Are you man enough? ' The househusband'

Never having this experience i can't really say how i'd feel about it but if it works for a couple i don't think it is people's place to talk about the man like that. I never could get either one of my husbands to do doodly in the house.

Managing a home and raising children IS one of the most difficult jobs. If we are truly liberated, it shouldn't matter which parent stays home, and which works. It's the end result that matters. Many men, if given the chance, are more domestic and home-oriented than their wives, and are better off staying there. For the men (and women) that do reverse the stereotyped rolls...more power to you! And don't let the snide comments bother you.

I think not as that is what they want to do. and also the woman might just be the bigger paycheck bringing home the dough.

Well dear, you have a LOT of responces to this one as is always expected from your discussions. You open our minds and cause us to think. You stir our emotions and cause us to react in words.Hugs and Bravo to you for doing that for so many! So, with out further ado, I will say my mind. First off, how dare someone give a "stay at home dad" crap for doing that. Hasn't anyone learned yet that men stayed working for so long because secretly we KNEW who had the real job? Let's see, work outside or in an office and talk adult talk and laugh and bulls**t with co-workers ORRRRR stay at home, talk baby talk, feed babies, change a nasty diaper, clean up spills and puke and clean the house and wash clothes and dishes and cook and , and, and , and... HMMMMMMMM?? Yea , thats a tough one. DID YOU MISS "Mr.MOM"????? ;) There is nothing unmanly about a stay at home dad and it is nice for the father to be able to find a spot with his children that is often reserved for the mom at home. There are many things a man can do while at home and his "honey Do" list doesnt seem to get quite as large when he is home 24/7. If you feel less of a man because you are at home, if someone tells you that you are less of a man because you are at home, wait until all of your younguns are sick and crying and then please... invite them to your home. Offer to step out for a lunch with your lady while they do the "unmanly" thing. Trust me on this, they will never whisper behind your back again. You will gain their respect fast. Enjoy and love the life you have... Always, Darrel

You know it’s funny how some men think that staying at home taking care of the children and the home is the easier option! A friend of mine who is a writer made me laugh when he said, upon finding out his wife was pregnant, that he would be the one to stay at home, take care of the baby and everything that goes along with that and finish writing his book...He didn’t understand why we laughed but no doubt he will when he discovers he’ll be lucky to get out of his pyjamas before midday let alone do any writing! As for all the ‘househusbands’ out there I say what I would tell female home makers and mothers; you have the most important job of all and having made that choice does not de-value you as a human being whatsoever, quite the opposite in fact!

hey, i have been in the house long enough to qualify be a house husband. What's wrong with that. clearly Women can work now and doing better than men most part.I don't think being at home raising kids is a lesser being. household whether be it a man or a woman if that person like to read books do arguments with friends, it won't make him/her less of a person..unless some one wants them to be simply their home people..

Don't forget the 1983 movie with Michael Keaton and Teri Garr, Mr. Mom. He survived, but hilariously. SAHDs didn't get much respect back then.

My husband's cousin had a massive heart attack. He has been sidelined from every working away from home again. He worked very hard for many years at manual labor. He just inherited the heart things of the men in his family. He's in his 50s and many men die in their 60s in his family. So he takes care of an adopted child and some grand kids while his wife and daughter go to work. He's not the only one. Many men become permanently disabled, I know a trucker who had a stroke and his wife had to try to get a raise at her job. He stayed home and did his rehab stuff. Permanently paralized partially on one side. Couldn't be a trucker.

In England it is quite normal for men to be house husbands and bring the kids up.I expect some people might think it is taking his manhood away,but I think it the woman can earn more than the man then all power to them.My husband got the mick taken out of him as he changed nappies and took our son out for the day.We are still married and very happy and our son has grown up to be independant and happy,well balanced.Most of the men who took the mick out of my husband are divorced and living on their own,trying hard to be allowed to see their kids at weekends so who is the real man now if their is ever such a thing.

