What would you do?
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
United States
August 5, 2009 12:17pm CST
People I would rather not speak to keep asking to be my friend on places like Facebook. One has done so today that is a touchy situation. He is the ex of my cousin ( & best friend), I have never cared for this creep but he is the Father of her kids. I would rather not speak to him at all but we still have many mutual friends and he has a habit of taking things offensively such as my not talking to him ( I say hello when I am around but do not have full out conversations with him just cordial greetings). He then blows it out of proportion. Some of our friends believe I should just let it go but they did not have to taken my pregnant cousin beat half to death and sodomized by him to the hospital. He may have gotten the courts (by her stupidity) to let him see his kids but I do not want to have anything to do with him.
Any way so with this request it starts again. I say no and he tells everyone that I am not "trying". What would you do? Do you just ignore people like this or tell them off or what?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
5 Aug 09
i DON'T BLAME U FOR NOT WANTING ANYTHING TO DO W/HIM OR FOR NOT LIKING HIM. i DON'T EVEN KNOW HIM BUT I DON'T LIKE HIM EITHER FOR WHAT HE DID TO YOUR COUSIN. I wouldn't care what my friends said. I bet if it had happened to them or some of their family they wouldn't want anything to do w/him either.I wouldn't care what he told people about me. I probably would have already told him off not that it would probably do any good. Once a mean jerk always a mean jerk. He would leave me alone no matter what it took. 
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
6 Aug 09
He needs to be put away before he does something alot worse. I don't understand why they don't do something w/people like him. U read or see on tv everyday where they do these gosh awful things but it's too late for the victims then. I SURE HOPE U & YOUR COUSIN STAY SAFE.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 Aug 09
That is absolutely ridiculous that he has gotten by w/this& to be drawing disabilty for being a jacka$$ is evern worse. he needs long term treatment for sure & no guarantee that would help but a few days in rehab is sure not going to. I would have no contact w/him at all even online. HE would not be in my address book at all.
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
7 Aug 09
unfortunately our government felt that his 2 day stay in rehab was enough of a "good start" to let him go on probation. That was 3 years ago and the courts have sent him back to rehab 4 more times, he has never stayed past a week and it never lasts more then a few months tops. Our tax money at work. Did you know if you work at a job for even a short time and the courts send you to rehab you can get disability pay!? We know he got this because it is the only time child support is paid other then when he get's unemployment. She moved across the country to get away from him and we live in another state as well, as of right now all contact is online and easy to ignore.
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@tdemex (3540)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I'd ignore the creep! But I would also keep one eye open so you don't become a victim of his rants! Any chance of him going postal? Hope not for your sake. Can't the family join forces to help your cousin get out of this situation, or dosen't she want help? 
tdemex
tdemex@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
5 Aug 09
She got out after 10 years and move across the country. But she let him get away with a lot and the court told her it was too late to say anything for much of it. For a couple of years we did not have to have much to do with him as he was not sober and didn't pass the tests he had to pass to see the kids. Now his mother has gone to court and gotten visitation so the kids where out here for a few weeks and he all of a sudden wants to be around us again. He has been asking many questions of other people about us so I was not surprised to here from him just aggravated.
@mamaplus2angels (35)
• United States
6 Aug 09
Definately ignore him!!! He's not the father of ur kids so there is no reason for u to talk to him or feel bad for not.
