starting over

Things will be very hard for you. You have to hang in there and be tough. Don't let yourself get too down. It will all work out. I have been there and done that and got the tshirt for it. The best thing to do is to concentrate on yourself and your family. While you have your parents support you need to really work hard at establishing yourself. Get out there and find that job, save up all of the money that you can and be prepared to move out into the world on your own. It will be very different when you do move out on your own. Sometimes it will be hard and sometimes you will wonder if you are doing the right thing. Stay confident in yourself. Get involved with a church or a local support group if you can. Battered women shelters can point you in the right direction for local groups. It helps to see that other people have made it through the same thing and that you are not alone. Pay very close attention to your children. This new move will surely effect them. Perhaps it will be positive but it might also have a negative effect as well. Counseling might help with this. It will be hard juggling all that you have to juggle between kids, work and just making it. Get on any public assistance that you can. It is there for a reason. Most important take care of yourself. It is very easy to get run down in this type of situation. Make sure you eat healthy and if you are not into exercising you might want to try. Exercise will help you get over depression. Keep your head held high and keep us posted!

The best wayf or you to move on is to focus to your kids and in finding job. I kow it is not that easy but once you have your job, it is easier for you to move on.Above all pray, so that Jesus will give you strenght to over come your burdens.

I suggest you find a group that could help you to move on. A group that shares the same experience that you have experienced. A church group would be nice. And also you could make yourself busy with other things. Why make yourself busy with your kids, bond with them. From there your good to start a new life ahead. Good luck! :)

Workingwoman11 my suggestion is just to weigh the pros and the cons and think about what is best for your kids....I have been blessed with the gift of getting past some relationship mostly when it comes to men, friendships is my problem, I have been hurt and use that experience to guide me through the my relationships, I am a strong believer in learning from my mistakes as well as others, and I refuse to go through the same things over and over..you have been with this man for 7yrs so this may take some time, but if you have been hurt physically that in itself should help you get pass this, please feel free to email me at jcompanion4life@aol.com I am more than willing to help you as much as I can, I know its hard but trust me, you will get through it,we all need people to talk too, maybe if I share my relationship issues with you, it can help you to get through your issues.On a serious note just think about how the relationship may be affecting your kids, you don't want them to carry this into their relationships not all of us is strong enough to learn from life experience some of us unfortunately repeat so thank god you got out of it when you did, hopefully your kids will not follow suit, talk to them if they are of age to understand explain how important it is for them to learn from this not to repeat it.hope this helps.