Why do children confide more in their mom than dad?

@suchi60 (912)
India
August 6, 2009 2:30am CST
I think tis is a universal view when it comes to family. I see that children and girlsin particular, confide in their mother than their father. Are fathers that bad to elicit such treatment?
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• Romania
6 Aug 09
No it's just that mothers spend more time with the child even in his or hers first minutes of life, usualy the father is mostly away to work to support the family. This is since the beginning of mankind, fathers away hunting while mothers taking care of the youngsters and the homeplace.
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• China
6 Aug 09
You are right.children like their mum when their young,but when they are older,it's hard to say.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
6 Aug 09
You have a valid point here, but what about fathers who take care of their children while their mothers go to work? I don't see this rule completely true in this case.
• Romania
6 Aug 09
Ok there's a point and let me drag the real rule... kids are more near to the parent that spends more time with them.. mostly it's the mother but there are other cases as you said that the fathers (or it can be grandparents too or even neighbours) is mostly with the children.
• India
6 Aug 09
Basically mom is good listener than dad. She is also available more at home than the dad so children get to express more to their mothers. But i have seen some dads who listen patiently to their children than their mothers. As the saying goes a girl's best friend is her mother. So she feels safe when she confides in her mother. This has nothing to do with fathers being bad. Happy mylotting.
@radx682 (327)
• India
6 Aug 09
I agree with you...for a girl she may have a lot of things to ask her mom and for every gal Mom is her first and best friend...Mom is more approachable than Dad...but I have seem many of my friends' Dads very friendly and open...
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
6 Aug 09
Hello friend, Nah,kids feels more confident with mothers due to the closeness,i mean,dad's were always not at home due to works.While mom's always stays home with them,and mothers were too sensitive to feel what their kids wants and what their kids feels.
6 Aug 09
I think it has a lot to do with what role fathers play in the home also. In my home i am the "serious" one, the comforter, i feed her, cloth her, bath her etc and generally take care of my daughter, wheras her father is the "fun" one, playing games, messing around and just generally doing the stuff kids enjoy. I think this makes it more likely for my daughter to confide in me when she is older as she may feel her father isnt the right one to go to.
@zazagugu (81)
• China
6 Aug 09
Of course.Children always have a lot of time with their mum,and have less time with their dad,and mum is more kind than dad,so that the reason why children like dad than mun,i think.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
6 Aug 09
Hmm, so what you're trying to say is that moms love their children more than dads do. I'll beg to differ on tis view, but you have a point when you say that moms express their love more openly than dads, which could explain this state.