Compiments do you ever get them or give them?
By jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
12 responses
@justbeingtiffany (1156)
• United States
3 Aug 09
well i mostly give them and never get them.i always think is there something wrong with me. but one time i did get like so many in one day because i finally got some new shoes. which is a surprise because like everyone noticed! i didn't realize how important cool and new shoes were at our school. got to hate high school and i give a compliment to my high school friend everyday she always has the best clothes and accessories and shes always like thanks and talks about something else. she never gives them and i told her i won't give her anymore if she doesn't at least give me one. and she says she doesn't care if i give her any! and surprisely shes my best friend.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Aug 09
It is very hard for me to give and receive compliments, but I am working on it...
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
3 Aug 09
Compliments do you ever get them or give them?
Hello JugsJugs, I like to get them as well as give them. I don't always receive them too well but I surely don't mind giving them. It's one of least little things that can change a person and make them feel good. This is the reason why I love to give them. Whenever someone pay me a compliment on something that I've done well or if I look good, I always try to respond with a touch of humility in my voice. happy mylot!
@BambooPanda13 (867)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I give and get them. I usually get them about my tattoos. Depending on what colour my hair is some people comment on it. It's nice to give compliments as well, lift someone's day. Even if it is just, "You look nice today." I know that boosts me!
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@testXXX (26)
• Canada
3 Aug 09
I usually don't spontaneously burst out with a compliment, if that's what you mean. I don't say "oh wow did you know that you're such a great person?" or anything like that, but if someone looks nice that day and I really think so then I will say so. I don't like lying and telling people that I think something about them is great when I don't. As for receiving compliments, it's not really something I keep track of. I think I get them sometimes.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I always tell people if they look nice. Never hurts to compliment anyone. Being nice to others is a big part of my personality. I do get compliments primarily on my weight. Am thin for my age and don't have any gray. I don't dress in the latest fashions just because I hate to shop.
@Wizzywig (7847)
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3 Aug 09
Yes, I like to let people know that I appreciate their kind gestures and, if someone looks good I'll say so. I only give compliments if I mean them though. I know of people who will say they love a persons new haircut/clothes/make-up or whatever and then pull them apart behind their backs. "If ya can't say nothin' nice, don't say nothin' at all.." etc. As for getting compliments... yeah, but I rarely believe they're genuine because I dont feel that I deserve them.
@crazydaisy (3896)
• Canada
3 Aug 09
No I don't I try to be nice to everybody but they only take it for fun it would be nice to be taken out for lunch or some thing to show they that they care all they can think of food or cig.hahaha....it be nice to know that they care.
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@sarcasms (120)
• India
3 Aug 09
i give my gf a lot of compliments and she smtimes gives compliments to me as well..........but generally also wenever i see soemeone wearing smtng nice whch i like or a person i lke i dont hesitate to tell them but i have seen this behaviour of mine has led ppl to believe im a eccentric or im very opne kind of which makes me kind of weird ..........so i stopped doing it tht much i guess coz the reason is tht the wrld is turning into a selfish place these days and there is no room fr nice ppl out there.......so i try to curb my natrual instincts smtimes..........but fr the ppl whom i care deeply i dont hesistate.................
@kcoregon (302)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I think a well thought out compliment is the best. When you can tell that someone genuinely feels that the compliment is true and that they have thought about what to say to you to pay you the compliment then it can make you feel fantastic. False compliments from people who are just saying these things because they want something from you or they feel obliged to pay you the compliment-I can do without those. Recently a coach from my daughter's old soccer team came around to ask my daugther's to attend a tea party for his daughter's birthday. Before he left he had to tell me about how well mannered my children are. He had taken them to a playground with his daughter the other weekend and he said that they had displayed such great manners and made the trip an easy and fun one. When I receive a compliment about my children like this it makes my day. I do get quite a bit of compliments about their manners and while the compliment isn't really for me-even though I taught my kids manners it is up to them to use them-it makes me feel even better than someone telling me I look great in a fancy dress.
As far as giving compliments I give them out daily to my children. I also hand out critism but not to make them feel bad but to help show them how they can improve. I feel that by complimenting my children it helps to steer them in the right direction and shows them what they do right and not just what they do wrong. I will also compliment my husband when he deserves one. As far as a random compliment to a stranger I don't give these often. Most people seem to be in their own world or talking on their cell phone and I am not an outgoing person so I find this sort of thing hard to do. Though I did recently pay a compliment to a woman about her beautiful baby girl. I once paid a compliment to a child who I witnessed doing a good deed. Also, if a person appears approachable I find it easier to compliment them.