Do you think complain part of solution?

I think your friend does not know how to deal with such situation and she is complaining to people just to find a remedy for it. Have you anytime tried to solve any of her problems as a friend? If yes, then probably this is why she keeps telling you her problems - so that you can help her find solutions. Well one of my friend told me that i don't speak anything else but simply complain for everything. Probably this is why i'm able to empathize on your friend :)

Well, if she listens to the responses she gets to her complaints then she is just trying to solve the problem the complaint is about. If she doesn't listen, then she just wants an excuse or a escape-goat for what the complaint is a result of. Either way... there should be an end to it...sooner, rather than later!

The key to complaining is really to complain to someone who can actually maybe help in changing things. At work...you should talk to the boss. At home, family members. Sometimes it helps to run things by family or friends but if you do it too much and don't do anything positive to effect a change then they are going to grow tired of listening to it all the time.

She is either just one who lieks to complain, or she goes about solving her problems in a different way. Maybe she gets so many different things said to her when she is complaining that she is able to find a solution, I can see how that would be possible. However, I have a feeling that she is just one of those people who complains to complain. Sounds to me like she has troubels finding the joys in life and she views many things as problems when they probably really aren't.

I am like that sometimes. If i have a problem i am trying to work through, or something that is bothering me, i supose it could come off to my friends like i am complaining, but really i am trying to use them as a sounding board to see what kinds of ideas or solutions they might be able to come up with that might help. Often times it helps me to solve my problems and think things through if i talk or write about them. But i try not to complain all the time, especially about little things. I don't want to be the "gloomy gus" in my group of friends who everyone dislikes having around as i have nothing positive to add to the experience. aybe your friend is depressed or just going through some really tough times right now and needs a friendly shoulder to lean on for support? Or maybe she is just one of those people who never has anything good to say...i am not sure.

I think she likes to draw attention to herself or her complaining is a way that she can relieve the stress she feeling from the problem that she is complaining about.

I have seen that many people just like to show others how much they are in difficult and thereby gain their sympathy. It is a general attitude with some people that they start sharing their sorrows and the bad things happening to them and their friends. They are just not comfortable with good things. So if there are some people who are having good times seem to be left out. I have seen this even at college. Whenever most of the students had found a particular paper to be tough and one amongst them found it easy, it was him who who was left out. So now he has to find something to brood about the bad things. Some people just exaggerate the things to get attention of the other people. The actual problem is something else and they end up with something else.

maybe she is too shy to just come out and ask for help on a problem so she just complains and waffles around the real problem, she may be hoping someone will comment in a way that will help her to solve what ever is bothering her. again some just complain so people will pay her some attention. maybe she is one who always wants someone else to fix her problem for her instead of using her own instincts and common sense to fix it herself. just ask her point blank, what is your problem? that might help.

No, I do not think that complain can be a part of solution. I don't like people who like to complain because all the things that come out is all bad things and they are not easily satisfied with something, which I find it annoying. Another form of complainer is a person who keep push somebody else to do something that the person do not like to do. For complainer and pushy, they are the one who always right and other people will keep doing wrong in their eyes. It so troublesome to have that kind of friends.

I think it depends on the situation to whether the complaining is part of the solution or a way for your friend to either think about a solution for the problem or to just vent her frustrations. In terms of her home life, she could be using it as a way in which to vent her frustrations, allowing her to clear her mind so she can figure out a solution to her problems. In the working environment, if she complains to her boss about problems, it may be helping with her work situation. It can be benefical for employees to complain to their managers, since your manager/boss only has 2 eyes. I work in a restaurant, and we are told the more we complain about things to management, the most likely the problem will be resolved, which can help us get a raise quicker. (Which I think is silly in a way...but this is how our management staff thinks). It could be her way of bringing attention to the situation in order to reach some form of resolution...or who knows maybe she just likes to hear herself complain! (just kidding). Like I said before, it all depends on the situations being complained about, and which type of environment she is complaining about and doing the complaining in. There are some people who just like to complain when they feel they cannot correct the situation.

Sounds like she needs alot of attention...and so that may be part of the solution....if you get what I mean. People like to create drama's out of nothing as often they are insecure and purely need the attention.

Complaining will get her nowhere.