A friend is depressed
By maximax8
@maximax8 (31046)
United Kingdom
August 1, 2009 9:06am CST
I have told my friend to forget about the past because it is history and to concentrate on now which is a gift because it is called the present. My friend thinks of boredom and negative things all the time. I really want to cheer my friend up and I have been trying for weeks.
How could I make my friend happy again?
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9 responses
@Chengyueyao (32)
• China
3 Aug 09
I'm sorry for your friend. I think there must be some reason for her depression.It is really a good way to take her to a picnic to relax or something you both enjoy.But I think that if she has been depressed for quite sometime, perhaps some psycholody knowledge will help.Anyway, I hope your friend be better soon. Best wishes for you!
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
2 Aug 09
Depression can be a serious problem, depending od the depth. I wish there was an easy fix here max, but there's none. You can stay close with your friend and try to do things that might take their mind away from whatever is causing the depression, other than that they may need to get professional helr. This is available i Australia, and shou;d be available to your friend.
@TheGreatWhiteBuffalo (4822)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Don't forget the past accept it, as then the present is a gift for the future and the same mistakes hopefully won't be made again.
Learning is fun, as well as are other things, take on a few new friends and their discussions and find other ways to be involved interacting in our world.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
how long is this friend of yours doing this? i mean thinking about negative thoughts? if its just now then give that person a chance to cry, but remind him/her that crying will not rexsolve anything. you need to stand up and live your life and face it for there are more beautiful things in life that he/she needs to see and experience. all of us experience negative downfalls in our life but that is why it is called negative for us to see the difference of the negative and the positive and that is why it is called down fall so we can have the courage to stand up and try again. i am a single mom with four children and been through a lot of downs in ly life but i am still satnding up and facing the battles of life with courage and smile
@baldypriest (337)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Wow. That's pretty tough, not just for your friend, but for you as well. Has your friend told you or alluded to what is the real problem or opened up to you about anything like that? I've always felt like a bit of an outsider who doesn't always know what to say or do when a friend is depressed. It's not like you can carry on as normal. I think that letting your friend know you're always there and willing to do whatever you can is a good thing. You may not understand where your friend is coming from, but you obviously care a lot. You may not be able to make your friend happy again, or at least not do so on your own, but chances are that your friend will at least appreciate hearing encouraging, kind words from you. I also find that throwing a silly joke into a conversation sometimes temporarily helps. =)
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
1 Aug 09
It's wonderful to having a caring warm friend like you who understands and your friend is very lucky to have you, a lot of people don't have someone like your good self who wants to help them any way they can. As you know I suffer terribly with depression, only a few of my friends truly understand and they are like gold, mind you I do have Mylot as an outlet for my depression. Would your friend enjoy being part of Mylot? What does your friend really enjoy doing? Exercise is a wonderful way of helping depression, boredom and negativity! I go 4 times a week and it helps me a great deal, to me exercise is my antidepressant. Why don't you take her out retail shopping, or something she really enjoys doing and you too! What is the root of the boredom and depression, there must be an underlying problem that is causing her to be depressed, unless it's chemical in which case a visit to her GP would help.
@roselynm1023 (950)
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
hi. try to invite your friend to unwind. visit nice places, have a vacation. go to nature. she needs companion someone to talk to because if she is depressed and she will be left alone there is big possibility that she will harm herself. as a friend you should be be guarded on that. one more thing that will lessen her depression is to invite her to attend spiritual retreat or invite her to talk to priests, spiritual directors, pastors and church leaders, your friend has to be reminded that inspite of all that she is going through there is a Good God that she can lean on to. be blessed.
@abhi_arora (181)
• India
1 Aug 09
in my view you shud approach the person whom he regards the most ..it might be his parent or teachers or siblings..you should tell this problem to him and then he shud make him understand that your friend shud think about positive things and not negative things.believe me it ll work.