A visit.

Hi, vw! That is very absurd for your sister-in-law to make her stepdaughter wear her dirty underwear on her head. That is nasty! What is wrong with her. Has she gone boo koo nuts?? Don't do what she does, help her to clean her personal belongings out better..

all u need to do to clean it is let the underwear soak for a couple hours in a sink filled with cold water. then scrub it a little. then rinse. then put it in the hamper to wash in the machine. that is all i do.

That is just terribly wrong! I would say that that might do the trick because it'd be quite embarrassing but the relationship your sister in law has with her step daughter will never be the same. Instead making it a requirement that as soon as she gets a dirty pair of underwear she needs to put stain remover on it would be better. She could even say buy her her own bottle and place it under the sink in the teen's bathroom so that she could spray her underwear in private, then maybe have a separate bag for her underthings that have been dampened by blood.

That is a bit extreme, to say the least. It might work but could be awfully embarassing for both parties. I too, have an 11 yr old who gets her visitor and let's just say. She is pretty much like the rest of them. I've growled her several times and her reaction is: "but I forgot". Hah, there is no excuse for that kind of laziness. There are containers in the bathrooms specifically for that purpose. And, as for cleaning their underwear, I have a bucket in the laundry just for that. It is filled with hot water and a soaking agent. Guess they have to grow out of it. I know I did.

that;s a terrible thing to do to a child, and it is something that should not be done. Have you or your sister-in law sat these children down and talked to them about this, and explained the proper way to handle this situation.

I think that's going to the extreme. Could it be she's just being a bit rebellious?? Either way I just wouldn't wash them. She's old enough to know how to keep herself and herself clean. She'll get the idea soon enough and start doing the right thing.

One of my sisters was the same way,not caring,nor wanting to take the time to use the washing machine. our mother got fed up with waiting for her to do it herself,so she suggested to her,that if she did not want clean underwear all the time,to switch over to plastic panties,they are sanitaru and easy to clean,just rince them in the washbasin and pat dry with paper towels and she would be able to put them right back on. Beleive it or not,this worked quite well untill she started wanting to wear fancier panties. embarracment is not the way to get anyone ( especially teens) to conform to unwanted rules.

First off, I think making her wear them on her head is both disgusting and wrong. Secondly, there is a much simpler way to deal with this. Get a laundry hamper for her clothes only, and put it in her room. Make her do her own laundry. And if you find any of her clothes in the other laundry, put them in her hamper. And a really simple solution to the monthly visit problem is to get the girl some disposable underwear to wear during that time. No washing problems, just throw them away. Regular pads can be used in these, and she will have the comfort of knowing that there will be no embarrassing leaks to worry about.

And the problem with throwing them in the washer is??? Get the girl a stain remover, and let her know that it is time for her to start doing her own laundry. Sorry sweetheart, but, do your own load. Now, she can clean them when she wants and you don't have to do her laundry anymore. You can even go as far as making her feel "official" by setting a day during the week where she has the wash exclusively for her and she can use as she pleases. 11 years old is plenty old to do their own laundry. If she complains, let her know what your terms are so that you may start doing her laundry again... NO DIRTY UNDERWEAR.

That is a bit of a ridiculous idea... I say you make her clean her own underwear... if she puts them in the hamper without cleaning the blood out of them first, then just put them asside in a pile until she washes them. Eventually she'll run out of clean underwear and hopefully decide to clean them properly from now on. I admit I used to be bad at cleaning them when I was younger, too... and my dad tried to do the method I mentioned with me, but it didn't work too well because he would eventually give in and clean them anyways. When I got older, though, I got embarrassed by the stains and started cleaning them obsessively even if people weren't going to see them.

I think that is going overboard. I think she should just tell her to do it and if she doesn't do it punish her some other way, one less rediculous