How Do You Cope With Insults and Bad Gossips?

I try to ignore them as much as possible but there are two extremes I have when an insult hurts or annoys me a lot. I either go into a depressed state for a day or two or I punch them until their nose is broken, but it does take a lot for me to reach these extremes

I really think that it is hard to answer this because it really depends on the person and what they are saying. I think the calmer you remain the better. It's easy to get on the anger wagon, but you have to remember that if one person is yelling or bad mouthing the other and you aren't. Then all that is being said is one sided. Creditility is lost with that person because they are doing all the bad mouthing. I've had this happen before to me and I just laid low. In time a person would say, I don't know what her problem is because everytime I see you, you're friendly and have a smile. However, everytime they saw this other person all she did was bad mouth or complain about things. See the difference there? You can keep yourself out of the drama by not participating in it.

Hi Zed_K4 Well, to me I would just walk away from the situation and that will really annoy them, its no use getting heated up over it, if they want to gossip let them, they will move off to someone else. Tamara

I just ignore them.. and I won't even bother to explain, confront, argue or anything.. I like to see people who insult others walk away with a disappointment look, as they will then realised how badly have the faired in the process. In my opinion, if I fight back, isn't me just one of them?

there's no way for them to prove it because they don't really know about me in real life. of course, i would be upset but i wouldn't let that user or person intimidate me since it feeds on hate and anger. that's why i tried to be nice because so that i won't get a bad impression.

I have often found my response to such things as odd. Many times I ignore. At times I confront. But neither of two makes me happy. When I react, I feel I may have over reacted, may be I could have ignored it. But when I dont, I feel that by letting the person get away with it, I am allowing it to become a habit, and the person will do it again to me and some other person like me. I think by ignoring, we do unwittingly let the person who is insulting feel that it is ok for them to be doing that to us. Ideally, however, I leave the scene, never to return. :-)

Depending on what the gossip is about. You can easily change things to your advantage, if handled properly. First, ignore the insults and gossip. Let's say that you are being gossiped about for ?? dirty shoes! Don't say anything about the shoes, but take the time, to start cleaning them up just a bit every day, until finaly, you have nice and clean shoes.

I would get mad but I wouldn't show it. I usually keep it in until I'm face to face with the person but when I'm with my BF of friends I let it all out as a series of rantings about the subject. My friends usually let me get my feelings out and then make comments about the situation. But basically I would just feel bad but wouldn't do anything about it.

If it's behind my back, I just ignore it. If it's out in the open, I say something, but politely. If it keeps on happening and I get mad, watch out world...

Just ignore them. Your true friends will tell you things to your face and not gossip. You can't stop gossip and if you know it's not true, then don't let the lies bother you. Everyone has experienced this and the strongest are those who can move past it.

My usual reaction would be to just smile, nod in agreement and say "yeah you're right." Most especially if the insult is said directly to me. Of course that gesture is quite sarcastic. If they take it seriously then that's them. I know myself and I know the truth. As long as they dont make any damages of any kind then Ill just let them think what they think. I dont have to prove myself to anyone anyway. Most insults dont faze me really. I have yet to discover/hear an insult that I do consider foul that Id go out of my way to defend myself. As for the gossip, gossip all they want. They're just going to make me popular with that.LOL Ill only address those who genuinely wants to know the truth. Who knows? I might spare them the sarcasm and relate the truth behind the gossip. Then again, that's just me.

I usually do not respond to this. But one member i said something he didnt like so i told him i would not respond anymore to him. He insulted me with "dont let the door hit you in your fat azz on the way out". This person has has not as clue if im fat or thin. Ok well a few days later in the mylot digest that i get everyday i saw he started a conversation that he was leaving. So i couldnt resist going into that conversation and repeating what he said to me back at him. To my post others chimmed in with their 2 cents about my post. So i had to explain to them why i did that. They didnt post agin after my explaintion.

I dont let people have the time of day to insult me or gossip about me. I dont think that people who do that to you are worth your time. They aren't your friends and dont mean a difference in your life. People who talk smack are just not impressive. Your true friends and family would already know the truth anyway. You know you are awesome when people you dont even know hate you.

I dont cope with those. I just ignored them. You know, the more you ponder about it, the more it'll drive you crazy. You can stop people from talking, gossiping or insulting. Those who gossip and insult, it just shows how shallow they are. Just ignore them. I used to be a target of gossip during high school, the more you fight back, the more they will gossip. Once they discovered that you dont give a darn, they'll get bored and stop. Gossip will stop once there are no feedback. So, I just lay low and keep quiet.

I despise gossip ! But I know many do gossip, behind my back.Not my friends as ,I pick them very carefully because of gossip.Its wrong and gets distorted down the line.I am a pretty out spoken person , if someone insults me .I give it back. I have a nasty temper at times,sometimes to the point of hurting others more than they have hurt me. So I guess ,I am on the high road trying to be a stronger person and ignore their ignorance.

Well let me start by saying i live in an apt building..We are a large building & we have a coffee bar downs stairs, well all the local gossips come to the coffee bar at all times of the day & talk about gossip...Man can they tear you up will gossip & insults....Most all the people that go to the coffee bar lives here so we all know one another..Anyway we do have some nice people that live here, then we have the trouble makers & the gossips...What i do now days is just stay away from that coffee bar & IF i go down there I just get coffee say hello & i am out of there..I make sure that these people know nothing about me at all..I have some friends here & when i want to see them i visit them in their apts...So i would say i tend to stay away from gossip & when they start , I leave..Let them know that you are not a gossip & that you do not apprecite their gossip....I have heard this and that said about someone & i have sometimes said "And you know this HOW?Its either they thought it up or someone tells them, so i say to them" I do not believe anything I hear and half of what i see" this usually stops them in their tracks...As far as insults ? I would say something like""""Oh you had better watch what you say, especially when you live in glass houses"....everyone has a past so maybe we can dig something out of your closet, and give me a rest....

If they wanna gossip about me, then let them do it.. WHy bother when things will only get worst if we try to clear it!! lol =D Instead of wasting my time and efforts, i will rather let time prove everything.. If i dun have the time, then fine, i will just admit to it.. lol =D Since be it i admit or not, those gossippers would have already found me 'guilty' based on what they seen and heard.. PLus, when they are not even related to me, so why bother?? lol =D

Hi, Zed! I generally ignore such things entirely. I'm proud to say they happen very seldom, but every teacher is going to get some from students here and there. Considering the source and causes, ignoring them isn't hard at all. I would certainly not get into returning such things!

hi there my friend zed first off i dont listen to gossip and if those gossips are all about me then I still wont mind coz I know that I dont do anything bad to anyone and ignoring it would let the rumor die down but if you react on it violently then it would just get worst. Let the gossipers be gossipers thats how they want to live there life as long as you are happy and havent done anything wrong to anyone then you are just fine with yourself.... have a great day my friend....

Zed, How do you react? You tell me and I will tell you how I react.