When life gets tough, what gets you up and running?

All individuals respond to life's difficulties differently. We all are gifted with different temperaments and personalities to cope with such situations. There could be many ways to get one up and running despite tribulations and trials. I believe that things work differently with everyone, but at the same time similar. A person may overcome a difficulty with no help from others, with the help of family or friends, with the help of a psychiatrist, and so forth and so on. The list may just go on and on. I suppose the thing to do when going through a difficulty is the ability to accept and embrace what is given and what is ahead of you. Because in denial or when running away, nothing is solved, things just pile up, and before you know it, you are in much deeper pit and it is even much harder to be freed from it. Once present situation is fully embraced and accepted, then find solutions, seek counsel of loved ones or friends, have faith and have hope. We need to constantly remind ourselves that two heads are better than one and also be reminded that hope and faith give us light in that dark tunnel, for to hope and to have faith is equivalent to staying positive, that things will get better, that there is always rainbow after the rain. I understand that staying positive and optimistic is definitely hard when going through tough times. But would negativity and staying pessimistic help? When you just can't take it anymore, just please remember that you are not alone. There will always be someone to help, someone to care, and someone willing to lean a hand. Praying and keeping myself surrounded by family and genuine friends helped me go through life's difficulties. It sure wasn't easy, but i just know and have faith that things happen for a reason, that nothing is an accident. Every trial, every pain, every experience mold us, teach us, and transform us to become better and to strive to be better.

Well life is tough for me right now. I have a daughter who will be 3 in two weeks, and she is what keeps me going. I do not rely on anyone other than myself, and I rarely let anyone know about how tough times are for me right now. The easiest thing for me to do when life gets tough is to take it one day at a time. I focus on the tasks at hand, and what absolutely needs done that day. If there is something that I want to do, but can wait until the next day I write it down for myself so I can get to it when I can. I have found a great of time when you talk to a friend, they do not truly understand how you feel about the situation. Plus, I do not like burdening others with my problems. When I absolutely need advice I go to my mother first, if she does not know or if I feel iffy on her advice I will consult my best friend as well. But again, I only do this when I absolutely need advice.

It depends on what gets me down. Some things are harder to overcome than others. I, myself, keep a list of positive quotes nearby. They usually comfort me more than anything. I will share a couple of them with you here: "The Creator has not given you a longing to do that which you have no ability to do." - Orison Swett Marden "Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we're here we should dance." -Unknown "Remember your past mistakes just long enough to profit by them." - Dan McKinnon If you are feeling down, or weary, I hope these will help pick you up, and get you going again!

Not strong enough. I don't really have a big strong-will, but bad experiences keep me going. I need words of wisdom the whole time and I believe that's why I love to read self-help books. Time would be the most important factor for me to 'recover'. I can deal with it alone, and it might take months. However, the initial stage, I would need words of encouragement from love ones.. I sound so serious today. LOL..

although l have a very strong will power. l did find my children where a big comfort to me going though all the stuff that l had to do

I always talk to famiy and friends when I'm going through a difficult time. I was taught not to talk to other people about my problems because other people don't want to hear about it. However, I think it depends on who you are talking to. I've always considered myself pretty independent but we do need help sometimes. It helps to have somebody to talk to. In the end, I pretty much persevere so my willpower is pretty strong. Kathy.

There is no certain recipe. Initially I get tensed. But I try next moment to get the solutions and all.I try out hard and try till last point.

Hey, When life is tough, I just merely flip open up my laptop and listen to my favorite songs that get me away from all the bad things that are in my life. It is really good because it relaxes me too. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!

Well, I have been through those patches many a times now. Sometimes the problems are so surmounting that I had found myself on the edge. During my school days my father got into business. There were a neverending series of problems sprouting one after the other. And at times I just wished that I was never born. I was involved at an age of 14 I guess. Recently, about a couple of years back I had a terrible experience with someone. I "thought" we were close. I was shattered by the experience. I found myself on that same edge again, balancing myself to hold ground or to take the fall off the cliff. Ummm... I donm't discuss family matters with friends, nor do I like much to discuss my personal problems with anyone. The only thing that makes me to move along is Faith I believe. Everytime I came against a tough one, my wounds were healed by Faith. You didn't tell us what gets "You" going?

