Do you mind having a boyfriend younger than you?
By aprilia23
@aprilia23 (18)
Philippines
August 5, 2009 5:55am CST
For me, I always had this principle not to have a younger boyfriend. Whenever a guy courts me, the first thing I'm going to ask is his birthdate! lol... It really disgust me whenever a guy courting me is younger. Then I met this guy, he said he was 23 and I was 22 then.. He become my boyfriend, and to my surprise and terror!!! I found out that he is just 21 a month after!!huhuhu . I can't do anything about it now. It's too late. I love him so much to let him go just because he is younger than me. Until now he is still my boyfriend and I really don't care about his age. I now believe that in love, age doesn't matter......... :)
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15 responses
@dipteevaidya123 (21)
• India
6 Aug 09
i feel the thing that matters in love is not age but the understanding and love between two people and that makes the relationship a good one..i myself have a boyfriend who is younger than me..but he is very understanding and lovely person and i nver felt any problems because of our age difference..we have a very good chemistry and age was never a problem...
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@pratyushtamhankar (859)
• India
2 Sep 09
Hey Diptee !
I too am of the same opinion, whats in age when you love the guy ? Nice to hear that you two have a good chemistry ! May God bless your relationship...
Take care dear...
@LiAXaZu (183)
• Philippines
6 Aug 09
it's a good thing that you've had a change of heart. age doesn't really matter when it comes to love. but i want to ask you a question, would you really have rejected him if you knew his real age beforehand? i mean, look at what you could've missed if you had. good thing he lied. kudos to you and your boyfriend. :)
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@aprilia23 (18)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
hmmm actually I don't have any other experiences yet coz for the fact that he is my first boyfriend :) ... I have a friend who have a younger bf, and that guy is soooo immature over so many things.. that's one of the reason why I don't like guys younger than me.
thanks for the response!!!
Have a lovely day! :)
@aprilia23 (18)
• Philippines
6 Aug 09
ahahah good question! actually, my answer to that question would be yes...why? just because i hate younger guys..hahah i really don't know why.. it just pisses me off! ahaha..its a good thing that he lied then, ahahahaha it's too late for me though to just leave him coz i already fall for him! he should be thankful that he is so clever, he told me he knew i don't like younger guys that's the reason why he lied!....... honestly whenever it comes in my mind that he is younger, i just smile and not really care about it anymore...
thanks for the response!
have a great day..... ^-^
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@tuliorowena (350)
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
Don't mind if he a bit younger. But not too way younger. I think the important thing is how much you feel for each other. Troubles will definetly come to your relationship. And your issue will not even matter. So don't judge a guy by his age. Love all you can, and cherish each other while you can. Happy mylotting!
@aprilia23 (18)
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
Thank you for your comment. I was very judgmental before. Now things have changed and im happy about it. Have a great day!
@sulaiziana (42)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 09
love is blind. but back then i also reject a guy that younger than me..i just cannot accept them. it's weird for me. thank god now i'm married with a same age man. i think a younger man will bring more problems to me. sorry to say this, this is just my thought.
@Archie0 (5652)
•
18 Sep 09
It depends how old you are. Being 23, I prefer someone who is already established...not still in college or working an entry level position. If I was 30, it would be no big deal. High school may or may not be a big deal. It depends how sterotypical your peers are.
@windymyre (210)
• United States
8 Aug 09
I don't mind a guy that is younger than I am, as long as he is within about 10 years of my age. My husband is 3 years younger than I am. What concerns me is that your boyfriend lied to you. If he has lied to you about anything else, I would find it hard to believe other things that he might tell you.
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
9 Aug 09
I agree about the lying. Someone lies to me, and I never trust them again!
@aprilia23 (18)
• Philippines
6 Aug 09
5 yrs older than you?? thats amazing...at first you didn't doubt it or whatsoever? im sorry for asking that question. Well in today's generation age really doesnt matter anymore..as long as you are happy with him/her right now, nothing else matter..
thank you for your response..
wish you two happiness...have a great day
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
9 Aug 09
My step-father is 12 years younger than my step-mother, and my husband is 35 years older than I am, so in our family age does not matter. My maternal grandmother was a year older than my grandfather. Age is just a number. However, I'd be worried that this guy lied to you. I can't trust a person who lies, even if they only lie once.
@pratyushtamhankar (859)
• India
2 Sep 09
Ah ! It seems love has taught you the right lesson. My girlfriend is older than me (hope she's not reading this, she might not like the word older). But there's just 5 months gap in between us. The main thing is that we love each other a lot. Never ever has age been a matter of hot discussion in between us. We love the way we are, its not that we are kids or something, we are old enough to understand each other and thats what really matters in love, or for that sake, any relationship...
Thanks for the discussion aprilia...
@Ruby722 (796)
• China
6 Aug 09
Hi there
I think it's won't be a question .It's not a big deal.You are 22years old and your boy friend is 21years old.Just 1years old distance.It's fine.I have to admit i have this principle too i won't find someone younger than me.But if you find you ture love it's won't a problem isn't it?My aunt and my uncle.My aunt is oldder one years old than my nucle But they have a great relationship
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
6 Aug 09
In love age isn't really a concern at all. Yes, my husband is 5 years older than me and yes my two boyfriends before him were also 5 years older than I am. But prior to that my boyfriend was 4 years younger than me. We were together for over a year and I was a college student. He was in high school. The only thing that made our relationship difficult was the fact that in some ways he couldn't associate with my life because I was going through different things than he had ever experienced.
Now that I am older than that, if I wasn't married it wouldn't matter one way or the other to me if I was older or if he was older. Once people get into adulthood, age is really just a number. Most of my friends are older than I am but we all fit in on the same stage in life and experiences which is much the reason that my husband and I were so compatible as well. We were both in the same stage in life.
@karenrosesalazar (256)
• Philippines
6 Aug 09
No,i don't mind at all. My last boyfriend was a year younger than me, and it was not an issue. But of course, i won't mind as long as the age gap isn't 6-10 years. LOL.
@mailbashiruddin (7)
• India
5 Aug 09
It completely depends on a individual and the partner as well. I'm not sure if a girl would mind a younger boyfirend, but I have GF 4 yrs elder to me and seriously we are not going great.I now want to jus remain as friend and rather find a gurl of my age as GF.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
Well, for me age doesn't matter...I mean, as long as you love each other, as long as the guy cares for you and loves you unconditionally...then why setup standards?
My boyfriend is younger than me...and I don't care. I love him and he loves me. And that's what matters most.