Should parents stay together for the kids sake?

You should never stay in a relationship "Just for the kids". How are 2 parents who make each other miserable good for the kids?

I definatley think that couples staying together for the sake of their children is a bad idea, however wonderful it may sound the parents are only going to end up hating eachother and being resentful and the children are going to pick up on that and end up in a worse situation than if their parents had previously split. Recipe for disaster imo :)

If one of the parents is acting immorarly than staying together isn't for the sake of the kids, it's quit the opposite side...the children can feel if their parents are unhappy and if they suffer too...it's better to keep distance. I 'm in that kind of situation, single child raised only by my mother while my dad.. let's say i don't have a good impression about him at all and I along with the ones near me said it was good that he didn't participate in my life otherwise i would be influenced by him in a bad way. For the sake of hers and the children... it seems that divoricng is a good way to a better life.

no never.... thats the stupid reason...... for kid it's better to see like their parents were devorced but both parents spending some time with kids together, than that they were not devorsed because of kids but kids r waching every day conflicts between parents or may be more serious problems.

yes it will be ideal for parents to stay together and raise their kids, most kids who stay under single parents often get exposed to several crimes and they grow up with mentalities in which they will either beat their wifes and physically abuse their kids

No they shouldnt. If the children grow up with their parents fighting all the time,and in a loveless relationship, what is that teaching them? They will grow up thinking that is ok! And it will affect them emotionally even if they dont show it. 12 and 17 years old is not young! They are old enough to understand whats going on. I think she should get out of the relationship and get a divorce!

Well I'm not one for giving relationship and parenting advice, but I will try and give you my honest gineral opinion, I think (No) if the parents are unhappy they shouldn't stay together becuse I feel its unhealthy for children to grow up in a household where there parent's are fighting or bickering and unhappy. with that said, I do feel that its important for both parent's to remain in there children's lives as long as both perents are loving and responsible, but as I said I dont think that couples should stay together solely for the sake of the children becuse children deserve to grow up in a happy stress free environment they will have plenty of time for worry and sress when there older and shouldn't have to go through watching or living with unhappy parent's.

Try to have all the recourse first, faith in God and prayers can change everything, love for the children can patch a troublesome relationship. If they could possibly attend a religious counselling or the wife would do everything to let the busband feel her sacrifices for the sake of their children they both love with the help of God later they'll both realize it's worth staying together for the sake of their kids.

If hubby is putting his hands on her and the kids, there is nothing good that can come out of keeping the kids there. He's only teaching those kids that violence is okay. I have often wondered about this subject. You see so many broken families. I realize that two people can fall out of love. But I think it is irrisponsable to have children and then leave your spouse because you are unhappy. You are taking something away from that child that he/she can never get back. I think that when two people make the deep life commitment to be married, it should be just that. People make eachother miserable because they won't take the patience to work things out. But, sometime the situation is far from help. In my opinion, your friend should get out of that house! She doesn't have to go for a divorce. She can demand that he get help or she will leave. She has to think what is best for her children. And it will do those children nothing but harm to see thier drunken father beating on their mother.

Yes, I strongly believe that parents should live together for their kids sake. But if her husband doesn't understand the fact then she must intimate her relatives about it or if she don't want to share with relative then she must be strong and bold enough to face him. I think she must be independent financially, even if she is not she can ask his husband to provide financial support and live separately if he doesn't stop beating her. I would suggest it is better to be together for kids, and try to be bold and strong and don't let his husband try to exploit her in any ways.

As much as I am tempted to say "yes", I guess parents shouldn't do that. This is more true for those parents who are constantly arguing with each other and just cannot find a sense of peace having to live togetehr. I guess children being exposed to such an unhappy and torn home isn;t healthy for them emotionally and mentally. It is better to explain to them the reason behind the separation instead of having to let them go through the ordeal of witnessing their parents constantly bickering at each other.

Well i do think she should live a better life than now . If the hubby is bad both to her and her kids why they leave him alone ? Cann't she have her two children after divorce ? Yeah if she cann't have her kids to stay with her that's also horrible because no one knows how the hubby would treat the kids.

Wait, you said that not only has he beat on her, but he has also beat on the children. I'd say that it is definitely time to get out. As a matter of fact, I don't think that I would ever stay in a relationship solely for the sake of children. When she goes to start the divorce proceedings, she should make sure that her attorney knows that he has not only beat her but also beat the kids and she may come out having full custody of the kids with very limited visitation rights for the father.

Of course to divorce,for herself,and also for kids. With kids a better life.

If the parents are unhappy then soon the kids would be unhappy. THe unhappiness would rub off on the children. I am sure the children understand what is going on with the father considering their ages I think what is best for the kids in that situation is to get them out especially if he does hit them.

I used to think thats necessary..I know its going to be hard for the kids. Im a single mother and i admit, even if i see joy on the eyes on my son, i know theres still something missing. He still needs his dad. But then, we cant be together because he may not be a drinker, but he fools around. And ive been patient about it for 4 years until i cant stand it anymore that i have to let it go. One day, my son will understand me and i hope he will be able to forgive me for doing it.

Hi, If you two people are fighting all the time that is not a good enviroment for the children. If her spouse is coming home late and is drunk and beating up on everyone then it is time to get out! I know, I did just that. My exhusband would come home late from the bars and beat up on me. I was foolish enough to take. Then one night he came home and nearly killed me. Thank goodness one of my neighbors called the police. I left that night with my son and never went back!

it wouldnt be a good decision if the children were too young..since they are 12 n 17 year old,aged enough to understand their mother,i dont think so divorce wud be a problem.. staying in company of drunkard is not good for children too..so i suggest its time for divorce..but it would be really great if somehow she can speak to her husband and bring good relationship...

If she is not financially dependent on him, its time to make a move. Otherwise she should wait till she is financially secure, otherwise this decision can be detrimental for the future of her children. I would suggest that before she does this, she should make sure that all options have been exhausted. going apart is a big decision no matter what the circumstances. Best of luck to your friend for her future.

I don't think that parents should stay together for their children's sake. My mom stayed with her ex-husband for the sake of my brother and sister, but they both knew that their father was a drunk and we were all MUCH happier when she finally threw him out and filed for divorce. The atmosphere in the house became so much calmer and more positive. We had some tough times at first, but we all pulled together and made it work without him, and we were much better off and a whole lot happier than when he still lived there. I'm also dealing with this question in my own relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, and we had a baby in June. Naturally, when we told our families, they all started asking if we were planning on getting married, which we are not, at least not anytime soon. We didn't want to get married just because we had a kid together. We live together and things are working well for us so far, but at least if things don't work out we don't have the messy legal battle to go through. We have no intentions of getting married until our son is at least a year old, because we don't want this same thing to happen to us. I think your colleague might want to consider talking to her children and getting their take on the situation. They are old enough to have something valid to contribute, and even if she doesn't mention anything about divorce, she could find out how they feel and what their opinions are. My mother talked to all 3 of us before she made any actions and was relieved to find out that we all wanted her husband gone as much as she did! Lastly, I think your friend needs to get out of this relationship because of the abuse he is putting her through. Even occassional physical abuse is not something that a woman should tolerate. And if he's beating the kids, too, then she should just cut out and run. If her kids don't see her taking a stand then they may never learn how to and might find themselves in a similiar situation one day. Best of luck to your friend, as I know this is a painful situation to go through.