Hello, at hard times the first thing i do, i say a little prayer. But i don't last a day without talking or visiting my friends or family. To my friends i tell them everything. But to my family though i don't tell them when things are tough, i always want to be around them at these times. I am not tough but with my love ones around. I can face anything. Happy mylotting!

nice discussion cbeee3 we have all have had bad times, i had mine, these times could be so bad.... i sit down alone and ponder over things, things i have done in the past, i recall the bad experiences i have had, it is so depressing to have such thoughts and not something one should think about when the time is really bad, but well they automatically flow in somehow and our history comes back to life to bug us at the moment we are weak, this is how life sometimes is, people say what they have to and you just nod at them because you know their opinion is not actually helping, they say the obvious "don't worry everything will be ok" but you know how you feel....and they won't make it any better, what else could they do by the way... i mostly stay alone at moments like these and don't want to be anywhere near the people who don't understand what i am going through, because anything they would say would seem so irritating and you get the feeling that they don't even care about you... so staying away from such people is what i do coz all they are going to do is make things worse for you... the one thing i do mostly at times like these is talk to God, ask Him to relieve me of this phase, i always stay alone when i do that... i want to be somewhere i can be to be able to completely concentrate on Him and tell Him everything... He is the one who really knows what i am going through and keep talking to Him... ask Him for forgiveness for whatever i have done wrong in life... i am a sinner and I need salvation... He knows me better than my own parents and He is the one you can always trust in life! Just want to leave the matter in His hands for He is the one who will always be there for you no matter what... some people curse God when they have bad times but i can't ever do that, i don't blame God for that, it is me and myself just, i have to suffer for having ignored God for quiet a long time and He knows it as well and He can help me out of this... the test will soon be over! Blessings to all

I have a very bad habit. That is 'whatever will be will be' character. It is no good, that is why I am not successful in my life or career. I always take things easy. However, since I am married now, if I have work problem, I will just share it with my wife, she will just console me and asked me to submit to God in my prayer. I live day by day till today. Cheers and happy myLotting!

hey DDT...lol.. well in hard times of mine,god is the first rescue..next i try to deal it all by self..if it is any serious issue i let my parents know..else i sort it off with help of friends..n in course of tackling problem u may find another good friend too..i guess this good friend is a product of god's good heart... and will power..yepp..i do have few extra units of it..

I hate it when life get's tough or things don't go right. So somehow I don't let the things that might lead to that get in my life. I hate thing's that ruin my life, or the way I'm living it. It sucks to deal with things you really shouldn't deal with in life.

Life is what it is. We all handle tough situations in different ways. With the support of my family and friends I recently made it through a very difficult time. With their kind words, hugs, and prayers I am doing well. Prayer on my part has helped me to cope with this too. Taking a deep cleansing breath and looking around at the beauty of what life has to offer is helpful too. Even on a bad day there are moments of good that make it easier to go on. Big huggers to you.

When things get rough in my life I turn to my best friend and a few of my other friends and family. I also talk to my pastor and therapist about some things. I need those people in my life to help me through these things and to deal with some of the things that life tends to throw at us.

Usually I tend to deal with tough times by myself as I am a soliatry beast. How I do it is when ever life hits me where it hurts I take a few moments to assess and then remember that I have a dream of what I want my life to be and until I achieve this dream I cannot let these troubles get in my way. I also believe that every time you get through a tough time it makes you stronger and more capable to deal what else comes your way. If that wasn't the case I would have been six feet under a long long time ago.

I can usually get through my problems by myself, but it's always nice when loved ones offer their help or just cheer me up if they really can't do anything to help me. I've faced many hardships in life, and I got through all of them. I just wish that I'll always have the strength to deal with any problem that would come to my life.

My self, my will and my motivation....to survive and move on. no matter what happens, i do want to achieve things even though when it is in the failing stages. but some times i do take the concern to the highest power. i know there's some doubts about it too, but it worked...once

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