resilence, is it really good to always bend with bad luck no matter what?

i miss you my friend i am happy to see you here again. as you know i left my husband 9 years ago and tagged our four children along with me. life is never easy for me when i have to ba a father and mother at the same time. there is a saying in our country that if the blanket is short learn to fit your body inside so you wont get cold. so if the blanket is short learn to adjust with it. i work hard to get my children to school and give food on the table. yes we can cry inside just to release the load in our chest then carry on. i will light a candle for you and your son hatley, lets both pray for the best. welcome again and i am happy to see you

It's OK to mourn any kind of loss, Hatley. Sometimes that loss is a family member, as mine was in December. Sometimes that loss is a beloved pet, as happened recently to a myLot member. But, there is the loss of home, of trust, of security - so many different kinds of loss and each one us responds in a different way. But, it's also OK to be a survivor and bend even as we are mourning our losses. If we didn't, those losses would break us like so many trees in the wind (which happened just this week all around my area from storms). We can creak and moan and groan, but if we don't bend, we'll snap. Not good. Your situation is stressful and painful (how do you trust again?), yet you were able to come through it with places to go, even if they weren't your first choice. Who knows - this may be a new beginning in ways you weren't anticipating. Sometimes what comes our way is more beneficial than we would have thought possible - like it was waiting for us to come upon it. I hope your son has better luck with jobs than I've had - maybe he can find a temp agency whose focus is technology. That could be his foot in the door for a new job.

I guess if you have no control over your life you have to expect anything can happen...that includes the good and the bad. You need to bend as you say or you break. As we get older the hold we have on our control of life is tenuous and that is when we start to need other people to care for us and help us...some of us more than others. I own my own home as I want to be independent for as long as possible. It's not in a part of the world I want to be but it was affordable and could be much much worse. I have no doubt my children will take care of me when I am unable. I'm so glad you managed to get to where you are and you are not living on the street...best of all you have the use of a computer...YAY!

The ups and downs never stop, do they. One's spirit either breaks or thrives. I'd like to think my own spirit has thrived, and indeed, yours has not wavered either. You have been through so much, and I am happy that you have come out on the other side, despite tremendous disappointment. I hope your son is happy where he is, and that things only get better for him.

which country ? oh , you can search help from your relative or friend.

Hatley, you're a very strong person to continue fighting against the problems that turn up around every corner in life. I've felt the same, I've had my share of homelessness, and sometimes it got to a breaking point to where I thought I would lose my life, I just couldn't put myself to give up. I've worked hard, been to Technical school, and managed to get my certification overtime, i'm in college still struggling, but I think for every hardship we face, it comes with it's own reward. It may not always be materialistic, and it may not be the reward we were hoping for, or something less than we expect, but I like to count them as blessings in a way. I feel better after being able to do good things sometimes.

If you are resilient, it does not mean that you cannot cry. You just dry the tears and see what you can do when the storm is past. You then will be ready for the next page. What are the prospects for your son? Is the assisted living facility okay? Are you comfortable, and taken care of?