Have you ever been afraid to share your true feelings?
By fruitcakeliz
@fruitcakeliz (2639)
United States
July 31, 2009 11:53pm CST
Whether it is because you are afraid the other person doesn't feel the same? Or that you are afraid actually expressing your feelings puts you at risk for being hurt down the road? Do you feel it is important to tell someone how you feel, not matter how scared you are of their reaction?
This is another discussion yet again propted by one of my poems i ran across today. If you are interested, here it is, it not, feel free to just respond to the discussion with out having to read it LOL
So hard to say
I feat the change
my words might bring
I fear the thought
that you may turn away
You know all i have to say
So why do i fear
what you already know?
I have nothing to lose
nothing to gain
I know your answer
do i know your soul?
Its just so hard
to say it all
When i look into your eyes
I see everything i want
everything i need
I can't risk it all
Though my mind
Knows you'll stay
My heart still
Feels the pain
I just wish i could say it
Just to make it clear
But i can't talk to you
Not about the way i feel
The way you make me feel
So i say it here
And hope you see the truth
In my eyes, my heart, my soul
I love you
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7 responses
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
There will always be risks when it comes to emotions, as a friend would usually quote "The one who falls first, loses" I think this is particularly true when it comes to loving (or feeling deeply infatuated) to someone who doesn't see you as you hoped he/she would feel. It hurts, but there's nothing you could do about it.
As for feelings, I don't believe we should always show them. I know there will always be regrets in the end, but what's worst than regretting that you have said anything? This hold importantly true to me, as a woman. No, it doesn't mean I'm the lesser gender, it simply means as a woman, we tend to be more emotional than men. A man who professes his feelings to a woman may fail, but he can still get up and walk away (without having to regret doing so). As for a woman, regardless how you pour yourself up with emotions, there will always be a regret on our side since these emotions would form to regret when we realize, he's just not into us.
Though yes, we all wouldn't like to regret not saying anything, there are times when it's best if we just kept our mouth shut.
Yes, I've been afraid to show it but it hasn't stopped me from slowly opening up. Until I am sure it's safe to do so.
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@fruitcakeliz (2639)
• United States
2 Aug 09
That is me too, i have learned not to rush into sharing or forcing my feelings upon someone. I would rather wait until i felt the time is right and i was sure in how i feel
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
1 Aug 09
Morning, you know, sometimes is hard to show somebody that you love him just because you know very well that this person don t have same feelings, and is not good to let other that you have feelings, just because you know that he play with your feelings.
No, if you know that he or she don t have feelings for you to say about your feelings. People ate tempted to laugh when they don t feel something.
@fruitcakeliz (2639)
• United States
1 Aug 09
If i know the other person doesn't have the same type of feelings towards me, i am not going to even attempt to put myself out there. The problem comes when either you don't know how the other person is feeling...or you are getting "signals" from them that make you think they return those feelings...but you just aren't 100% about it. This makes it sooo tricky!! I have been there experienced that before, with the laughing part. Sit down with someone and spill your heart out to them...telling them how much you care...then all of a sudden they kind of laugh and try to write it off like you are just messing with their head or soemthing, fooling around a bit to get them going. That really bites!
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
1 Aug 09
This is a big problem, when you don t know what he or she feel, when can t feel what he or she feel, just because can t enter in his mind....this can be a problem, and even maybe he or she love you, don t know to show you, and you will not how to react, and maybe a story who can be very nice can t be real just because you don t know what happened.
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@fruitcakeliz (2639)
• United States
2 Aug 09
And i think being rejected when you care so much for another can hurt more than any physical pain on the planet.
@fruitcakeliz (2639)
• United States
2 Aug 09
It is hard sometimes isnt it, to share our true feelings. It can make you feel so vulnerable.
@abhi_arora (181)
• India
1 Aug 09
i am sometimes afraid to tell my inner feelings to another person coz i think that it might hurt the other person or it might strain the relation.if i feel something negative about a person i tend not to tell him or her bcoz he might feel offended and some aggression might take place.
@fruitcakeliz (2639)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Yes, it can be just as difficult, if not more so, to vocalize negative feelings as it is positive ones. Yet it can be just as important, as you don't want the other person to think you feel one way about them, only to find out later you think another way.
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
2 Aug 09
Yes i don't share my true feelings to everybody but only true friends . Friends will always protect you by not remit your secrets and by sharing your happiness and pains . Also to tell everything to somebody you are not familiar with may run you a risk , i think, stupit to do that .
@sathish2018 (575)
• India
2 Aug 09
Yes when during my days when i was kid i feel afraid so much to share feeling w9ith my friends because i do not know how tell theme is it how or will they make fun of me either if I tell what is in my mind also, I feel always same with my parents because they always ask me to study all the time, i scare dream about my teacher he always make do also give punishment because am very back in the subject maths, i would now like to remember how those days are be