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I haven't encounetered a response like that and hopefully I won't get any in the future.Though you're right that in a discussion it's really better if there are the pro's and con's otherwise you will never know that the discussion is really interesting without these pro's and con's. The comment you just received isn't the kind of comment that a good mylotter send.I'd say that the attitutse of the one who sent you that is not the kind of attitude that fits here in mylot. Mylot is a site wherein everybodys' opinion is accepted and so the members should be open-minded to understand all the discussion whether the member agrees or disagrees. Such rudeness should not be tolerated by anyone. You have every right to get mad there.

Oh Have had a couple of responces that I might not like and hurt for a few till I thought ok thats their opinion and then I find others have took it up to do battle so I let them all have their say ! I figure only way to do it and then there is no hurt really on any side for all have given thier opinion on it. and If ya dont like what happened I would say stick with your friends!

Hateful written responses like that easily make my BP go up, so you are not alone. When I see (or receive) something like that, I usually have to go do something else for a while. Otherwise, I am apt to make a reply that would probably get deleted. Unfortunately, there are those who like nothing better than to stir up a heap of trouble. They can be inflamatory, rude, or anything it takes to get a volley of anger going. The best way to handle them is with the silence of not responding. It works with children's tempertantrums just like it would work with rudy adults.

[b][/b]Not yet so far, before I entered into a discussion and read first all the response, and if the host is a not so nice guy I'll just move on to another topic. I don't want to ruin my day because of a sarcastic remark.

Hi, Zandi. You are right. I have also faced such a situation here at mylot. I was discussing on a topic, and the person straightaway said to me you are wrong without even giving his reasons for it. I have even noticed people using abusive language sometimes. This kind of arrogant and sarcastic attitudes are certainly not from the most sincere ones. Those who are here just to make money, and don`t know anything about what a real discussion is respond in this fashion. I have stopped responding to such people`s discussions. But, i thing just to respond on your friends` discussions is not the wisest of the decisions. I think you should reconsider and try other good discussions also, that is the way you will get much nobler, sincere and intelligent people in your friends list. Happy Mylotting!!

I havent experience it yet though if someone would respond like that to me... I will make sure I wont respond to any of his/her discussions anymore.... I mean ita call discussion because it can caryy alot of opinions...

I quote from a discussion yesterday: "This is the first time I have ever seen you be so sarcastic." You may not like my (discussions) but others do. ( This was a response to me pointing out that the discussion was a violation of guidelines and I did not want the user to get deleted). Yes, I get annoyed. Zandi, you seem smooth and calm, not spiky tongued to me.

I hate it when people do that to me. I just delete what they have to say and do not even mess with them anymore if they want to be rude to me like that. It makes me so mad also when it happens.

hi zande we should all be kind to each other, and respect each others opinions, but some are rude and downright mean. I when I first came to mylot expected to be treated as I wou ld treat them, but when I tried to put forth my opinions on the health risks of smoking, I got some really sarcastic and mean responses such as you are just an old hag who should mind her own business, that one went to mylot and was deleted, and I was in tears. I was respectful and did not disrespect any smoker, all I did was tell what I thought was the truth. we should r espect each other even if we do not agree,these are discussions and are bound to bring different opinions but they should never be unkind and rude.I am a senior citizen but I am not an old hag at all. i

I have had a couple of these but I just hit the delete and in fact I don't even remember what they said, just that is got my attention.

Be careful ,,remember the song,,Don't worry be Happy,,

Hi zandi, Bah ... just forget about it. Just like in the offline world, we heard that at one time or another. Some people just didn't know how to appreciate things. And I'm not surprise if they act like that offline. If she doesn't want hear a different ideas, she shouldn't be here. Maybe she doesn't know the meaning of discussion. For her, there is one answer for everything and the answer is their answer. No no. So far I didn't receive any response like that. But, if I have one, I will answer it "Yes .. I do". See what else she want to say. Sabar jak bah.

