Before you say "I DO "

personally that is the good part about any relationship finding out about the person as you go. If you dont get married for a few years you should be able to work out what type of person he or she is. Hence why its always a good idea to live with someone first, I personally think that people change and what right does anyone have to find out what has gone on in someones past. I cn unerstand it from a safety point of view but also are you the same person as you were at school or in ya teens etc I know I am not the same person that I was when I was 20.

yeah i absolutely agree about this one, its good to know a person who want to spend your life with, and we all know that being together is the only way to find out but for those background its time for you to be like a policeman who loves to investigate, that's why friendship is the most foundation of all relationship.

Checks are necessary because you do not want to be 'trapped' in marriage with a criminal or child molester. Don't be desperate to get married just because of social pressure.

Very true. It has to be like this when you need to spend the rest of your life with the person you love, then know the background or his family. If he or she does not show or hide something, that will be sounding suspicious right? I did not rush to get married. I waited for the right person, right time and we needed to know each other well. I really make sure that the person i married was really a bachelor, and not having a family or married another person. I also make sure that I spoke with his parents because we are into a long distance relationship that time. My bf now hubby also met my folks back home so he knew my family, and that I am really single too. Even before we got married, I processed my papers needed to show that my status is single and we also went to get a paper from an attorney to attest likewise that hubby is also a single bachelor and is liable to get married to me.

i think you/we will know when to say I DO . .

If you're unknowingly in love with a "serial killer" then it's time you deal with life's surprises. I wouldn't bother investigating as it would just taint the foundation of our relationship. If you're in love, enjoy and continue growing it, deal with whatever consequences that may arise from it later. If one has his/her dark secrets but you end-up being together happily ever after, you can say the magic of love changed everything along the way.

my husband and I before we even married told each other all about ourselves, my husband had been in trouble as a teen, spent a year in prison, grew up to become a wonderful person, but he told me all this himself, and I told him about my family about my dad molesting me as an eight year old little kid. we didnt have to investigate each other as we were both honest and open, and we met each others parents too.

Well,time can change a person and things will be totally different when we meet old friends. Intimate relationship needs trust.However,knowing one's background can secure us to keep away from danger.Carefuiness and sincere will help us choose the right one.