Would you attend your ex-lovers wedding ????

Not at all. I am with you, i could not put myself through that kind of pain. I mean, he hated me, we fought all the time, and my brother finally made us friends again. Though i screamed at him after we broke up and fought, i still loved him. I do not think i could see him with another chick, especially not marrying one. It would cut me so deep.):

Hi John4Christ! It's good to see you again. How are you doing? I'm sorry this has happened to you. This is a pretty tough question to answer because I've never experienced this. I don't know why an ex-lover would invite me to his wedding. If it were me, I probably wouldn't go. I don't think I could witness it. I think it should be up to you, though. Kathy.

In my case i just stay at home and cry a river, even though you separate in different path but still the memory and pain is still there,, thinking the break-up is painful one what more if you witness his/her wedding day. But there is a case that past lovers become a very good friend. But if both of them find there real soul-mates.

well actually i have done that on this July and i played a more r less important in his wedding--to hold the rings for the couple. its quite heartbreaking and i can still remember that when the couple offered a drink with me how much i sweated.but after a while, i found out that to forget or try to forget him in most of time was not that difficult after ten years' deep love.

It never happened to me. i think in the future if it do happen, I will. If we can't be lovers, we can be friends. So I will witness his happiness.

i think i will attend my ex-boyfriend wedding and i will congratulate him. if i love him, i want him live in a happy life with his chrished wife, although i will be suffering pain.

If my ex boyfriend got married that contacted me recently on Face Book I would be happy to attend his wedding. I only have platonic feelings for him these days. He is currently living with his girlfriend. It is possible they might get married sometime in the near future. If I still loved my ex boyfriend it would be a totally different matter. I would feel hurt that he was getting married and I might be jealous of his future wife. I would probably not wish to attend their marriage. I might end up in tears because it would be such an upsetting day for me.

I did. But that was more than 20 years ago. Of course it hurts like mad. I did because she extracted a promise from me that I will attend her wedding as a mark of my not feeling inimical or hateful towards her. My close family members were quick to brand this as a masochistic tendency in me, but then I believed going through the pain would help in getting it over in some way. I really don't know today in what way it helped. I imagine that she too must have felt it very painful to see me at her wedding even though it was she who insisted that I attend. It was a stupenduous effort to hold my emotions in check esp. in the presence of other colleagues who were socially connected to both of us and were also present. But as time passed, we hardly ever got to see or speak to each other. God has been extremely kind to separate us by a reasonable distance and make us unconnected through job or otherwise. I must say even today if I happened to see her my heart would not only miss a beat but go through one shot of pain.

Attending to the wedding of an ex? hhmmmm, never even thought of that. Because for me past is past and I don't have communication with my ex. I would rather stay away and that way. I am happy for him to have a life of his own and if I am happy too with my life now, let it be. For me, it would now be impossible to attend such occasion since where geographically far , far away . So i can't attend such, and I won't invite him too to my wedding.

HELL NO! geez I would rather give myself up to be hanged than attend my ex's wedding! our relationship ended on a very bad note (he cheated on me with my sister) so I vowed never to see him or have anything to do with him.. it's been six years and so far I've kept my vow.. so no thank you.. I'd rather sit home in my PJs and watch the the Simpsons! By the way John nice to have you back here

Hey I have just been through a break-up and I can fully empathize with your situation because of the pain I am going through now.Our break-up is a mutual one so as you have said we still remain close friends because that is what we were before entering into the relationship.The issue you have thought about is what is bothering me day and night.I cry every moment thinking that not me but someone else will get married to him.I cannot even imagine that happening to me.I am still madly in love with that person and my parents are already talking of marriage within a couple of years for me. The reason behind our break-up might surprise you.After four years we now feel that we are incompatible and the quarrels were becoming too much of a headache.But not that we are happy after putting an end to our relationship.Till 5 o'clock today morning we were awake,talking over the phone.I told him about the marriage talk in my house and he seemed rather depressed on hearing it,in fact ready to cry.Not that I was not feeling the same.I even told him that as a friend would he not attend my wedding and do all the necessary work preceding the marriage?I admit my heart was almost breaking into two while saying these words.After a lot of yes and no,he said he would come as a friend but I doubt he would do that. As for me,witnessing the marriage of the person I love is a far-cry,I would not even see him with another girl because I am of the faint-hearted type.I love him too much to ever love anyone again and though my future is not in my hands but my parents,I know my heart is sealed forever. I have revealed a lot here.Hope you did not mind.Just could not control since everything is so fresh and this topic just came at that moment.Hope you get her back or may something so good happen to you that you get over her soon.Good luck and God bless.

There was this lyrics in the song that i kept popping to my head when ever i read,see, or hear this kind of stories. "they keep telling me, that if you really love her, you got to set her free" Love is supposed to be selfless act. and despite of what the other person or the x-partner has decide, you should respect it and probably at least be happy for her. [b]I remember this classmate of mine back in college, i was hanging out with him quite some time..and then he picks up his girl friend from the theater that night..it was long ago before we graduated back in 2005. but then again, i checked their friendster accounts, i saw his X with some one else, married..and him..located somewhere in England..it's hard to believe cause they were so in love with each other at that time i was hanging out with him. [/b] If you won't attend an invitation it's ok. but it proves you still hold the scars of hate of what happened or how the relationship blown out. I don't know if i will keep my word on this..but if that happens i will attend that wedding because it's her happiness and i would probably and should be there because I should be happy for her..just like that.

depends...if that ex was really special to me, I might, but would be very uncomfortable deep inside.....(i'll try my best not to show it) but if that ex was not that special to me....I can go without any hesitation =)

i would feel like a 5 ton truck ran over my bleeding heart, like OMG. I would be happy to see friends and the family. But on the other hand, in dispair .... lol. People rejoicing and caroling and partying. Like WHAT!!!! Its like you window shopping for your love.

I think i can't do that.The person you've been loved maybe you wanted to married she/he in your life brefore and then you need to see the other married with your ex-lovers.I think it must be hard.if you love her/his just give them the best blessing is enough

It would depend on my relationship with the person. If i was still good friends with them and had no feelings for them then i could. But if i was still in love with them i couldnt, would be too hard! Think it would be tough anyway. Not sure if i could do either. I would want them to be happy though!

Because its' my ex, I think I won't have any problem. But if i still love him, I won't come to that wedding. I don't wanna hurt myself. But I found myself can easily forget the feelings in someone after we break up, I think I'll just come and say congratulations. If I still love him and now it can break my heart, I simply won't come because I love myself and don't wanna hurt it. If I have no feeling anymore for him I will come if I have time Just make it simple..

I will definitely attend...because that'll make him / her feel better ...he / she will feel that I am not revengeful and I am only there for his / her good...so I attend the marrige

i would definately attend the wedding.Not only for nosiness, but to show my ex that i'm a mature grown up who has moved on with there life.

I think its a bad idea because it could lead your exlover's wedding to a disaster. Also it depends on how you guys broke up because it could make you feel really uncomfortable being there if that was the guy/girl of your dreams and watching them marrying someone could even make you feel worst.