Hello friend, It was almost the same with my experience.I responded a topic accordingly to what i feel and about my personal views.And then,the topic header responded " you are arrogant" i was hurt and shocked when i read it.I been reading again and again my responce and wonder how i become arrogant,when i never ever use any bad words.I responded and say sorry if that what he feels to my responce,and i ask him how i become arrogant when i can't find any bad words and i never use any bad words. It was a real hard time for me since then,i was too careful when responding discussion.

I have had a few experiences where i either got responses to a discussion i started, or responses back from a response i had given that kind of felt like an attack and made me a little upset, but i always take the high road and either just ignore it, or respond that whie each of us are entitled to our own opinions, we don't have to agree with everyone else. I expect people to not always agree with my point of veiw. If everyone thought the same way, the world would be a really boring place now woudln't it? But the times that it really irks me is when people are asking you for your opinions or ideas on a subject, you give them, then they come back at you telling you that you are wrong, and in so many words, stupid, for thinking the way you do. If you arn't going to at least thoughtfuly consider other peoples opinions and ideas, why ask for them in the first place? Even when i disagree with what a repsponder has to say, i give a reply that says so nicely (eg: I can see why some people might feel this way, and you have given some very good reasons for why you feel this way, but i still feel that....etc..) I guess there are just some people out there who are only happy when they are making others miserable.

Yes I have not to long ago either. I put a end to it though I told the person this is chilish I am finshed with this conversation over books. It was also a person that is not on my friends list. It upset me but I figured I would let the argument stop. I mean the other person pretty much cussed me out and had a friend that helped him out.

Hi Zandi! Your discussion reveals that you were shaken badly with that uncalled for comment, which shows discourtesy on the respondent's part. I always believe that Users need to be polite and humble, while expressing themselves. I never write rude comments and always try my best not to hurt anybody's sentiments. However, I've also received some nasty comments in few of my discussions and I was taken aback because I do not post in such a way so as to offend anybody. One of my very old discussions was titled 'If I happen to come and see you at your place, what would be your reaction'?. To my pleasant surprise, all the friends/respondents wrote very positive and wonderful responses, however, one of the respondents wrote - "If you come to see me I'll immediately call the Police". Zandi, I was so shocked to read the comment that I cannot describe in words. I immediately wrote back that - "without knowing about me, you should not make such comments about me." She did not post counter-comment and I ultimately removed her from my list of friends.

Oh, yes. People often respond rudely, if your response doesn't fit with their opinion, or with the way they WANT the responses to be. I have found this to happen often on MyLot. But, if you just offered a comment regarding information in her discussions, there should have been no reason for her to be rude to you. I always think any response to my discussion is great. I may not agree, or like it, but hey, I put the discussion out there for responses and got some! I certainly hope you don't ever experience that rudeness again!

I also have run across the rudness of certian people. One has even returned with a new ID. To further insult me. I just dont understand how mylots can allow these people to remain here. I report them. But it seems like they are unstopable. How can somebody that has never seen you insult your appearence? It seems there is something wrong with those kind of people mentally. The ones with such an ugly attitude.

Yes Zandi I don't know why some people could do offending remarks and not thinking what if others would do the same to them. I remember someone commented to my response to a discussion where A woman is not yet ready of having a baby but the man is trying to do something in order to have one, my response is "there's no such thing as not yet ready as long as they both agreed upon, someone but in to the discussion and commented "To what part of the world did you come from to say that there's no such thing as not yet ready... maybe you're one of those who sided those who are playing trick to another...something like this...I just replied. am sorry I don't want to have a quarrel with you. My response is clear there's no such thing as not yet ready if agreed upon by both parties, besides the one who supposed to react was the one who started the discussion as am commenting to her topic. No matter how friendly you are and how cool headed when you read such offending comments sometimes you would really lose your temper.

Hi zands, That you would be attacked by an invisible hand is quite predictable. I know where the rotten fish lies. Its my appeal to you to overlook such comment as I too have encountered such things. There is a huge difference in the thinking of the native speakers of the language and non native users. When they see that you are better off with the Language they become sort of envious and try to find fault with your kinds. so my good friend forget about all these racial thing and go ahead with your command.