. I dont approve and I have told my kids that from day 1. Now when my aunts tell them to swear they say no thats bad and go on about thier way! Atleast I have done something right. Thank you for your kind words and I appreciate them very much. She is my first and I think I am harder on her then the other 2 aged 2 and 1. But she has just been out of control lately! Thanks and I will take in stride and do my best! Thanks!
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
4 Aug 09
I don’t know…I think I have already lost my son and he’s 10. I have had numerous discussions here at mylot on this, how overnight my son has changed and they have all given very good advises. However, I think 5 is just too early and maybe she herself doesn’t know why she is behaving thus (my son always says he doesn’t know what gets to him)…in any case, I think you should give her more time and talk to her more. Not that you are not doing it, like me you are always doing it I’m sure…well, it does feel so frustrating to be a parent but we can just keep our fingers crossed and hope for the best.
