Drink or get drunk?

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I would really like to hear what people have to say on this subject. This may be rather long but I want you to know all the details before "passing judgement". This past weekend our family was invited to a family get-together at my sister's cottage. I was hesitant at first because I know how much a few of my family members like to indulge in alcohol. I have two daughters, 13 and 16. In order to deflect some of this I asked if they could each bring a friend and one of them did. I had been assured ahead of time about safety re drinking and driving the boats and the ATVs. That turned out to be crap! Also, every single adult there drank to intoxication, some worse than others. I was the only adult who didn't touch a drop of booze. We are talking about my 84yo mother, my sister (60) and her partner and daughter (27), my middle sister and her husband, my brother and his wife, my husband... I brought my book and writing with me in case I couldn't handle it and wanted to just disappear. The days were lovely but once the drinking started it never stopped. What in the world would they do if something serious happened and there wasn't a sober one in the bunch and three kids involved? My younger daughter is turning 13 this week so we had a little birthday celebration for her Saturday afternoon. My husband and I gave her a new digital camera which she was thrilled with. She now has her own. But... drunk people think some things are funny and later in the evening when all the adults were pretty much plastered, my sister's partner threw my daughter in the lake with her camera in her pocket. Everyone was aware that she had it in her pocket. She kept telling them so. My daughter was terribly, terribly upset and I was livid. My older daughter was also mad. My husband wasn't there when this happened so when I asked him to come and talk to my daughter to try and help the situation, both my daughters pushed him away because he had been drinking and smoking cigarettes which, we thought, he had quit several years ago (found out he started socially about a year ago). My older daughter said she really hated him and stormed off. I was taking the sides of my daughters. This Mama Bear doesn't like anyone messing with her cubs. The guy who threw my daughter in the water did not apologize, only laughed. I told him he would buy her a new one. This man is 65 years old and usually a very easy-going guy but this weekend was the first time I saw him intoxicated. My mother tried to calm my daughter, felt bad for her, and then went off in search of my older daughter. My sister (the middle one, not the one who has the cottage) drunk as all get-out told me to get over it. This is a person, 9 years older than me, who has talked down to me all my life. I told my mother (who was also in her cups) and she hollered at my sister to leave us alone. It was a terrible hour. They were trying to get some people together to play games. I finally told my younger daughter that she should join the games, get her mind off of it and maybe she'd have some fun. She did and we did. The camera did not dry out despite all our attempts. So my husband took it back to the store telling them my daughter wanted a different colour. I wanted no part of this because it is lying and I am a Christian and refuse to be a part of that kind of thing. This is another reason why I don't like going to see my husband's family for summer vacation every year because they are big partiers down there in the Maritimes. I do not drink. I am on medication, plus I don't like the side effects. I don't know why people get themselves so drunk they have to act stupid. They went out on the ATVs at 12:30 in the morning, drunks driving with my kids in the trailer in the back. They just went over to a nearby cottage but I still think it was stupid. I could hear from where I was that they were having difficulty getting out of the driveway with the trailer attached to the ATV. So, my dear friends, do you think I over-reacted? My daughter was crying her heart out because her brand new birthday gift was ruined. I would have reacted the same way and felt she had every right to feel bad. This kind of thing will cause my children to resent those people involved and not want to go to anymore family functions. I do not look forward to next year's invitation to the same event. I am not a perfect Christian; I do lose my temper with my family members a lot, mainly because I dont' feel any of them ever support me. Since my Dad died (3 years ago) I have felt all alone in that respect. My Dad never drank more than 2 drinks. I know I need to have more patience and tolerance and of course forgiveness, but sometimes enough is enough! Your thoughts?