Do you find it easy to forgive?

Philippines
August 3, 2009 12:47am CST
I'm the kind of person who is not easily angered. My patience I can say is long enough to tolerate unfavorable situations and difficult people. So if someone manage to get me mad, that is something. My problem is I'm not a person who easily move on from one emotion to another. I believe there is a process of resolution and I don't like short cuts. So if the person would say sorry and tell hundreds of reason why he did this or that. I cannot or find it hard to release my "It's okay, no problem" response. I made it my practice not to say those words until it is not really coming from my heart and I can look straight in the eye of my offender. How about you? How do you handle forgiving issues?
2 responses
sanjana_aslam
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
hi beaushell you shoul check my discussion : http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2066165.aspx if you want your relationship to work out ... you have to learn to forgive, as if you dont your relationship can never work out .. .. because being human everyone makes mistakes Have you never made mistakes in your life ???
gorjusmom
@gorjusmom (16)
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
yes thats true no one cannot commit mistakes ever on their entire life.... of course... But for me in the name of love i cant easily forget, like if my partner done such unforgivable things like havin an affair with other woman,, wow,,, I cant take that coz me for me if you love me,,, you will respect me, and my my feelings,,, you will never do any thing that my heart aches... I can forgive you but its not easy to forget on what you have done... thats my stand I cant accept any second chances...
sanjana_aslam
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
hi gorgeous mom .. for the sake of family and unity we will forgive but no way we can forget ... there is no such thing as "forgive and forget because i never did myself ... "
sritrinity
@sritrinity (629)
• India
3 Aug 09
I try to forgive the person, even though they haven't apologised, as I know that people have had all sorts of limited upbringings which often mean that they have turned out abit funny. So instead I choose compassion. However, if their actions have been extremely hurtful, then again I will forgive but perhaps have nothing to do with anymore.