My daughter doesn't like to stay in her grandmother's house

You don't say how old your daughter is. That would help in figuring this out. If she is very young she may feel uncomfortable there, maybe uneasy. She may have separation anxiety from you and her father. If she is grammar school age it could be that she is bored there. The last thing is maybe this is a big maybe, your mother-in-law doesn't treat her right. I don't know. However, I wouldn't force her to go there if she doesn't want to.

I think your daughter didn't like to stay in her grandma's house maybe she was not at ease of the ambiance. Maybe she wanted a playful environment with her toys around. Or it could be possibly that this has this instance that your daughter was frightened by your mother - in - law.

When I was growing up I didn't care for my late paternal grandmother's house (sorry grandma!) The outside of it was okay I guess, though I was terrified of going up the stairs with it being on such a steep hill in San Francisco. Whenever I would walk up them I always felt like I was tilting and going to fall. LOL The inside of it was just plain creepy. She had some of those hippie beads from the 60's in the doorway that led to one of her bedrooms (?), possibly her's, if I remember right. That particular room was always dark, which only made matter worse. She also had a player piano in her house. Seeing a piano play by itself made it that much creepier to me. I don't know how to explain it, but there was a whole ambience about her place that just didn't feel right. How old is your daughter? And how often has she been to her grandmother's place? Has she always felt this way about your mother-in-law's house, or did it come on suddenly? Why not just ask your daughter? Maybe she'll tell you. Good luck!

At three years old she is still pretty much a baby and having a three year old girl myself I know just how stubborn and confusing they can be sometimes. Just dont force it make sure you go see her grandma lots TOGETHER do fun things but do not force the issue of sstaying their alone until she is more comfortable with it Anything could be bothering her but at 3 unless her speech and understanding is incredibally good she is unlikely to be able to tell you, its probably a phase that will pass dont forget a 3 year old will test any boundaries possible to see what happens have you ever tried just leaving her and seeing what happens? i bet she soon settles down might be worth a try but if not dont let it worry you im sure its nothing serious my 3 year old can be clingy at times its understandable they are still so little and things can be daunting for them no matter how familiar we may think those things are to them xxxx

Maybe she just picks up a weird vibe. Also you mention that the grandmother can't walk anymore... is she in a wheelchair? If so maybe your daughter is reacting to that? Not to be offensive but maybe the grandmother's appearance affects your daughter in a way that she doesn't want to be around her. My son is 4 and even when he was younger he would only gravitate towrds people with a certain type of appearance. If the grandmother is able to go out then maybe she can go to your house then you can see what your daughters reaction is then?

Maybe your daughter is afraid with her grandmother or maybe she just doesn't want to bond with her, cause she find her boring or whatever. Why don't you try leaving her there with her cousins.

dorisday1971, I think you need to be patient with your daughter. I feel that she is just finding it difficult and out of place with her grandmother whom you mentioned cannot walk. It is very important that you begin your visits with a happy and positive attitude, like convincing her how enjoyable her grandmother could be. It may further help by sharing photos of her grandmother in her younger days with you, right till now. Make sure you do not have any difference in your attention and treatment of her when you are over at the house. She could be clingy to you and the last thing she would want is for you to devote your time and attention on her grandmother. If it is going to be a whole day affair there, always remember to bring her favorite pillow and blanket so that she could sleep well. Children are very sensitive to smell. Also, if her grandmother is on any ointment then spraying the room with your home's aerosol may help alleviate and help her with adapting. You may also buy some unique toys and put them at her grandmother's place. So, she can find it interesting and some longing to visit the place. It may not need to be like her toys at home. But a few cute and cuddly bears or dolls will definitely be inviting. During these times, I would not advocate that you leave her alone at the house and/or be found absent when she wakes up from her naps. Let her feel secured and cared for, I am sure these tips will work well as it has worked with my sons. Take care.

Hi, doris, maybe your daughter feels uncomfortable there with her grandmother. Or maybe she has picked up an funny vibe while being around her. My last guess is maybe she does not really acre for her grandmother. Hopefully the grandmother has not mistreated her granddaughter...

Have you talk to her about why she dosen't like to.Ask her what maks her so scare of staying there have. you and motherlaw sit down ask her [but you ask her by yourself] with out motherlaw. cd

Definitely your daughter is not comfortable with her grandma, and at her age a child can easily mingle with a child also.

It's hard to figure out the reason indeed . Why don't you try to get the right answers from her ? Or she enjoys staying at home pretty much and doesn't want to have any fun in her grandmother's house. Or is her grandmother very strict with her ?

I don't know exactly why...may be she was not treated / pampered there and so she prefers staying with you...May be she needs your presence and going there reminds her that you will leave her alone for few hours ... she misses you may be...I am not sure but I feel if she is not comfortable then you should not compel her...as she gets older she'll be mature enough to adjust there in your absence...