A very ungrateful friend..
By daryljane
@daryljane (3406)
Philippines
August 5, 2009 12:56pm CST
In my replies i keep saying that im busy with work since im a member in the decorations committee...the past 2 weeks, its been busy after it was announced that theres a change in management, so we have to put up a stat board and we need to update it on a daily basis. So aside from our job as agents, taking calls during our shifts, we also have 4 hours OT everyday for the daily updates.
Now this is the things, our mentor is gay and that he's the one who conceptualizes things and plans the decorations and tell us what to do and what not. Yesterday, while we were finishing the decoration, my mentor called my colleague by her name..she replied in a loud angry voice asking " what is it?", we all looked at her and my mentor asked why does she have to be mad, she then replied " because youre always telling me what to do?"
We were all shock. They talked after that and i learned that she told our mentor that she is not tired of the overtime but she is tired of him ordering her around all the time.
I mean, i know its not part of her job here in the company and being a part of the committee is a priviledge already, but then, if it wasnt for our mentor, she wouldnt be where she is right now. In fact, she felt like she is indespensible already. if theres one person thats indespensible in the team is our mentor, not her, not even me.
our mentor hasnt come up with what to do with her and that he still needs to talk to the administrative assistance who handles us about it.
I dont like what she said and i dont know why she did it. but what i know, its not right for treating our mentor that way.
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5 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
6 Aug 09
Sounds as if she needs an attitude adjustment. In most jobs, no one is really indispensable but some do think they are. Some may be harder to replace but not impossible. Now days where jobs are so difficult to come by, she would be really wise to think twice before angering someone who could show her the door.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
exactly! she thinks shes indespensable..so to speak. our friend even told her that because shes been blabbering about shes tired and that our mentor keeps ordering her around and that she doesnt need OT, and that she live without overtime. Our friend really told that she can ask for a break since she think shes not that indespensible if shes gone..we can really do things even if shes not around.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
13 Aug 09
Hello daryljane,
I am not sure what am I supposed to say here but I do feel that your friend was a bit rude with her reply. I know she might be tired of being ordered to do this and that but she can't simply being rude to her mentor like that. She might not be satisfied with him and she has many other proper ways to solve the matter. At least she didn't have to shout back at him when he asked something.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
thats what everyone thought. Its really rude. Right now, our mentor is working on getting even. Since she's back on the team, she know what she did so whatever our mentors asks her to, shes a very tame cat doing everything to please him.
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@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
5 Aug 09
You are quite right of course. There is a good chance that there is more to her problem than him telling her what to do. She may have either something against him personally or the fact he is gay and she can't get around that.
How often would we treat our boss that way. Not for long. Of course he is not her boss. But he is there for a reason. He is there to instruct and the powers to be know he can provide the needed training. When you have a mentor you are fortunate. You spend a whole lot less time learning what you need to know. But you must appreciate the fact they are there to each and not take their demands personal.
Something else going on here. If you can take her aside and talk with her before she really gets in trouble.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
Thats what i told my mentor, theres more to it than what shes telling him. and thats what our other friends said. Were planning of talking to her soon before its too late and that our mentor might decide to remove her from the team.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Aug 09
hi daryljane I would bet she is not just ungrateful but
she has a phobia against gays. that is really sad, and
in this dreadful economy with so many unable to find jobs
she should get down on her knees and thank the living
god that she has a job, and thank
God for all the nice peole she works with.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
You know, when some of the other agents found out about what she did/said, they felt sorry for our mentor..for being good and thats all her gets from her. A lot of other agents spend time taking calls just to have overtime while we hang around making decorations..its more draining taking calls then doing what were doing and gets to file OT unlimited! They said that if they were to be a part of the our team, they would be like dog following around just to have this priviledge but she just throw it away.
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
6 Aug 09
Hello my friend, you know it's hard to judge someones attitude or unusual habit. If the girl usually not like she lately did to your mentor then maybe there was something more reasonable why she did it. Remember we can't read someones feeling, we can just notice the external physical behavior but still it depends on the concern how to hide her/his true physical behavior.
I think the best way for me to do is I would first find some inner personal reason why she do it..maybe she's not really feeling well or there was something personal matters that bothers her mind that day that she can't let it out with somebody and she just thrown it to your mentor..I think I should be more considerable first....
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
thats what i told her too..that maybe its more than just saying she tired already, i think theres more to it. Something personal. Sometimes we usually comes up with conclusion that she wanted to be the mentor already and starts ordering people around what to do and what not. We are all after pleasing out manager on the decorations and other stuff, so its important that everybody cooperates. but then, if she wants to be the leader already, she has to gain it, she needs to come up with better comcept for the decor and more of that. but she doesnt have that talent. so where does she go from there.