First choice MAN is the one who is supposed to be outside,, and the lady be at home with the kids and the house work,exceptions are there in all stuations,, as long as the man is able to get a job,, let him be outside the circle of the kids ,8 hours at least,,only suggestion I may put is get your kids proper education,,let then be mentally and physically able,so when the time arrives for the responsibilities,, each knows what is best for thier family,and it might be easier for the future generation to pass it on further

I think it ok for men to stay home for a short period of time. If he is laid off, he may need couple of months to recover and cheer up. But if he stays home all the time, then the economy crisis may appear, I guess. For a husband who goes to work then return home and days in days out it reoccurs, I think it ok with me at least as a wife you know what he is doing and knowing he is right beside you make you safe and contented.

Wow...what a topic? This post will surely gonna be one of my favorites as I can relate into this... I am a husband to a Teacher wife who is 5 months pregnant now & a father to my 3 years & 14 months old sons... I've been unemployed now for more than 4 years...& every tasks listed above is the same daily tasks that I do in my home... But I'm still the head of the house even w/out a real job to support my own family...My rules is always abided & My wife had no hard feelings or whatsoever just because she's the one who brings home the bread...I try hard to give all her sacrifices w/ good returns by taking good care of our kids & preparing everything for her like cooking food...washing clothes...helping her in her lessons (I might be out of job, but my wife conceded that I could have been a better teacher than her) & most specially... caressing & loving her for the rest of my life... But honestly...I do earn more than her by just working at home... So, I'm not really less of a man, if money is going to be the measurement in here.

It is hard to accept the stay at home daddy. But It is ture in my family.Muy husband lost job for 5 months.He saty at home,do the cooking.But he is the breadwinner as well.

I love the idea of a stay-at-home dad. I think that if the mom earns enough money and the dad has enough patience to do it, then it's a wonderful arrangement. Being a stay-at-home mom or dad is tough. Not everybody has the patience to take care of the kids all day, do housework, etc. I think that each couple should make that decision for themselves, and if the dad is the one that stays home it is wonderful. It definitely doesn't make him any "less of a man". In fact, a father that is involved in the daily life of his kids, whether he works outside the home or not, is more of a man than quite a few guys nowadays.

Well, I have 4 sister in laws that work while the hubby stays home. Although they don't cook or clean. The wife still has to do that when she gets home. Kids are mostly in school, and so they don't have to watch the kids to long..mostly tells them to either go outside to play or do their school work in their rooms.

In this day and age, here in the UK the stay-at-home dad is becoming very common and I haven't seen many people ridiculing him. Many women nowadays are earning more than their husbands, so man couples have decided to swop roles. I work for myself from home where my wife has to go out to work in an office. Because I can organize my time better, I regularly prepare meals and tend to generally look after the house. I don't feel silly or inferior, but it felt a bit weird when this situation arose around 20 years ago. I had always been the main breadwinner. When it comes to "wearing the pants", I don't think either one of us wears them. Metaphorically speaking of course! - Derek

I think that it's very important for the family-relationship to act role of member at home with stable mood.So,don't care for anyone word.

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, Everyone in this Universe as a a whole is supposed to perform duty as assigned by Almighty/Nature ( make it blunt example, only women are to give birth to child is as per nature), but in case, if anyone , who does other's work as well in a manner as prescribed, would be appriciable. As such i feel and i am always acustomed to lisen 'House-wives' instead of 'househusbands' is remarkable job. It is to be appricated with great honor as he does a work, which he is not supposed to be. May God bless You and have a great time.

I think housebands shoulc be given credit for sharing the responsibilities with his partner...there could be many reasons why he is the one doing the "mommy" job and his wife is out there....... but the fact that despite his being a man, he is doing his best to carry out his responsibilities at home as a dad, husband,... I dont ever believe that will make him less a man

I say kudos to the man who decides to stay home and hold down the fort. It's not an easy job especially when you have younger kids who need constant supervision. Where does it say that the man has to bring in the money? I think it takes a real man to go against what society labels as the "norm". If the couple agrees to the situation and the family is thriving then that's all that matters.