Dead Beat Dad Strikes AGAIN - - - - STOP HAVING KIDS!!!!!!!(Just a RANT)

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I'm pissed. More than pissed. Make a long story short - my son (turning 6 in September) My ex - spend 4 1/2 years ignoring my son - only show up on Christmas Day - always late on child support. Finally started with supervised visitation that gradually progressed in length until allowed every other weekend which started a couple months ago. Before my son started going 2 visit his dad for a full weekend I checked out his "new place". (he's been in and out of rehabs and halfway houses the entire time). The man is 33 years old and this is his first apartment a few months ago - shared no less than with his girlfriend of 6 months that he met at NA!!!!!!! (narcotics anon.) Well, the place was....gross - in my eyes but in the eyes of the court - fine. Shortly after he and this "woman" started dating - she's pregnant....miscarriage happens. Then I find out that she is pregnant AGAIN. How do I find out? My 5 year old comes home and tells me. Forget the fact that this should not be the business of a 5 year old when the pregnancy is SO early.... Anyways -they planned this!!!! Both pregnancies!!! PLANNED!!! She doesn't work. He makes $8/an hour and barely gets 40 hours a week. She has two boys that she lost custody of to their father because she is a drug addict. She gets visitation. When I "inspected" his and her new place - she had one mattress on the floor of bedroom that the boys are to share - for ALL boys to sleep in. - - - never mind that another baby is on the way.... My ex said he was working on getting my son a bed and until then - he showed me an air mattress he bought. FINE. WHATEVER. I asked why she has 2 boys (even with just visitations) does she only have one bed....a mattress(not even a boxspring) on the floor. "Well, she's been working on it...It's hard to buy things for kids when your a single mom"... WTF?!?!?!?! Let me say that again - WTF! I AM A SINGLE MOM. I WORK by a$$ off. I BUYING a nice HOUSE - not a crappy-falling-apart duplex. My kids have their own rooms - they have BEDS - they have more toys than they should really have....I DO EVERYTHING...I'm not rich and there are times I have to go without things I would like - but we make it. Oh, but poor her....GRRRR..."Oh - I feel so bad for you that you are such a loser and decided to pick up a crack pipe" (My inner voice being sarcastic)... The reason for my rant besides the obvious? Fine - they made past *mistakes*....but why make ANOTHER?!??!?!?!?! They can't afford beds for the children she has - they apparently can barely afford to eat - yet they got pregnant ON PURPOSE?!?!? TRASH! Who's gonna buy a crib? Are they even going to have a crib for the baby? What about diapers - what about clothes - what about EVERYTHING else a baby needs? Now, when their happy little crack-head family falls apart and she takes him for child support - my child support (which is very little and I hardly ever see) will be reduced because he now has another child!!!!!!!! How is that fair? He should just get another job! There are many mothers and fathers out there working 2 jobs!!! And who is THAT baby going to go to when the courts find they are both people who should not have custody? The system? Great, so, me - single mom with no real financial help from son's father gets to pay for that baby's formula and crap through MY TAXES and then he gets to have the child support I am owed lowered because he CAN'T STOP HAVING KIDS??!?!?! This is the 3rd woman he has gotten pregnant since my son was worn - the other 2 had abortions and this 3rd woman - this is her 2nd pregnancy with him. So after her - how many more women is his going to get pregnant????? "But he loves her!"...okay great - he can love her all he wants but why have a kid with every woman you think you love????? SHE IS A TERRIBLE MOTHER!!!! I don't care if she did stop doing drugs - she goes and gets pregnant on PURPOSE - twice and she hasn't yet got a bed for each kid she already has - which means she really doesn't care about them I am TIRED of both males and females having babies when they can't afford them. I'm not talking about "accidents" - or landing on "rough times" - I know there are times when people need financial assistance...but living on welfare should be a temp. help - not a career!!!!