do you agree of living together first before married?

I say living together is the best way to really get to know someone. If it is not against your moral/religious ideas then go for it. I was married once at a very young age and I have now been divorced for 11 years. I am currently re-engaged but it took a long time to get to this point that I can honestly say that I will get married again. We are living together and we have been together for over 3 years. I would not marry this person if we had not lived together first. Being married is a big step. It consists of more than just being roommates and if you can't make it as roommates then how could you make it as a married couple? Just my opinion.

Relationship is like a glue. If you want it to be bond harder you need sometime to let both side drying then you stick it together. The bond will last longer than if you stick it to early when both side still wet.

I totally agree in living together first. Love is really important of course but you don't know what they do at home, if they mind cooking or cleaning. For example household chores are really important for me, I want to share them because I hate to be the maid so before getting married I'll live with my boyfriend first. What if he's a couch potato and doesn't do nothing at home? If I'm the only one cleaning up I'd prefer to leave alone, less mess to clean. And one thing that really bothers me is a married couple where they both work full time and the man rarely helps in the cooking or the dishes because "he was all day working". I think that just stupid. And yes I agree with you with sharing your life with someone, there's not only the happiness but also the problems. It's not the perfect life.

Hi, yes I agree with cohabitation before marriage. I believe that to truly know someone you must not only date with him and spend some time outside the house but it is important to live together. In this way you will become accustomed with the person's habits that mainly will not come out by simply going out together. Staying day and night with the person and seeing his/her daily habits including their attitude and behavior will surely help a lot before making the big leap. It is better like this then not agreeing after marriage, and then what happens either you have to live with it or lots of people are now separating which will be a mark on all your life. Sometimes love alone is not enough. Some people may be ticked off by a certain behavior and it is better to know that person how he truly is before committing further. I also have a strong belief that house work has to be shared and this has to be done from before unless a woman is not working but today mostly all couples keep on working after marriage. Have a nice day!

No. I don't agree to live together before marriage. This is contrary to religious norms, social norms and laws in my country. Live together before marriage also does not guarantee that marriage will be long or during their lives.

Before I married, i moved down to where my husband lived. At the time he was still living with his parents so i moved in with them and i stayed there two weeks before we married. After wwe got married we stayed there a total of 5 months before we finally got a place. I learned later that although we stayed in the same house but slept in different rooms, it was still wrong. My pastor taught me that, if you're gonna get married and you're engaged, stay in your respective homes and wait til afterwards. So do i agree? No i dont, bc God says so, but my flesh says its ok, bc it would be awkward living with someone after marriage and neither of you have learned each others ways. But point blank, dont do it. Wait until after you're married and then move in together.

Hi homeshoppers, Yes, I think living togehter before you get married, is essential to have the relationship and the marrige to stay strong. As you say, you learn to live with each other and lets say it may be a test period to see if you ar comfortable with each other under the same roof. You also learn the differenses you have and learn to live with them. Many people seems to try change each other when they first find out the differenses, but if we change each other, we would not longer be the individual that we fell in love with.

I think living together first before married or not is not important. The most important is you live well together.

Personally, i do not want to live=in together prior to getting married. I want marriage to happen first such that both of us could settle down and get our lives together. that was how my parents have brought me up and that is also what i believed in myself..

i think thats very very important you have to see if you can get along together in a house and not just outside the house. you got to see if you can make scarfices for eachother on certain things in the house. and most importantly you have to see if the person you might live with in the future is a pig or not because if there are i'm not gonna be picking up after them. so this isn't gonna work i have to see improvements on how they are gonna live once we do get married and live together you know. you have to see what your walking into.

i am agree of living together first befor married.

I think both persons need to know each other well before they get married so that they won't regret about it later!

My husband and I lived together for 2 years before we were married. We had a 19 month old daughter when we got married. Why did we live together, to see if we were compatible in a domestic situation. In our society I really don't think it is a bad idea to live with the person that might eventually be your spouse before you are married.

Marriage is necessary as a social institution. It's forms have been varied over the ages but it is necessary as it does not only give name and company, but it is something that is based on the concept of two is better than one. Problems arise when people put their own ego before the other person in their relationship. If marriages fail, it is usually because both parties are at a failure. There are different circumstances leading to breaking of a relationship and these can crop up at anytime in the life-time of the relationships.

My views on this has totally changed from when i was a younger person..Morally i feel it is wrong to just live together,and i still feel that way, but after i have been in a few relationships I understand "Why" people do live together FIRST...I have jumped into marriage just to avoid living ( In sin) so to speak) but if i had it to do over again, i mean to marry? I would live with that person first,( right or wrong because so many people jump into marriage and end up in divorce...My daugheter lived with her now husband before they married, after they had been together for a couple of years they ended up getting married, but you never know if a marriage is going to work out until you live with that person....So if i ever even "think" about marriage i would have to live with that person first, because people always look down on someone that has been married a few times,,,,they actually do it for the right reasons, marry that is but so many times it does not work....

I don't agree. Because no one can coincide in their view with the others in all aspects. If we started to live without getting our marriage where there is not legal binding or social bind , we would be in the mood of separation only always in such cases. I think this is the life style framed by those people who are aiming at the physical contact(how difficult to frame the words to keep our posts in mylot).These are the temporary things and we are having much in our life.Those who don't want to have burden in their life about the family and child are having this culture.

My husband and I lived together for almost four years before we decided to get married and it honestly it might have been even longer if it wasn't for his family asking us when we were planning on getting married. I guess everyone has their opinions on this question but I think it is smarter to live together before getting married that we you know if the two of you will be able to handle living together before you agree to spend the rest of your lives together. But then their are others that think that living together before you are married is a sin..and maybe it is. I think I would rather take that risk of sinning to see if my spouse and I can get along living together before I make such a big commitment like marriage.

I think if alot of people were to live together first rather than get married first they would never get married.I think that you never know what a person is like until you have lived with them for at least a year or even longer.There would be a lot less people get married only to end up getting a divorce.

I think marriage cerfiticate and wedding ceremony are just form and interlude. A true marriage means you lead a life with your lover and spend every minutes with either laugh and tears. Once you agree to live together, it means you are married in your heart, only without legalization. I think it's ok to live together if you are responsible enough for each other and really want to live with eath other.:)

Living together before getting married is the best thing one should do..It is where you are able to realize whether you have to continue your relationship and have it one level high which is marrying..if you are living together, problems start, and if you are able to surpass it, then you can say, you can get married..It is in living together that you are able to prove the strength of your relationship..If you survive living together, then taking the next step which is marriage is what you should do next..